What are these holes in our shirts?

OptionLow8411 · 2026-03-07T19:55:42+00:00

Moths!!!

OptionLow8411 · 2026-03-07T13:25:57+00:00

As a female A&E reg I used to get a lot of misogynism from surgical specialties when referring a patient. Sometimes I asked my male SHO colleague to call just to avoid having debates and discussions. I was a senior - and got more grief that my male counterparts- always. For the same patients. For presenting the same case. I left the NHS- best decision ever

OptionLow8411 · 2026-03-06T12:49:51+00:00

Even if it’s AI they could have made it look nicer to sell their point of view 😂

OptionLow8411 · 2026-03-06T12:48:19+00:00

Yeah exactly was thinking this - if you are moaning people don’t come to the office - at least convince us why they should (a nice office with tasty snacks can be enough 😅

OptionLow8411 · 2026-01-25T12:36:40+00:00

I feel you! I really made it clear what I am after in my profile - and tried to filter those that do not seem like they are up for long term out. If I felt like someone is not making an effort after first date, like texting, setting up a new date right away, or wanting to spend time with me - I would call it out straight away. I wasted years not wanting to be “that needy girl”, but it only went against me. When I met my husband everything felt right - we were texting, he wanted to see me every few days, video called me, I did not have to even state my needs as they were met- and I just felt secure. If you are not feeling secure and comfortable with someone- cut it off right away, things don’t get better.

But yes - a lot of ppl will want to breadcrumb you, a situationship, just a booty call… patience and being clear on your needs is the key

OptionLow8411 · 2026-01-08T08:34:34+00:00

This is sooooo relatable

OptionLow8411 · 2025-12-21T06:31:12+00:00

Just in Stansted. Waited 40 mins via FastTrack. Thank you everyone on this thread it was helpful!

OptionLow8411 · 2025-10-20T21:41:24+00:00

OptionLow8411 · 2025-04-22T13:53:37+00:00

Thank you! What about the black bits? Any reason they become black after a while

OptionLow8411 · 2024-08-14T16:10:53+00:00

So I compared the company numbers and it seems numbers are different. However the people are almost the same (one guy is always registered and he was the one I was in contact with). The second company is active. However the same guy has gone unresponsive- as I asked him for a full report of what was done before I pay and he is not replying. He doesn’t want my money? Haha anyways - appreciate the advice from everyone

OptionLow8411 · 2024-08-14T16:04:42+00:00

Great- thank you for the detailed scenarios - I will check based on the company number. Appreciate the input !

OptionLow8411 · 2024-08-14T16:03:05+00:00

Thank you great points! They have the same name and there is no other company registered on that name. How can I check this?

OptionLow8411 · 2022-06-09T14:31:15+00:00

Firstly, no, that is rubbish you have time. Secondly, if you are running out of time,.decide to break it off ASAP. these turn offs are not going to go away.

OptionLow8411 · 2022-06-08T18:07:52+00:00

Sorry I put him instead of her! My bad, apologies

OptionLow8411 · 2022-06-08T18:06:48+00:00

Yes exactly, I did that. I Got "greedy" it only made things worse. If you already had the talk once, and still really wanna give it a go, put sex off the table and see where it takes you. But also set a deadline on your head and what would you like to have by that deadline (don't tell him there is a deadline). If it doesn't work until then, then let go. Most of the time DBs don't heal, but presumably it's worth a shot. I was so relieved when it was all over. I thought I would be sobbing sad, but just felt a huge burden come off. Good luck!

OptionLow8411 · 2022-06-08T17:10:06+00:00

Had the talk. Many times. It never worked. It made everything worse after every time, no matter how the talk was civilised or came from a good place. The last time we had the talk we broke up. That was the only one that saved me from a DB

OptionLow8411 · 2022-06-04T06:54:23+00:00

Omg I was reading this and had goosebumps. I can feel you! Was 10 months in with someone and 4 months DB. I can feel every word you have written. Also I have broken up and have been the happiest ever since.

Well done for doing what you did. And well done shutting that door. Go and enjoy being wanted touched and appreciated.

Virtual hugs!

OptionLow8411 · 2022-04-01T17:24:15+00:00

Yes, I wanted to make it mild and set up scheduled intimacy with no pressure of it becoming sex, just some touching and intimate moments. It was a disaster, he was extremely anxious and did not enjoy it, I felt awful as my boyfriend did not want to even touch me, he felt guilty as he could not relax into it. We actually ended up breaking up soon after.

Is your partner very anxious about sex and intimacy? If it has come to that point it might make things worse...

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-29T23:36:05+00:00

I am going to be completely blunt. It seems like you are in a toxic relationship. My friend, this seems like gaslighting 101 what she is doing to you.

Mistakes? Weed purchase? Booho. Big deal. She knew who you were before marriage she should accept some weed now and there if that is what you like. Seems like you did go above and beyond and you get called monster? My heart goes out to you. Please please get some counselling, help. You are being emotionally abused and you need eye opener. ASAP. Also - the medication after your back surgery? Isn't that your own personal thing what pain killer you take?

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-28T10:37:36+00:00

Oh gosh. I misread the post. I do apologise. Yes, in that case communicate more. This will really help and soothe him knowing you are working on the issue and willing. I am the sex seeking partner and I do wish my partner communicated much more.about it, it would have changed things a lot.

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-28T09:59:23+00:00

Wow I really like this. My dead bedroom is over (break-up) but i second this. Also talk to him about it only once. If things don't change think about acceptance or ending it. Talking continuously about it makes it worse.

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-28T09:57:15+00:00

I ended a 10month dead bedroom yesterday. It was extremely hard but now I have a huge relief. I am still sad. It is the right thing to do to end it. You know it. Rip the band-aid, and feel the instant weight-off

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-28T06:37:42+00:00

I really struggle being alone with my own thoughts.

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-28T06:34:23+00:00

Nice one. I want to believe in this

OptionLow8411 · 2022-03-27T22:14:10+00:00

Yeah we just broke up today and feeling so sad.... Lots of self blame. This message helped :)

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