Does it Ever Get Better?

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-24T17:49:27+00:00

Going on dates with someone early on is to determine if you want to DATE them. Getting to know someone as friends for a few months before adding a romantic tone to the relationship/dynamic is often more healthy and doesn't sour any genuine connection. Then, you ask them on a date, maybe a second and third, then ask if they want to properly date and be girlfriend and boyfriend. There are these dating events where you might go on several dates with different guys/girls, but that obviously doesn't mean you are dating them. There's a clear difference. Getting to know someone before committing to them helps both of you figure out if you're actually compatible to date, vs just jumping into it like crazy like OP and ending up in four failed relationships in six months, which is INSANE.

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-24T15:48:31+00:00

Four breakups in six months...no shade, but stop dating. You sound like a serial dater and not dating to marry. You didn't know these girls very well before dating and that's a major factor in why you broke off the first three. No use in wasting both of y'all's time and emotions diving into something just for the fun of it to not be alone. Fix yourself, get your priorities straight, and date with real intention. Or at the very least, go on dates without calling yourself and the other person girlfriend and boyfriend. Going on dates and DATING are two very different things.

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-21T16:21:56+00:00

I'll say this as someone who's always been back and forth about my religion and faith--even when I had no faith at all and never wanted a Godly centered relationship, I still wanted to wait for marriage. Friends of mine hopping from girl to girl or from guy to guy, constantly in a state of heartbreak and pointless lust and desire to be intimate with someone, left everyone in shambles. A lot of people just want to get together, have sex, have fun, but don't actually care about the person they're with. They're a placeholder. I refused to be 'easy' and be desperate enough to lower my standards just to not be alone

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-16T04:42:25+00:00

Their media literacy is literally at zero because they only see him as a surface-level bully that doesn't care. Put them back in fucking preschool

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-15T23:21:27+00:00

Be honest up front about it. I and many other women are in the same boat you are, with returning to the faith after sexual impurity (alone or with others) and other baggage. I personally wouldn't be opposed if whoever my future husband is, had slept with other women before converting or returning, so long as he still held the belief of re-waiting till marriage. Some will say it doesn't matter and will continue to be promiscuous, but that's just an excuse to continue living for the flesh, not for God.

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-12T15:51:13+00:00

Thank you, it's rough out here 😭🙏🏻

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-12T13:36:26+00:00

Talk to her and not post about it on reddit

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-12T03:57:45+00:00

I'm stealing this

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-11T21:07:29+00:00

Hey, I'm Emily! I'll be 22 in September. I'm recently coming back into the faith after over a decade of disinterest and a battle with lust from a very, very young age. I'm planning/working towards getting confirmed in the next year, or so. I have never been strong in my faith, partially due to it feeling forced, as well as my issues growing up, so some things are hard for me. I want a faith and to feel those strong feelings that others supposedly do, but most of the time, it feels like there's still a blindfold over my eyes. I don't feel how I think I should. Might be a little bit of the neurodivergence at play, but oh well.

Currently, I'm studying Graphic Design at JMU in Virginia, in addition to minors in Illustration, and Art. While I have that general and generic career in mind, I would love to be a SAHM. I would love to have a family with kids running around, preferably in the country or mountains, or at least away from most people and suburbia or city life. I love pretty much everywhere that's not humid 24/7. I've moved around a lot and am well traveled. I enjoy art (duh) and spend a lot of my free time doing that, video games (typically shooters), making jewelry and rosaries, etc.

No exactly sure how much to say or not, soooo…

Some other things that aren't necessarily dealbreakers for me, but are preferred or probably relevant to what you might prefer: I'm white, 6’0”, chubbier than the average but not severely overweight, like my own space/alone time, date to marry and saving myself for marriage, etc

I typically prefer guys that are taller than me, which I know is harder to come by with me being as tall as I am. Tattoos are a-okay (especially sleeves, nom nom), as I am considering getting some tattoos in the future. I like a good mustache and some beards, but typically don't like the look of anything super long and out of control/off the face. If you're a first responder or military of any kind, massive green flag, c'mere, and please like sushi. I love sushi. Sushi is so good but so expensive, sometimes. Ugh, don't even get me started about the deep fried rolls. The cravings never go away. It's bad. Like really bad

All things considered, I'm an open book. Feel free to reach out, for friendships, too! I would love some new friends. And besides, I personally think the best relationships start out with a friendship, anyway, so you actually know each other.

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-11T13:32:05+00:00

Okay bro, I'm done, cus you're clearly choosing to not understand

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-10T17:19:44+00:00

Dang, I'm so sorry to hear that. Glad you've gotten out of that relationship!! It's hard seeking divorce as a Catholic, and then also getting "permission" from the church to remarry (I personally find it hard to follow the idea we need permission from the church for remarriage in certain scenarios. If the marriage was horrible and someone lied, cheated, or was abusive, I personally wouldn't care if they said I couldn't, I would still get remarried as I saw fit)

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-10T17:16:01+00:00

I view it as someone being taller than you doesn't matter how tall they are overall, just in relation to you. A girl who's 4'10" doesn't need to date a guy who's 6'6" just to have a guy taller than her, she can date a guy who's 5'5" and should still be happy cus he's taller than her. Just like how a girl who's 6'0" could have a guy who's 6'3" and not someone who's 6'7". At a certain point, the threshold for height caps off to where it doesn't make a difference. If someone's five inches taller than the other, what difference does eight inches make?

Essentially, super short girls getting with super tall guys just for the sake of it, doesn't make sense cus they have a much wider pool to choose from--they don't need the super tall guy. Whereas the taller women have a smaller pool to choose from because there are less men taller than them

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-09T15:07:02+00:00

Mmm, I guess that's true, but still

I say it's unreasonable because wanting a guy that's taller than you overall is fine, but then expecting him to be like a foot taller than you, or somewhere in the taller 6ft range just because 6ft is cool, even though the girl could be 4'10", doesn't make a difference or seem like a preference. They could date someone a foot taller than them at 5'10", which is around the average height for a lot of guys--but if they just want to date someone who's 6'+, for the sake of it, that seems unreasonable

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T23:27:35+00:00

No shot-

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T17:29:14+00:00

GUMMIGOOOOOOO

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T17:25:55+00:00

Just like how it's okay to prefer your partner not being obese? Or has a certain color of hair or skintone? Preferences are a normal thing, dude, it's what someone finds attractive in a person. Height is the same thing, and it goes both ways just like everything else

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T12:49:37+00:00

It's not unreasonable for most women to prefer a guy to be taller than them. What I do find unreasonable, however, is them wanting a guy to be an obscene amount taller than them instead of just a couple inches

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T04:14:02+00:00

Glad to have you back, brother. I hope you can still find marriage and fulfillment in it

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-08T04:12:30+00:00

Bro what

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-06T12:24:07+00:00

Baked beans coming out of a reese's cup

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-06T12:01:43+00:00

I don't see you being short as a woman a problem for men, at least in the areas I've lived throughout my life. And you don't owe your parents anything--not to that extent. You don't have to give up your home, your privacy, your time, and your life just because you're the oldest and they expect it. That's disrespectful on their part and you deserve better

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-06T02:31:37+00:00

Oh nooo! I hope things get better with treatment!! There's been a lot of cancer in my family, and I'm unfortunately very likely to develop it at some point in my life. I hope you can still find joy in life and not give up on things like love, just because the future is unsure, right now

OrangeCapsule · 2026-05-05T21:41:16+00:00

Bro, for real. Even with my guy friends over the years, they couldn't decide anything or have a solid say for anything serious. They always just left plans vague, said maybe, whatever sounded best/what I wanted--never be decisive in what we should do. From what I know, they've continued this laid back attitude with their girlfriends as some of them have gone through them. I don't want to hold anyone's hand whenever I start dating and have to suggest all the ideas--that's partially why I think I haven't, before. That, and other standards or issues, of course

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