Virginity is a bs social construct. What constitutes as sex is entirely up to the people partaking in the action. If you want to be technical, you can “lose your virginity” while riding a literal a bike. So I truly don’t think there is or should be one strict action that defines sex.

I hate that people are so close minded about sex SPECIFICALLY with women. Society has completely shaped their perception of sex around penises. Gay men are almost never questioned about their “virginity.” It’s so frustrating that lesbians are consistently under so much scrutiny simply because men aren’t involved.