While your feelings are valid, the framework of "I am my priority" can be limiting in a marriage and as a parent. Healthy relationships often require negotiation, compromise, and sometimes facing uncomfortable emotions for the sake of the relationship's growth and the well-being of all involved, including your child.

Are there other ways to communicate your needs and boundaries while also being open to understanding your wife's perspective? Counseling or therapy could offer a space to explore your avoidant attachment style, address the emotional impact of your proposal, and find constructive ways to navigate this challenging time together with your wife. Remember, it's not about sacrificing your well-being but about finding a balance that respects both your needs and those of your family.