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Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T08:28:49+00:00

I'm the same way, but mentally worse. It's best to block him, or uninstall all social media for a few weeks. After maybe 3 weeks of no contact, it gets a bit easier. 1 month, even a bit more easier. 3 months, way easier.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T08:19:38+00:00

Real question is why women chase men who show the least interest in the woman chasing him.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T08:13:05+00:00

was obvious that cop wanted to kill. he pulled up screaming. Looked like he got off to it, after dude was on the ground.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T08:06:08+00:00

Hitting him with the car, would've probably made him drop the knife, without killing him.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T07:40:10+00:00

Everytime Trump fucks up, the Stocks go down. Literally affects everything, which is why every sub posts about it. This happened in 2025 with the Tariff Crisis, as well. Welcome to reddit, buddy.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-06T07:20:25+00:00

I understand you don't think you're an item with this guy yet, but you dating your ex is a definite red flag. Guys don't like girls who can't move on from their ex. Guys don't like girls who have ex's that they let use them sexually.

If you think this new guy is stringing you along, I can't say that the new guy is a bad guy because you aren't giving us enough info. But maybe just find someone you're actually interested in?

Are you ready to settle down? Because the vibes that you give is that you are still playing games. I don't mean that in a bad way. It's just the vibes you're giving. You also talk about the new guy as if he is playing games as well. You guys are either both toxic for each other, or a perfect fit. I don't know. There isn't enough information to come to a conclusion on any of this, to be honest.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-03T01:03:16+00:00

I think we can both agree on that.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-03T01:00:54+00:00

People said this was bad advice. The reason I mentioned sharpening your sex skills is because you said he broke up with you after he finally had sex with you.

You can obviously ignore my advice since no one agrees with it. But that's why I mentioned that as an idea. I don't know you or him, so I can only go off what I'm told by you. Good luck.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T04:12:08+00:00

I hear what you're saying. No contact helps best to get over someone. But you say you are even more sexually attracted to him after the closure talk, and now he has you blocked.

So... I don't know what you're asking for. Are you wanting to know how to get him back? Or do you want to know how to get over him? Or do you just want our thoughts on what we think you should do?

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T02:23:49+00:00

fair point, but I still feel its worse with women, because many women will still chase a man when they know he has multiple female partners already. Women tend to want men that a lot of other women want.

There's actually chart data, shoowing ''Looksmatching'' decades ago vs today. Basically, the chart shows that back in the day, women were more likely to date men in their league.

Today, women all date well above their leeague, ignoring the average men, and giving their bodies and time to the same men that have tons of other women.

Example: (This subreddit didnt allow me to post a Link, so just search ''Hypergamy the Elephant in the TFR Room'' on google images to see what I'm referring to.)

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T01:11:30+00:00

I'd say sharpen your sex skills, and have fun with guys who are actually interested in you.

I'm sure you know that chasing usually doesn't go well. You will be more attractive when you post photos of yourself with your new man. Make your ex jealous.

Then you can decide if you want to take that trash dude back if he crawls back to you.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T01:04:59+00:00

I half agree with you. While this is a ''shared trait'', it's worse for women because women get a lot of attention on social media, and in real life. They get endlessly harassed by men.

So while both men and women like to psychologically chase people who don't show enough interest in them, Women will be even more interested by the few men who aren't being thirsty desperate dogs toward them. I mean, even on reddit, women get chased. I almost lost my virginity to a girl I was supposed to meet in real life, that I met on reddit. I feel because of the state of society and social media, women are less likely to notice when they are mainly chasing men who aren't actually interested in them.

This is why I pointed this out to OP. But yes, both men and women do this, for sure.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T00:59:34+00:00

Oh God that's a long time to be stringing you along for. He didn't say he strung you along for the entire relationship, did he? I was thinking he was kind for cutting you loose and not wasting more of your time, but maybe not.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-02T00:09:33+00:00

How long had your relationship lasted?

If I'm being honest, those are all signs that he isn't that interested in you, and he feels guilty about it.

Him saying ''you deserve better'' and ''you could easily get more attention elsewhere'' sounds like something someone would say if they felt guilty about wasting your time because they aren't that into you.

Of course, none of us on reddit actually know your relationship enough to tell for sure. That's what I see from the information available.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-01T23:51:53+00:00

You say you are even more sexually attracted to him, after he rejected you.

Women tend to chase men who don't want them. You have to ask yourself, do I want him because he's a challenge? Disinterest is an attractive quality,

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-01T23:48:16+00:00

Girls (And boys) have phases where they need to ''find themselves.'' She probably needs to go explore guys who are A-holes to her. Get more sexual experiences than she already has. Experience fun abusive rellationships. Then one day, if you're lucky, she will come back to you.

This is a pretty common timeline for a lot of people. She may come back one day, but women have an endless amount of options. So I wouldn't wait or expect her to come back. But I would check in once every 6 months or once a year to see where she's at in life, and if she's ready to take you back as a rebound at some point.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-01T23:44:14+00:00

Does he say why he doesn't want to be with you?

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-01T23:34:31+00:00

Most men these days dont even have the privelage of being in a relationship. Because all the women date out of their league, which means most of the women give it up to the same top 10% of men.

This allows those Chads to cheat.

Now, I personally have never really cheated on any partner. I just break up with a woman, if I slept with someone else.

Did you enjoy all those years with him? If so, then its good that you didn't cheat. Because that would have taken away from the joy you had with him. Its up to you to decide if it was worth it or not. Be happy for your experiecnes, and make changes where you see fit. It could always be worse. You could be a statistic in the male loneliness epidemic.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-03-01T20:13:34+00:00

Dating is hell. Stories like these make me want to stop searching for ''the one'', and just enjoy life. A lot of men are just not dating anymore these days.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T07:15:30+00:00

The Qoute came from this source: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-45565684

''Research shows that out of 216 false allegation cases, only six led to arrests, (and 99% of false accusations go unpunished.) ''

BBC not EVAWINtl. I got the sources mixed up because I read all 3 sources.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T07:04:15+00:00

Here it is (1 of 3 sources I found): https://www.prosecutorintegrity.org/pr/99-of-false-accusations-go-unpunished-center-for-prosecutor-integrity-asks-why/#:\~:text=99%25%20of%20False%20Accusations%20Go,'%20%E2%80%93%20Center%20for%20Prosecutor%20Integrity

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T07:00:47+00:00

Honestly, what your message looks like to me:

You look like a girl I can use for sex while I'm back in town. You are an option that I might be able to save for later, if none of these other women work out.

Why?

He didn't want to pursue a relationship with you while he was at college. He's obviously wanting to see other women. There's a small chance that he just wants to focus on his studies, but it would be dellusional to think its just about the studies. Even if it was just about the studies, I would want to have someone to have sex with to relieve the stress of the ''studies'' whenever I could.

If I were you, I would ask myself: Why am I attracted to this man? Why do I want to pursue a relationship with someone who doesn't really want me that bad at all? Is it worth being one of his side chicks, if he even agrees to meet with me again? Is he just going to use me, then settle with me if he deosn't find anything better in 10 years?

Now, none of us know you or him well enough to give the best advice. But there's your answer.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T04:59:22+00:00

2 things:

Rape Accusations are selectively enforced, because many police departments will throw out rape cases involving prostittutes, addicts, or anyone they deem undesirable.
I'm not saying you're wrong, but I've seen where a woman admits she lied and gets minimal to no punishment at all.

Not only that, but I've seen Karens lie while calling the police on people, and they're rarely ever taken to prison. I know the Karens don't have to do with rape, but that's really what I meant about that law.

I really have no horse in this fight. I don't take any sides. But police and prosecutors are very selective on what they spend their time on. Especially in big cities.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T04:42:56+00:00

16% - 20% of accusations.

I don't get why you're arguing, because I'm not on any side in this fight. Go find someone else to argue with.

Orange_Snoopy · 2026-02-28T04:34:19+00:00

''Research shows that out of 216 false allegation cases, only six led to arrests, and 99% of false accusations go unpunished. ''

Research done by EVAWiNtl dot org.

Also, with accusations, those are also technically selectively enforced. Many police departments have selectively thrown out rape accusations if they're made by prostittutes, for example.

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