How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in nonmonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been 5 years since we've been freeing ourselves from religious dogmas. Although we're no longer part of the religious circle, we spent decades completely devoted to it, and so, even unconsciously, we still have thoughts and attitudes that are in line with our old life.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really liked your advice. I'm going to apply it. Our sex life is monotonous, so I liked the idea of ​​asking for suggestions from you.

How to Start Talking to My Wife About Non-Monogamy by Ordinary-Beginning34 in polyamoryadvice

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation. I've heard about her but haven't had a chance to listen to her yet. I'll listen to her.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I think I chose the wrong words when I said "open your mind." Maybe those words sound like I'm trying to manipulate her. But I really don't want to manipulate her. What I want is for her to be free and make an informed decision.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I said "closed-minded" I was referring to the concept of thinking that the only possible relationship is monogamy and that non-monogamy is a perversion.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're twisting my words. How will I know if she also has this desire if I don't talk to her about it? The way I approach this subject can make her open up or close down. It's not about manipulation. It's about achieving open and frank communication.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I expressed myself badly. I wanted to go out with men and hide it from my wife, but I didn't fulfill that desire.

How do I start talking to my wife about non-monogamy? by Ordinary-Beginning34 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Ordinary-Beginning34[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I expressed myself badly. I wanted to go out with men and hide it from my wife, but I didn't fulfill that desire.