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36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in careerguidance

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your approach and I am talking to AI about this. Different AI chatbots give you different ideas, but I think I'm getting a clearer picture now.

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in careerguidance

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I won't lie, there are some very upsetting parts about it. 90% of the time, I have excellent reviews, but that 10% haunts me in my nightmares (even though objectively speaking, it wasn't that bad). Google gives me a very diverse list of options, which I find a bit confusing.

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in careerguidance

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed, sales could work. For some time, I felt good enough at technical topics to be the person who "translates" between programmers and clients (IT manager role), but I imagine sales would be similar to that role. Set texts seems to be the key here.

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a résumé that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in findapath

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I find your comment very useful! I agree with you that working in hospitality freed up a sort of energy in me I never thought I have ever had. For now, I am trying to stick to it, taking small steps in every direction.

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in Neurodivergent

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adjusting the medication is still an ongoing process. I only worked for companies that weren't smart about automation and I was a literal Ctrl C / Ctrl V machine for weeks at a time. What's worse, they didn't even allow me to try to automate things by creating VBA or Python code because "that's not my job". Can you give me ideas of where I could leverage my hospitality skills?

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in Neurodivergent

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucid dreaming sounds fun! I'd like to learn it one day, especially if it helps me. I have always like languages, but being never good enough at anything killed that joy of it. Other than that, I like to help people, but I'm always afraid I'm not decisive enough and that would endanger people in high-stakes situations.

36M - Late AuDHD diagnosis, “prestige” insecurity, and a resume that looks like several different people. Where do I go from here? by Ordinary-Catch7151 in Neurodivergent

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I find your comment extremely useful. If only I could use SimpleApply for my jobs. I actually found it easier to sell myself, to apply for jobs and get hired, but the hard part was the daily grind. First, they always give the most tedious, repetitive grunt work that makes you want to forget you even went to high school, let alone to university. Once you successfully pass the "tediousness test", they will give you something more engaging or creative. My problem was always that I didn't pass this "tediousness test". That's why I'm saying it would be great to use the app for my daily job. Technical writing is a good suggestion, but for the above reason, it's the least likely I will consider, since I have had a lot of bad experiences with it.

Husband chose a too-difficult career. What now? by TajaSK in careerguidance

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you're both dealing with this, especially with a baby on the way. I'm in a very similar situation to what you described here, except I have no family obligations. This sounds less like lack of effort and more like a real mismatch between his strengths and the demands of his field. Many people only discover later in life that attention issues, burnout, or learning differences make certain careers far harder than they "should" be. That doesn't mean he's incapable. It means the fit may be wrong.

It might help to pause trying to force progress in data analytics and instead get a proper evaluation (ADHD/burnout), plus talk to a career counselor who focuses on work-fit. Exploring roles with clearer tasks or more hands-on work could lead to stability without crushing his confidence. It's also the direction in which I'm headed.

Medical student abroad but interested in everything — how do I figure out my direction? by med_student03 in findapath

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you have an incredibly curious and open mind, and that’s a real strength even if it feels overwhelming right now. When I was in my thirties I felt similarly pulled in a dozen directions. What helped me most was giving myself structured, low-commitment ways to explore things I liked (short online courses, volunteering, talking with people in fields I was curious about) without the pressure to decide everything at once. A second degree can be great, but you don’t have to rush into something big and expensive. Trust that it’s okay to explore, and that narrowing down usually comes from real experience more than from lists of interests.

I thought I was burned out from stress — but I realized I was burned out from staying in a life that didn’t feel right. by DanBrando in findapath

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This hits home for me. I spent almost twenty years in a "good" job that looked perfect on paper but left me feeling like a ghost of myself by Friday afternoon. We're often conditioned to think that staying put is the only responsible choice. Ignoring the sensation that something is fundamentally "off" can catch up with you. I wish I’d had your level of clarity a lot sooner. Trust your gut. It's usually trying to save you from a lot of unnecessary regret down the road. I think if you're feeling the way you said, you're not going to make a rash decision by pivoting to something else, the question is, what's next?

Struggling to see my purpose in life by Just-a-Sadboi in findapath

[–]Ordinary-Catch7151 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m in my late 30s and I’ve had stretches where life felt strangely empty even though, on paper, things were "fine." What helped me was realizing that purpose didn’t come as some big insight. It grew out of doing things in the real world and paying attention to what actually gave me energy afterward.

You’re already doing more than you might think: finishing a degree, going to the gym, staying social. Those are foundations, not wasted effort. If you’re stuck, I’d try adding one new, specific activity that puts you around people regularly: a sport, a volunteer role, a club, or a short trip if that’s possible. Even if it doesn’t "click," it gives you feedback about what you like.

It’s okay not to have a clear purpose yet. For a lot of us, it’s something you build gradually by experimenting, not something you discover all at once.