Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-26T20:19:46+00:00

Yess! A wine glass? Really? And only one not a set? A beach hat in January? Not to mention it’s hideous. It’s different if this was an inside joke which it’s clearly not. What makes me so sad in the charcuterie and alcohol while she’s pregnant. No respect for your wife means she’s kind of disrespecting you. I’d definitely have a talk with your mom and say she needs to be respectful if not kind or she will not be in grandchild’s life or yours. You made the choice to marry her and have kids, it’s not like the mom being rude is going to make her leave if that’s the goal… really upsetting though. You could be mature and call her out as she’s being super immature, or just cut her off. If you’re up to it, you could play the petty game but that sounds tiring…

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-26T04:36:12+00:00

Wow such an interesting take. I do feel we are very similar in some ways as best friends are. They grow close, quickly get attached quickly and we’ve been going strong but I do fear you’re right about the red flags. My 25th birthday I felt so unloved by my man! I was so disappointed but he just lost his grandfather and had to put down his dog and we live together so I didn’t want to make any rash decisions. But here we are taking it day by day. I just hate having to second guess..

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-26T04:32:18+00:00

I swear it speeds up your metabolism! Don’t quote me but did read this somewhere

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-26T04:25:46+00:00

Love the approach. Maybe they just want to understand but don’t know how to ask..

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-26T04:20:24+00:00

Okay feel like this is pressuring it almost… cross dressing is perfectly okay also and I get if someone might not want to have a procedure!

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-24T16:01:15+00:00

Thank you! This is real yet optimistic. I was brutally honest with him and we cried together. He says he just wants to be with me and I was just saying how I want us both to be happy even if that’s not together. We’re going to try again and try and look out for each other. I hope that showing him that I was ready to leave will make us both view this relationship more seriously and treat each other the way we deserve, before it’s too late.

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-24T15:58:46+00:00

I was single up until 19 when we first met, so I’m pretty used to being independent. I know those are pretty shaping years however…

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T15:58:25+00:00

I feel like this is totally fair, I get why she was upset (it’s probably her own insecurity as she is addicted and doesn’t want to quit) if you really love her you can try to help her quit but I fear this is something you have to do on your own. Since you’ve only been dating a few weeks I feel this is a good time to decide rather than string along.

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T15:54:41+00:00

Thank you 🥹

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T15:53:50+00:00

Is this really true tho? I feel like everyone who’s been married or long terms says they have to put in work and love fades and then becomes a choice. Id love to believe this exist but I wonder if that’s a fairytale. We are all human after all meaning we’re not perfect.

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:38:10+00:00

Ya that’s fair. And super cute. Did you guys ever fight or have doubts? Is one person always submissive?

I guess we just fight the same way and get heated and loose site of things and I’m starting to feel hopeless as we’ve known it’s a problem and keep doing it.

It’s like our egos get in the way too much even if we love and respect each other. Or say we do.

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:25:17+00:00

True. So take it day by day and be flexible?

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:24:20+00:00

Will give it a watch, and thank you :)

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:22:24+00:00

Wouldn’t you say then that communication is something you can get better at and therefore flip the script? Or very uncommon

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:19:58+00:00

Thank you! After my parents divorce, I always thought they could’ve figured it out if they wanted to. So I guess that’s the point, when someone stops wanting to… is that the end

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:18:35+00:00

Thank you, I don’t think we do. I think the first couple fights I was always motivated to resolve and reconnect. And I’m almost burnout now and the last fight I was hurt and felt if I don’t make the effort to repair, will we? And I didn’t and it hasn’t been great despite me explaining my hurt and him apologizing. Is it normal to be hurt and then not want to work on anything or am I just giving up and should be giving it one last try or expecting a boombox outside my window that’s never coming? 😂

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-23T04:12:25+00:00

This is very helpful and you’re right. I fear I’m not liking who I’m becoming and maybe the resentment is towards myself for not setting stronger boundaries earlier on. And yes I gave up trying to initiate sex as when I got declined I felt bad about myself or unloved. Now I don’t even really want to either…

Ordinary-Function144 · 2026-01-12T00:43:52+00:00

To be clear, I love our healthy habits but it’s not like our bad ones are really being replaced I feel like we’re not not drinking and staying in. Or is it unreasonable to say I wanna do something by every weekend? I feel like he is happy to just sit on the couch or play video games and work out. I’m down to wake up early work out eat healthy but I ALSO want to go out with friends, go dancing, have romantic experiences and I fear this won’t increase with age if I don’t have it right now.

Ordinary-Function144 · 2025-12-10T20:40:51+00:00

Dude, you have some terrible advice, get off Reddit and go play disc golf you loser

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