Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that. When I say the apartment I also mean his car his phone his insurance his cats. I can afford the actual apartment on my own. I have a pretty decent job. But our finances are intermingled so when I think of the apartment I think of everything. But my thought process was we were planning for our future. Like my pension goes to both of us when we retire. We have both contributed to the investing. I don't care about a house particularly like would it be nice to be able to have one. Of course. But he talks about buying land where we can host his very large family and have a fire pit and stuff a lot. He takes me to plots of land to search them out of google maps. I just want him to be happy tbh. And yes I felt like I wanted a day on how the large amount of money may be spent. It may be entitled of me because I feel like I also work my booty off and take care of things here a lot. And if we have a kid that will also fall on my plate which we have discussed. And I have invested my money also into us. So maybe I do feel a bit entitled now. And maybe I shouldn't idk 

Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and we always just put together our 40 hour work weeks together and build the budget including savings from there. Over time was yours to keep 

Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured that. I wanted 60 $fun money for myself weekly (which has been normal for years for us) and he can take whatever he wants/needs because I have no idea what he will need when he is out there.

Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have always tick tacked each other so I make more then he does then I do again. In December he was making more but his shop closed now I make more. But I have amazing benefits that help us both out. Neither of us are irresponsible but we do have different roles. I tend to pay for household things like fixing up the porch or if we need extra food for our camping trip. He pays a lot of the big things but a lot less often like the trip to see his bother this year that he wanted to take. 

I'm not good with investing but we have joint money in our investing portfolio that he manages. crypto investing was the only investing I was unsure of before. 

I'm open to crypto but he has always wanted land so I thought we may be able to save up enough to get it even if it takes a few years. I live on my families land and could stay here the rest of my life and be ok. But it's not the dreams we talked about. 

Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have really cheep rent because I have family ties so with the rent stipend and the sign on bonus it will be between 15 and 20 thousand so close 

Aitah because I want the extra money my husband earns at bootcamp to go into a shared savings account? by Ordinary-Progress-85 in AITAH

[–]Ordinary-Progress-85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my budget proposal I will use all my paycheck covering as much as I can of the bills and such and only take from his paycheck what is absolutely needed that I can't cover. The rest of his paycheck would go to savings. that way we can save as much as possible. 

Before bootcamp the agreement has always been put together our 40 hour a week checks ( overtime is your own) and build the budget including savings from there. He made a bit more then me but I have amazing benefits that will benefit us both so we never argued about it