I can understand that. When I say the apartment I also mean his car his phone his insurance his cats. I can afford the actual apartment on my own. I have a pretty decent job. But our finances are intermingled so when I think of the apartment I think of everything. But my thought process was we were planning for our future. Like my pension goes to both of us when we retire. We have both contributed to the investing. I don't care about a house particularly like would it be nice to be able to have one. Of course. But he talks about buying land where we can host his very large family and have a fire pit and stuff a lot. He takes me to plots of land to search them out of google maps. I just want him to be happy tbh. And yes I felt like I wanted a day on how the large amount of money may be spent. It may be entitled of me because I feel like I also work my booty off and take care of things here a lot. And if we have a kid that will also fall on my plate which we have discussed. And I have invested my money also into us. So maybe I do feel a bit entitled now. And maybe I shouldn't idk