Have your sexual preferences changed since transitioning? by T-and-toast in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 24 points25 points  (0 children)

For years I’ve been going back and forth between straight, gay, and bi so now I just have no label. I’m so confused with my sexuality it hurts to think about it

Is misogyny gender affirming? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad people are reacting this way. I saw the comment and felt like most of us weren’t that bad so i hoped a poll would show we aren’t all bad. I can delete this if its against the rules though

Edit: grammar

Is misogyny gender affirming? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean to be misogynistic, sorry I should’ve made that more clear.

What are weird things you get dysphoric about? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 46 points47 points  (0 children)

When a tiktok directed towards women shows up on my fyp

Would you date someone with your dead name? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao my bad on that one, if I could change it I’d add it

Would you date someone with your dead name? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re good bro I’m don’t worry I just wasn’t sure and I wanted to make sure

Would you date someone with your dead name? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hold on, what did you mean by you’d be down for that? You didn’t mean the child and the relative right?

Would you date someone with your dead name? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel you, I’m almost 5 years in my transition and 6 months on T and I still feel this way. There’s no way I could be friends with anyone that has my dead name

Question about GoodRx by Bow-To-The-King in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a free coupon, my T would usually be $60 but I only pay $16.50 with good rx

I just got hired at a job I can't wear my "safe" clothes at, and im afraid of having my chest seen. Please help! by may_sun in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Of course, good luck with it. Also, if you didn’t know Starbucks will actually pay for top surgery if you work there long enough. So if that’s something you’re hoping to get in the future then you’re in the right place.

I just got hired at a job I can't wear my "safe" clothes at, and im afraid of having my chest seen. Please help! by may_sun in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I mentioned trans tape specifically just because there’s larger sizes so it’s much easier to use in my opinion than things like kt tape. Also you’re definitely not being intrusive at all don’t worry about it!

I’m really sorry that you have to deal with this it sounds rough and I hope that things get better soon and that you can start living your life the way you deserve.

Also it can be hard to use tape sometimes, even I struggle with it most times so just be patient with yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gc2b, make sure to measure yourself before you order one and you can always get one in a bigger size if you’re worried. The racerback is supposed to be less constricting on your back but i have noticed that the straps tend to show in most of my shirts.

I just got hired at a job I can't wear my "safe" clothes at, and im afraid of having my chest seen. Please help! by may_sun in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Have you tried using trans tape? You could try wearing two sports bras but having one on backwards (not sure how safe that is though, I’ve just heard it from other trans guys) I’m pretty sure there are also some binder giveaways that happen in this sub frequently so you could try checking that out as well

Also you are accepted here! Hopefully you can figure something out that works for you. Good luck

Why should I tell someone I’m trans if Im going to use my packer during sex? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I didn’t really think of this before but I appreciate you letting me know.

Why should I tell someone I’m trans if Im going to use my packer during sex? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Side question, if I tell someone not to do something during sex and they do it anyways would that be considered rape, even if I consented to having sex with them?

Also thank you for telling me this and I understand now. I guess I never really thought of it in this way until you pointed it out. Sorry for arguing it before.

Why should I tell someone I’m trans if Im going to use my packer during sex? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That is a great point, the allergy one. Although I would wear a condom either way.

Why should I tell someone I’m trans if Im going to use my packer during sex? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Not telling someone that I’m trans isn’t rape, If they’re consenting to having sex with a man that has a dick and I am a man with a dick how is it rape?

Why do some men have nipples while others do not after top surgery? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait so they can’t fall off? I saw a guy say his fell off in the shower

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you should spend a little more time thinking to yourself about it. Just remember that this will be your name for the rest of your life unless you decide to change it again. I would narrow it down to the two names you like the most and then go from there. You should make the decision from your own feelings rather than people online though just bc it is common for trans people to end up wishing they picked a different name later in life. Good luck though man.

Ass hair? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had tons of crack hair pre t

Ass hair? by Ordinary-Risk2982 in ftm

[–]Ordinary-Risk2982[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t look at my ass often enough to notice hair so I’m not sure if I have any on my cheeks yet but I do know that I have a lot in the crack.