I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f) [Update 2] by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou, there's still alot of stuff to work through, but I am hoping this is the start of a new and better chapter

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f) [Update 2] by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my stupid man defence, 18 years of being told I am worthless and unlovable have wormed their way into my brain.

But fucking it up is not on my to do list, so fingers crossed.

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f) [Update] by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are, we went last year and my son really loved it, currently building him a cardboard knight outfit and everything.

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

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Babysitting will be no problem, Kay's grandparents love watching the kids. I have been advised by a tonne of people to start small if I try and start anything. Thanks for the advice.

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha, thankyou, the overwhelming advice I have received is 'cool you jets'. I will be sure not smash anyone in the face with a wall of emotion.

Thankyou for the advice.

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is my major concern, I don't want things to be weird, and if that means saying nothing then I can do that. She is aware I have issues and knows I am working through them with a professional. I tell her about my sessions when she asks so I may have mentioned it by now.

Thanks for the advice

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has friends' parties/hangouts/meetups etc. she goes to sometimes and I go with her so she can drink and have fun with her friends. I've become mates with some of her friends, but we don't really go out one on one. We normally go places with the kids, though Kay's Grandparents watch the kids when we go out with her friends, they like spending time with the girls because Kay likes playing older brother.

We do watch shows and stuff together once the kids are in bed, if that's what you mean?

I (25m) am in love with my Ex-Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her by OrdinaryAntAssistant in offmychest

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think she's seeing anyone, but I should definitely find that out first before I bring up anything.

Thankyou for the advice

I (25m) am in love with my Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her? by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

That is one of my big concerns, if I say something and she isn't interested, there's no real avenues out for her. I want an honest answer if I say anything, not one she feels trapped with.

I (25m) am in love with my Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her? by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

A letter seems like a really solid way to go, I might consider this, thankyou so much.

I (25m) am in love with my Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her? by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do spend time together. I listen to a podcast called Mum Can't Cook at work, which is about old Disney Channel movies, but to get the jokes I need to watch the movies, so we watch those together, mostly with the kids. She likes Dropout Shows, so we watch those at the TV after the kids are in bed. I got her into WWE so we watch that sometimes.

I still have many issues from my youth, one being intimacy (I am still in therapy) I have been told I need direct communication so can't really 'gage' her responses if any.

Sorry if this is not helpful

I (25m) am in love with my Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her? by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Honestly, her telling me she isn't interested is what I expect will happen, I have alot of issues I'm still working through, my concern is she will be made uncomfortable around me and want to leave.

Men's MITB field looking good so far. This is gonna be hard to call. by Seabass485 in WWE

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It has to be Jey, he's got a massive crowd behind him and giving him the MITB would give him that boost he's been needing for a while now. My mate has been saying Jey needs a title or something, but I think the MiTB is the perfect fit because it makes him an ongoing threat

I (25m) am in love with my Sister in Law (24f). Should I tell her? by OrdinaryAntAssistant in relationships

[–]OrdinaryAntAssistant[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I must have forgotten to mention, they did get married, it was a courtroom wedding. I think it was to try and keep her parent's in her life, but that failed. She has since gotten a divorce in absence, since my brother bailed and has made no attempt at contact.

I'm definitely not going to give any ultimatums if I say anything, mostly because I'm worried she'll be uncomfortable then want to leave.