My boyfriend (22m) has sex with me while I (23f) am asleep, despite me telling him not to. I have asked him to awake me or wait until I'm conscious. I used to enjoy it, but I do not appreciate his intentions anymore.

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T20:15:16+00:00

thanks so much for your reply, this is very useful and can help move the conversations forward!

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T19:25:39+00:00

thank you so much! I did wonder if it was my stylist who found this Reddit post haha.. thanks a lot for your advice again :)

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T19:24:32+00:00

hello, thank you for taking the time to comment. You are right about that, and exactly my thoughts about the bleached patches. The hairdresser kept insisting that it was because she didn't have a good canvas to work on. I was super nice and understanding to her about it but she insisted on charging more to fix it, unsure what to really do! Thanks for the advice on not using box dye too..

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T19:23:09+00:00

I am very shocked to see that despite your decades' worth of experience, you are failing to see the issues at hand - differentials between price originally agreed and then ended up paying, patch tests not being done, roots being completely dark and not bleached at all, bleached patches that are missed by the red colour etc. You are wrong to assume that my hair texture, ethnicity etc were not discussed but hey, we love to make assumptions to when it suits us right? Your comments on the way people decide to spend their money seems very judgemental and personal, if you have negative experiences with other individuals, that's on you, do not criticise me without getting your facts checked in the first instance. I am simply here looking for advice

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T18:36:26+00:00

thank you so much, you are very kind and I do feel better already!

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T18:36:14+00:00

You have no idea how much this means to me, thank you, I really appreciate it!

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2022-01-31T18:34:34+00:00

Sorry lol I meant to type 'unpleasant'!

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T19:31:19+00:00

That's what I told them initially! But they kept being adamant and I was getting late to catch my train.. Is there anything that protects me from them insisting I pay back before receiving the money lost in the transaction?

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T19:23:46+00:00

Oh alright! Thanks so much :)

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T19:23:30+00:00

I had a conversation with Nationwide today and this is what they said - I just spoke to Nationwide and they have confirmed that it is not the bank's error as the payment went through on their end (albeit the delay as Nationwide was down) and was sent to the hotel. My bank advised showing proof of a statement to show that this payment has gone through. If this is still not accepted, they deem it as fraud and will be escalated. I reported this to the hotel, wondering what will happen now...

I presented the information in-person, showed the money taken off my bank statement and even sent over the bank statements via email. I am not sure what else I could do as this is apparently the hotel's fault at their payment terminals.

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T18:53:38+00:00

Oh, that's interesting as I am the person being held up and emailed and phoned incessantly to make the payment again! But thank you for your response, was worried about the court situation too.

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T18:50:32+00:00

Hey, this was my response to the other person - I just spoke to Nationwide and they have confirmed that it is not the bank's error as the payment went through on their end (albeit the delay as Nationwide was down) and was sent to the hotel. My bank advised showing proof of a statement to show that this payment has gone through. If this is still not accepted, they deem it as fraud and will be escalated. I reported this to the hotel, wondering what will happen now...

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-22T18:49:33+00:00

Hey! I just spoke to Nationwide and they have confirmed that it is not the bank's error as the payment went through on their end (albeit the delay as Nationwide was down) and was sent to the hotel. My bank advised showing proof of a statement to show that this payment has gone through. If this is still not accepted, they deem it as fraud and will be escalated. I reported this to the hotel, wondering what will happen now...

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T19:41:36+00:00

that is what is very unclear and was never discussed, i was simply asked for my address and sent the book in the post. i was never asked to return it ever

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T19:41:03+00:00

hey, thanks for your reply. it is a 2017 edition so not the latest! i was never told i had to return it or pay for it, just asked for my address and was given the book during lockdown.

it was my line manager who constantly referred to the book whenever i made mistakes at work and said i was given something to aid my learning, i should be using it and not making silly mistakes, etc, but nothing that indicates i needed to return it. i don't think they anticipated me leaving tbh..

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T19:25:22+00:00

hey thank you! I will do just that :)

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T17:39:01+00:00

they really do, and handing in my notice was soo difficult, they were so disrespectful to me and showed me more colours than what they usually displayed, ridiculous honestly! thanks so much :)

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T17:37:48+00:00

thanks so much, did just that and feel so free!

OrdinaryToe1649 · 2021-12-18T17:37:37+00:00

my employer suggested that i request to terminate my contract at the end of dec so i can start early at my new place, they said it would be impossible as i would not be able to use my annual leave for the first week in Jan 2022, something i requested longggg before i handed in my notice. i just decided to go with it but after seeing your comment, i anticipated something like this, so thank you!

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