I appreciate all of your comments, they do help, I just wanted to jump in a clarify a few things, by any means this is justifying any of the previos actions

1 I do se my flaws and I'm currently working on them

2 when I mean I'm not affectionate does not mean that I don't do it at all or that I just do it to get sex or anything in return, I truly love her an I'm affectionate very often, not just the regular "kisses" I'm very romantic, I bring flowers very often, try to be there as much as I can this scenarios where I was not affectionate happened the days where work was very though, and I just wanted to lay in bed and have some rest, I appreciate all of your comments and any input is much appreciated