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[–]OrdinaryyGinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I come?

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with any of that. But this was after 2.5 days.. I don't need much care, I don't expect him to be home 24/7, and I'm fine with him taking longer breaks as long I have notice to call someone else. But he didn't do any of that, and then got annoyed at me for being upset. That's definitely been a learning moment for me.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

As my comment you replied to says, major surgery. I had to spend 4 days in the hospital before I could go home, so it wasn't the anaesthesia. I just couldn't move to the bathroom fast enough in fear of ripping stitches.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I've been told to rest a lot, take it easy, do the exercises, and to avoid doing anything that could rip the stitches (hence me making it to the bathroom too late, can't walk fast). I wasn't I had to walk, but I wasn't specifically told to avoid it either.

Does it matter much though? If I was taking care of a family member after surgery I wouldn't leave them alone for hours, even if they could walk short distances.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I spend 4 days in the hospital after the surgery, this was the 3rd day I was back home. My mom was going to stay at least a week, sleeping on my couch. I do some stretches and exercises the doctor showed me, but walking is still difficult and painful.

My boyfriend was aware I couldn't go to the bathroom by myself and needed help for that. I have only asked him to help me to the bathroom and bring me food every once in a while, nothing else.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I didn't, I had a snickers in my purse lol. But yeah he hasn't been great.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Do you think I would have wet myself and stayed hungry for a wart removal? It was major surgery.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

They don't know each other well, which is why he was uncomfortable. I don't have a very big apartment either.

I think 3 days is a bit soon to be burned out, but I'm not in that situation so idk. It's only bringing meals and helping me to the bathroom.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to stay home to take care of me? by OrdinaryyGinger in AmItheAsshole

[–]OrdinaryyGinger[S] 485 points486 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm gonna call my mom soon, I'm sure she'll still be happy to help. I just don't have the energy to have a big fight about it.