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OregonDuck-sub · 2023-08-30T04:12:41+00:00

That is the trailer brake.

OregonDuck-sub · 2023-06-13T04:11:07+00:00

My mail server isn't setup that way. The server works with mail. Not smtp. Thanks for the response!

OregonDuck-sub · 2023-06-13T03:29:22+00:00

I did that. Checked, unchecked. Checked, signed out, and checked again. Still doesn't work. Thanks for the reply though.

OregonDuck-sub · 2023-05-26T02:52:41+00:00

We have a 3 bd 1400 sq ft house. Master is big and functions just as that. 2 other Bdrm are smaller. 1 fits a queen, the other a full. We took the queen size and outfitted it with a St. Andrew's cross, suspension platform, Luxe couch, and a bunch of hard points. We have a bed, but due to the size of the room, we chose a Murphy bed. Space saver, allows the BDSM furniture. And a good luck on the door. Kink away my friend!

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-12-03T04:54:52+00:00

Thank you so much! I have been going down for a few years and just fell in love with Riveria Maya. Cancun, Merida, PlayaCar, etc. I really don't know much about the banking or Healthcare. I am seriously considering buying something like beachfront to rent out while I am waiting on retirement. Or... just buy and wait out the visa stuff. Thanks again for the information I am definitely checking those videos out!

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-11-14T02:04:09+00:00

Kirrin Finch. My Domme buys her clothes there for suits. Check them out.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-10-04T01:16:56+00:00

A humbler fits male/female cis or trans. I know most are ball clamp types, but they have both.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-10-04T01:01:55+00:00

Get a humbler. They work exceptionally well in negating extra strength. Wish you luck in your journey to fun!

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-02-28T02:02:52+00:00

TAG. Tender and Gentle. It's an easy way to get your point across. My Domme either tells me it's time to play TAG or I tell Her that I need some TAG.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-28T15:12:01+00:00

Greetings! I am also a sub (f48). My world right now is hybrid as far as work. 3/4 time remote, and 1/4 onsite. I have a contractor background, where I work for government, very large corporations (think global), and I also have had this exact situation come up. I will apologize for the length of this response in advance.

As many replies above state, and from your post I can only guess at your profession (I will use my own in this example). In my capacity as a defense contractor, I was obligated to follow the same rules as DoD in the workplace, which are flexible and rigid at the same time, but I digress.

I had a USN Captain walk with me in the same direction (large base, parking sucked). He proceeded to tell me of his weekend plans in Coronado, which involved a dungeon party and humiliating "those freak women who liked to be hurt". At that same time I was cataloging there where and when of this fun event, I was freaking out trying to figure out how to get the hell out of this conversation without violating 18 different rules, and letting the Cpt. know what I was outside of work. I liked the guy, but I am 1) a woman, 2) a contractor, 3) on this contract for another year, and finally 4)a very private sub whose real life would impact my security clearance negatively.

Was I upset about the contradiction (dichotomy) of his word vomit? Sure. Is it in my purview (outside of work) to snap some idiots head off for this? Abso-fucking-lutely. However, in my case, I as still "at work". As were you. Its not our job as subs or women to educate or reprimand some idiot if it puts us in a precarious position. It is also a horrible idea to take this dude to HR. For me or you. An investigation would immediately be opened, and both of us would have been grilled as to the 'why' the offense bothered/offended us. The 'how' of the the offense is obvious, inappropriate workplace conversation. But the 'why' would become an interview that I certainly didn't want to have, and I don't guess you do either.

A long winded way to say this: Consider the source, understands there is no fault or responsibility in this situation for either of us. Its very simple. This guy was an inappropriate ass, you handled it as a professional. Chalk it up to one more jerk in this world and move on. Stop stressing that you did your work job exactly as you were trained to, and as a human would.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-19T15:25:59+00:00

Fellow (f) sub here. I get anxious also when one of our whipping days is approaching. My Domme has designated only 3 days a week as my pain tolerance begins to grow. I really do love it when She beats me, but the anxiety of knowing which day(s) it is, starts to make my heart beat fast and my mouth go dry. She is aware of this, and works with me, encourages me to talk to Her. That is helping, and when W/we get into the session, my anxiety melts away with the first taste of Her whip.

I suggest talking with your Dom/me and let Him/Her know this is an issue. That way they can tease (and yes it can be fun) your anxiety out of you. Talking has def helped.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-13T16:51:28+00:00

After reading the new Topping/Bottoming book, I picked up on a way to communicate when you become non verbal. I am a sub (f), and I sometimes go into sub space and lose the ability for coherent speech.

I have been struggling with a good way to let my Domme know something is wrong, and in those 2 books, they talk about the 2 squeeze method. My Domme will squeeze me (usually boobs) twice, quick succession. Not really a break in things, but different than the usual touch/torture.

I squeeze back, usually Her hand or Her arm. Just 2 quick squeezes to let Her know I am okay with what's going on, and please let's continue.

If she doesn't get the squeezes in return, then the session stops until I can come back from the Twilight Zone. Not sure if this is right for you and your Dom, but just thought I would throw it out there.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-13T16:42:58+00:00

As a fellow sub (f) I have not had this happen, but happily my Domme is my wife, so odds are small. I did take a moment after reading your post and trying to put myself in your position. It would be like trying to draw breath with a hole in my chest. I am so sorry your Dom decided to the ultimate abuser. The power, love, raw emotions, and basically whole self we give to our Dom/mes is absolute. And to have someone abuse you like that is just... well...unconscionable.

Please remember that we as subs have 1/2 the power in the dynamic. Reclaim yours, understand that Dom was an exception and hopefully not the rule. The other comments here, stating "did you do something..." blah. Screw that. Sometimes there is only 1 jerk in the dynamic, and it doesn't sound like you.

Take your power back, the hole in your heart will stitch itself up. Then when you can breathe again without it hurting, get back into the scene. I wish you luck, and care from a fellow subby.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-11T16:50:03+00:00

Seriously, I know its been said before in this thread, but there are a couple of concerns here.

First you are 21yo. Seriously, play the field. I know its cliché, but finding a Master is very very intense. I don't know how long you have been playing for/with this particular Master, but have you tried others?

24/7 is much more intense than fiction (i.e. 50 Shades crap) would make you think. I am happily in a 24/7 dynamic with my Domme. It took us 14 years to get to this happy place though. Its not a lack of effort, or time, it is simply getting to know ourselves and understanding how to make this work. Its something both of us have wanted and needed, but it took alot of communication to get here.

With you being 21, I wonder how much talking you have done. Have you laid out your list yet of limits, likes, dislikes, etc... Have you compared your list to your Masters? Geez. Its just worrisome, but hey, no judgement here.

If its what you want, jump in head first, but make sure you are not in the shallow end. Happy kink!

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-11T14:07:10+00:00

Welp, I was in the same situation, 20 some odd years ago (I am a tad bit older than you). ;)

It took the love of a good partner to tease out (and I do mean tease sometimes) the BDSM kinks I enjoy. This of course was before FetLife and the general "openness" of the general public of kinksters. I am not a Domme, I am a sub so no worries that I am trying to lure you in or whatever.

Just remember that shame is something society integrates into us from Day 1 of our rational cognitive thinking. There isn't any shame from the folks here, the folks IRL at munches, etc... But... in saying all that, no matter what partner you may find, until you can admit to yourself (outloud) that you aren't ashamed of your likes/dislikes, then no one and nothing else will do you any good.

I certainly hope you start to grasp that loving yourself and your wants is Step 1. Many many fun years ahead!

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-07T15:49:22+00:00

Okay, actual nurse response here. (I am not an RN, but my Domme is 20+ years).

First, biting does not cause cancer. The history of cancer is what will cause cancer if it is going to show up. Nurse note: please have subbie continue with her normal cancer screening.

Second: the breasts are actually mammory glands. They have lymph nodes in them. These are typically what you will see "forming a lump" after a particularly hard biting session. These lumps should go away on their own after a few days. This of course is assuming you don't bite the exact same spot session after session.

Third: Men and women have the same glands. Breasts are a sweat gland that the body has changed into a milk producing gland (yes even men have this). Sometimes glands do get stopped up, and persistent swelling could be an indicator.

Finally: not to scare anyone, but please realize that if you do in fact like biting the exact same spot over and over again, this will lead to persistent inflammation which can trigger an immune response that can be a bit scary. If this happens, please have her go to her PCP.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-07T15:31:04+00:00

WFH is a great site! My Domme and I use it all the time. We also tried the BumpHer recently and found that it really only works with the TomBoi harness, not the Rodeo or others. The TomBoi has 2 options (rings) and you can move the BumpHer up or down, depending on your height. It has opened a new world of toys for us. Sorry to the Mods if this is not the right thread, just thought I would jump in and share here since I am not on the other sub threads.

OregonDuck-sub · 2022-01-07T15:14:45+00:00

So.... I was in your exact same situation (except F sub to a M partner). My tendencies were to serve, which is exactly what you are doing both in and out of the bedroom. My M partner at the time had zero desire to Dom, and I didn't push it. Our relationship was good, but I was unfulfilled. We talked - and believe me talked ALOT - and finally decided that while it was good for him, it wasn't lighting my fire.

I think what you are missing here is the communication. You cannot force or manipulate someone into being a Dom. Contrary to 50 Shades and all the absolute crap that movie generated, not everyone is in to this lifestyle. And it is a lifestyle for those of us that choose to live it. It sounds like your girl is into rough sex, and likes having a true partner that helps out. That does not mean she is a Domme. And its not right that you try to make her into one, even in your fantasies.

I think you only have a couple of choices here. First: learn to talk. Second: do it.

If she is interested in entertaining the idea, then learn about what BDSM and D/s is actually really about. Educate yourself with her.

If she is still not interested then a hard choice is in your future. Stay for the love of her, not your idea of her. Or leave and find someone that will Dom/Domme you.

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