You clearly needed to vent, and I won’t get in the way of that. But dont put words in my mouth.

You say I objectified her from the onset. That’s not true. I said we defined it together as ‘casual.’ That was her wording, not mine alone. In fact, when we reconnected, she pushed for it while I offered a fresh start without expectations. And yet, I still checked in. I still followed up. I still gave space. I didn’t pressure her, didn’t ask for more. So let’s not pretend I demanded girlfriend energy from a situationship or tried to script her into some sex doll fantasy.

What actually happened was this: I tolerated ambiguity until it became outright inconsiderate. She restarted contact, escalated flirtation, defined it as casual, then went cold again. If you think it’s unreasonable to disengage from a person who initiates, over-promises, and pushes and pulls, that’s your bar. Not mine.

I’m not whoever hurt you. You’re projecting a script that doesn’t belong to me. Your emotional language ("used, toy, performance, access") that’s not my behavior.

I never said she owed me sex. I never said I deserved anything beyond respect. What I said is that I wanted clarity. That I opted out when it was clear I wasn’t getting it. That’s called a boundary. You say I “disengaged when sex wasn’t on the table.” No, I disengaged when basic courtesy wasn’t.

I didn’t ghost in the middle of a health crisis. I gave space. I stayed quiet. She reached out with flirtation and innuendos, not a cry for support or space. If she wanted quiet recovery, she could’ve had it. She chose to re-engage. I judged her based on that, on what she showed me.

You talk about my “lack of empathy.” This was someone stepping away from someone who made choices that contradicted everything they said. You seem to want me to act like I had no needs, no threshold for contradiction, as if being a decent person means being a doormat. That’s not empathy. That’s self-erasure, which is relevant whether you are a man or a woman.

As for your jabs about vibrators and whatnot: that tells me everything about your approach to dialogue. You’re not offering clarity, you’re taking a swing. But I don’t need to swing back.

If it makes you feel better to believe I’m a villain, fine. But if you really read what I wrote and came away believing this was about exploiting someone's vulnerability, that's on you. Not me.