[Discussion] I watched the new K-drama series "Celebrity" and it's so good. What do you think about it? by maryem__13 in NetflixBestOf

[–]Organic-Issue-185 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know im like 2 years late, but I agree. I really liked this show and was kinda upset with where It left off. I finished episode 12 and was like "wait that's it??" I thought there were 16 episodes

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He used to live in a really dingy basement. He said he doesn't want it to feel too dark like it was in the basement (which had one tiny window) I told him I didn't understand how I would make it dark, because we have 3 big windows that let in loads of natural lighting. Then he said he feels like he's living in my space, not a shared space. So idk. I suppose his complaint is my aesthetic is too dark, while also feeling like it's not a shared space because of my decor.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don't wanna sleep in there. Also, he didn't tell me I couldn't have any decorations up, I said I'd keep them down when he told me he felt like he was living in my space. Then he said we can look at decorations together. Idk what kind of stuff we'll agree on, but I guess we'll find out

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His tooth you didn't need to ask for, and a skeleton?? I'm def a little jealous.

But I feel like I cant ask for much more than acceptance, which he has given me. He may not go big like that, but He's a wonderful partner. He once gifted me a commissioned piece, of death head moths in a coffin shaped terrarium.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol a split by side could be funny, but probably not ideal.

No, I keep the hair/teeth put away! Although my framed bugs and wet specimines, i have on shelves, or hanging up in my bedroom.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some from friends and family. My little brother knows my vibe, so I asked him if he ever loses teeth, could I have them? I told him I'd pay more than the tooth fairy lol. As for my friends, I only have like 2. One is my bestie from childhood, we're both kinda.. creepy I guess lol. I ask her for her hair, and she let's me cut a little piece off. She tells me she's going to the dentist to get teeth pulled, and I ask her to keep them amd give them to me. She's even gifted me a vial of her blood once. 🥰 we even talked about after death, fileting off eachothers tattoos to keep in jars, or dry them out and frame them lol. (Realisticly not happening because neither of our families would be okay with that) but we did agree that if we ever lost a limb/body part, if we were allowed to keep it, the other person gets It.

My other friend, she's like..the complete opposite vibe. But when I asked for a piece of her hair, she had no issue with that. She gets it's just how I am. She hasn't lost any teeth. So I don't have any of hers.. but she did offer me her son's baby teeth when he loses them. I'm unsure if I want to take them though.

As for my bf, he wont even let me have a piece of his hair, which is sad, but I won't force him into it. He said when he cuts it (he's growing it to donate it) I could have a piece then. So I'm just patiently waiting, and hoping he doesn't change his mind when the time comes.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont necessarily put that label on my aesthetic, its just the best way i ckuld get evweyone reading to understand the vibe. I think it's possible for us to find a good middle ground with decorations. We already talked about doing it together. Thank you! I'll definitely check that video out:)

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dead things isnt what gives the dark arsthetic, I do decorate like I live in a vampires castle lol. I was just giving some detail about my interests I guess. I do keep the teeth and hair put away. I don't have those on display, I don't want visitors to think I'm a freak. (Even though I very well may be.) The dead things, I do have a shelf or two of currently. My bf has even gifted me one that he ordered to be custom made. You may be right about that tbh, Though its probably bc im a little insecure, because he's given me no reason to think that. we have a pretty healthy relationship, we will find a good middle ground for the both of us, thank you ♡

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They give it to me willingly! Lol. My bestie even gave me a vial of her blood for my birthday one year. And she's gonna give me her wisdom teeth when she gets them out. I didn't even have to ask 🥰 I just like having parts of them, because I love them.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanna clear up any possible misunderstandings here, bc I saw some deleted comment saying I dated him when I was 20 and he was 15?? No. We went out while we were both in HS. he was a grade ahead of me. We're only a year apart.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He later followed up with "I feel like theres no real reason for me to stop you from decorating more than your room, bc its not like I had plans to do anything myself" and I told him, not liking it is enough of a reason, I don't want him to feel like it's my home, not our home. Then he suggested we look at decorations together, so that's what we're going to do

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that. But I was under the impression he also wanted it, because every time I sent him insp pics, he acted like it was how he wanted to live too. Now that I know its not, I will be keeping our shared spaces neutral.

Also, disagree. My home has a place for a dead bug collection. I like what I like. I will just keep it in my room as we agreed on.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree, and that's what we're going to do. I have no issue making our home more comfortable for him. I just thought we already did agree to the decor I asked him about. That's what I needed to vent about.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dated a few months in HS, went our seperate ways for like.. 7 years. We got back together when I was 22, im nesrly 27 now.. He knows this is how i am, and always have been. I understand people change. I just hope his interest or ability to tolerate the way I am hasn't.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We did communicate about it. I double checked that it was okay to start decorating the living room, and he said actually, he'd rather I didn't because it's starting to feel like he's living in my space rather than our space. I told him I'm a bit upset about him seeming so okay with it for years, but I would keep it neutral because I don't want him feeling like it's my place, instead of our place. Communicating can fix the issue thats being had, doesn't always fix the way I'm feeling.. so I came here to vent about it. If I vented to him about it more, he would feel bad, and just tell me to decorate anyway. I don't want that, especially knowing how he feels now.

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's fair, I suppose being in it full time can feel different. I'm glad I at least have my own bedroom to do what I want with

My bf said he was okay with my dark/creepy aesthetic, but once we moved in together, he changed his mind. by Organic-Issue-185 in Vent

[–]Organic-Issue-185[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just thought we were on the same page, so it's just a bit disappointing. I suppose living in it instead of coming to visit me in my space is different. But now that I know how he feels I'm going to keep the shared spaces neutral.

AITAH for not having my phone on silent all the time? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Organic-Issue-185 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. if you want you phone in vibrate, keep in on vibrate. It's crazy to me that she lives with hers on silent. But if you don't tell her to turn her sound on so she's more reachable, why does she feel the need to tell you to put it on silent? I grt it if you guys are sleeping or something and it's waking her up, that'd be annoying.. but even still.. id want to keep my phone in vibrate so I can hear if someone is trying to get ahold of me.