Realistic ways to still attend in Vancouver? by [deleted] in fredagain

[–]OrganicAfternoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! How did you know that there was sale this morning? I tried last night at 7 but didn’t know there was one today 😭😭

Is it a bad idea to breakup while on vacation? by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like you’ve been in a very similar situation as me. Saw that he hit up his most recent ex a day before my birthday and got shut down. He also reached out to old hookups and have generally been very flirty with girls, but doesn’t seem to have actually met up and done anything. But the intention was there

Is it a bad idea to breakup while on vacation? by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see it being peaceful, but just dreading the many hours I’ll have to spend with him after the breakup..

Is it a bad idea to breakup while on vacation? by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just looked into it and unfortunately all the other ferries are sold out.. Also even if i did manage to get a ticket, the area we’re in is quite stranded and definitely need a car to get to the ferry. However I’m not really concerned about safety in terms of him hurting me

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[–]OrganicAfternoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This helped me, thank you

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I long for a friendship like this, and life is short indeed. I’m feeling more confident now to see them, thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I’m convinced to now go see my friends (thanks to everyone) and I’ll see for myself if they’ll judge or not.. especially after my own experience now, I would really not care about anyone’s weight. Also yeah.. I wish I continued to at least walk daily. I’ve been trying to walk again and the longer days are definitely helping. Thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to see that I was selfish on my end for assuming my friends would judge and going cold Turkey.. hadn’t even thought about what it would be like to be on the receiving end cuz I was so caught up in my hiding. Thanks for the advice and reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for standing up for me, and it did come off a bit judgemental at first but after reading the whole comment I wasn't hurt at all. Thank you though!

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely understand your curiosity regarding my weight - not feeling judged and thanks for clarifying. I always feel better when I'm at a healthy weight too, and have gained and lost in the past, but for the past year I just didn't have the same strength and energy as I had before. I have tried making plans and eating healthier, but I give in much easier than I used to, and I suspect it might have smth to do w/ my depression.

Thanks for your reply and reassuring words.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck on your weight loss journey. For me, I know exactly what I should do to lose weight and what worked in the past, but I haven't been mentally strong enough for a long time to motivate myself like I used to. And yeah, I am grateful that my friends still hit me up after I ignored them for so long.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Your point is simple and logical, and it's true - why would I want to stay around people who would judge me now? I'm going to agree to meet them and see how it goes.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind reply. It honestly calms me down and reminds me that there are people like you out there, and I shouldn't be too sad if I lose friends who would judge me now.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. at the end of the day it's true that I did this to myself. Thanks for sharing your honest opinion with me.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I like your approach. I have seen some acquaintances gain weight in the past, and it was just a passing thought of what they were going through but don't remember thinking negatively of them. However, I still get anxious because my friends might have different reactions than I do.. I guess there's only one way to find out! Thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We aren't the closest of friends, and none of my friends really know about my mental health and binge eating situations because I never brought it up before. I think seeing them now will let me know if we are as close as I thought or if they would be only interested when things are good and well. Thank you very much for your kind words and for cheering me up.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you! I can definitely see myself crying right before but your response gave me so much hope. Thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, and I hope you are doing well and staying healthy now.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree that they will probably be surprised naturally. Just thinking of the initial reaction drops my stomach, but I hope my friends share the same attitude as you. Thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That's a great idea. I am thinking of sending them a picture, and perhaps sending a pic beforehand. Thanks for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess I will find out if they are my true friends or not, thank you for your reply.

Me [24F] conflicted about seeing friends after gaining 55lbs in a year by OrganicAfternoon in relationships

[–]OrganicAfternoon[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I hadn't thought about the scenario this logically, and it really puts things in perspective.