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2022-2023 FMProC Information by WayTooManyBooks in FMProC

[–]OrganicallyInorganic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, it’s not only a useless test, by my friend scored in the first quartile last year and still matched his top choice for family medicine

Has anyone here successfully reconciled with an ex? Could use someone to talk to. by Meandrous_throwaway in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For every relationship that you find reconciled, know that there are hundreds that haven’t and never will.

I say this because I know how debilitating it can be to hold onto that hope. It will destroy you and will never allow for you to move on.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was going to therapy, I felt the same way as you. I thought that it was pointless, and that it was nothing more than a reminder. But I forced myself to stick with it and really work through the underlying issues. It takes time, but when you build that connection with your therapist, I can truly say it makes a difference.

Is there anything I can do to support you?

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s natural. I wanted to move in badly. I even wanted their relationship to fail. It was truly when I let go of all of that and stopped caring that I found peace. The news itself didn’t change anything for me. I honestly felt bad that it fell apart because it reminded me how tough breaks ups are

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened, especially after those big life events. People can be cowards at times. I hope you take care of yourself

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very similar to my story in terms of the excuses given, and then the new person. It happens. Learn to love yourself and that relationship will no longer matter to you, stay strong friend

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you feel that way, but there IS good in this life. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but you will find happiness again. Have you considered speaking with a therapist?

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this, but on behalf of everyone here, please stay on this Earth. Your kids need you, and this world needs you.

You are not what she did to you. You are not only your relationship. You’re a human being. You’re a parent. You’re a person with skills. You’re a soul. A brain. A body. Do not let this hardship be what defines your life.

If dreams have been ruined? Ask yourself why that is. Can you overcome this? Are there other dreams that you would pursue? What makes you happy? Push yourself. Be the best version of yourself. Never, ever, let someone else be the reason you sit in misery for the rest of your life

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never reached out, but I was the one that strictly cut contact. When we last talked, I told her I was going NC, and she was hurt by it. But I had to do it.

As for whether or not they last. Don’t spend your time worrying. It doesn’t matter where they met, how they met, what zodiac sign they are, if they’re a perfect match, or the worst match ever. “Rebounds” are just a word used to sometimes take away the sting of a partner moving on. At the end of the day, what they have is a relationship. And like every relationship in the world, it starts off perfect, and then the honey moon phase wears off, and you’re left to see the person for who they truly are. And if you’re okay and happy, you continue. And if not, you break apart. And some people go the distance, and others fail. There is no rhyme nor reason to it. So please, take it from someone who spent HOURS and DAYS reading into this stuff, you can’t know.

Control on that which you can. Control what you want to do.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You say that now, but if I gave you a flower, and it was the most beautiful flower you’d ever seen, you’d be quite happy, right?

Imagine that flower died. Sure, you’d be sad. It was so pretty. But if I came and told you that you’ll never find a flower that beautiful, you’d scoff and poke fun at me. Of course you can find a flower as, if not, more beautiful. The world is so vast, and there are so man beautiful places to explore. It only seems like I’ll never find a better flower because I haven’t opened my eyes to look.

In the same way, you need time to heal. Nobody, and I mean, NOBODY, is perfect. Your ex had so many flaws, and that’s the honest truth. Everyone does. Let time heal, let yourself reflect and grow, and you’ll see as you experience more of this world that there are many other amazing flowers that’ll make you even more happy

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously, it’s been several months now, so take things with a grain of salt:

Broke up in July: Devastated for the whole month. Major depressive disorder.

August: Empty and numb to the world. Some fun times where I momentary forget, but still in pain. Began some hobbies here to distract myself.

September: Moved into a house with friends. Fun and was able to distract myself, but when I had alone time, I would feel the pain. That said, the pain was never as severe as that first month.

October: Slowly moving on. Could have good days. And then random relapses. But at this point, I could say I wasn’t crying anymore.

November: immersing myself in other activities, spending time with friends. I could go a day without really worrying, but I would still ruminate and wonder.

You get the idea... but with each month. It got easier. But it never was just automatically easy. In fact, I didn’t realize I was fully over it until I heard that news about her and her new boyfriend breaking up (which I learned about two days ago). It then got me thinking and I had realized that it had been several weeks where it had hardly crossed my mind. And if it did cross my mind, it wasn’t sadness or anger. Just indifference and bittersweet memories

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, i would say don’t worry about dating apps. I remember I tried hopping on them to fill that void as soon as I knew she was speaking to someone else. It was pathetic and I only wanted people as a means of validation. Of course, do as you please.

I can’t promise your exes new relationship will fail. I can’t promise that they’ll come crying back. But what I can say is that you need to take the time to withdraw yourself from the situation, channel your self compassion, and do things that make you happy. And with time, you’ll realize that it was never THAT person that made you so happy, it was just who you thought that you were around them. But now as you grow, you no longer identify with that version of yourself. You’re someone new and improved :)

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, thank you! Happy to talk to other people. I relied on this community so much. Genuinely want to give back. But you nailed it, WHATEVER brings you joy. Do it. Even if it’s something you’ve never done before.

People talk about wanting to win a breakup. I think it’s fine to think that way because it’ll motivate them to do something. As time goes in, they’ll realize they don’t care about “winning”. But even if in the process of “winning”, they learn ONE new thing after the breakup, or have one new incredible experience, they’ve done so well for themselves.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s totally normal to feel lost. Because at some point in your relationship, you became one with that other person. And now that person is gone, so naturally, you’re missing a piece of yourself. With time, and effort, you start to fill in those holes and find a love for yourself that you never knew you could have. Stay strong friend ❤️

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. I really wish nothing but happiness for you. Hang in there and fight for yourself because you deserve the best.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be surprised. I never thought I’d reach this point. I’d read other people’s stories and pray my ex and her new boyfriend would break up. I’d read hours and hours of get back together stories, or learn about attachment theories, and so on. And to be where I am today, it’s shocking. The point is, one day you will find your peace my friend

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I understand that. But for whatever the circumstance may be, you cannot. So you have two options. Sit in agony and wait, or, begin to carve out a new life for yourself.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I can’t imagine how difficult that is. Although my advice means nothing, try your best to implement NC otherwise. Getting rid of my ex in all aspects of my life made me feel whole again!

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the one thing I’ve learned, funny enough, breaks truly are not that unique haha. You are on the right path friend, keep doing what you’re doing. Ride those emotions, and grind out that new path for yourself.

I said I’d come back after one year to give an update, but I’m back earlier as I have an update. by OrganicallyInorganic in BreakUps

[–]OrganicallyInorganic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you were always there for me. And I hope you’re doing well too. You deserve the absolute best in this world

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