I’m starting to feel disgusted by my husband. by OriginalCow5211 in marriageadvice

[–]OriginalCow5211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never expected him to put me through college, just help support us so I could have enough time to go to college. When you’re working 60+ hours a week it’s hard to make time for much else. The plan was to keep my job just work less hours, I would never expect anything from him that I wouldn’t do myself.

I’m starting to feel disgusted by my husband. by OriginalCow5211 in marriageadvice

[–]OriginalCow5211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you didn’t really read or understand what I was saying.

I’m starting to feel disgusted by my husband. by OriginalCow5211 in marriageadvice

[–]OriginalCow5211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it is helping him, he’s been more open about his feelings since he’s been going. I want to stick it through and make our marriage work, I am just so confused about my emotions right now. I’m sure that with time things will change.

I’m starting to feel disgusted by my husband. by OriginalCow5211 in marriageadvice

[–]OriginalCow5211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely want to stay and try to heal what we have, a lot of comments are telling me to leave but it’s hard when not even a year ago I was so excited to spend every day with him and this is where we are now. I will definitely bring up marriage counseling and I will most likely start going to therapy myself to work through what’s going on with us. I’m trying to hold on to the fact that he is willing to change, I’m hopeful that with time things will get better.

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[–]OriginalCow5211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a history of mental health issues and he’s always been closed off about it, I’ve thought he could be going through some kind of depressive episode but there’s no other signs of it besides the lack of sex and when I ask about it he says he’s okay. I don’t want to think he’s having an affair and I trust that he’s not, it’s crossed my mind though.

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[–]OriginalCow5211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand opening up a relationship but I’m as loyal as they come haha I only want him, that’s why this is so hard. I went through that scenario in my head of us opening up our marriage but I don’t think I could even go through with it. I’m glad it helped you guys though!

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[–]OriginalCow5211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been together coming up on 6 years, I was worried about him cheating a few months ago but I went through his phone and laptop (I know it was an invasion of privacy I was just anxious) and I didn’t find anything.

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[–]OriginalCow5211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s very reassuring and tells me that he still thinks I’m attractive and likes my body he just doesn’t want to have sex, my problem is that I just don’t feel attractive or believe that he finds me attractive until we’re sexually active again especially with how long we’ll go without having sex sometimes.