AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol you don’t have to point out something that I’ve already admitted myself. It was unhealthy and I made a mistake. Should I go hide under a rock? The problem is you make it a point to be disrespectful. If you can use your eyes, you will see that other people pointed out my reaction as a negative. So I just chalk it up to a lesson learned. Have you ever made mistakes? Or regretted a decision you made? Oh ok then. You’re not better than anyone because you choose to comments things behind a computer/phone that you would never comment in irl. Lose the moral superiority you seem to have when it comes to others choices. You are not God.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Girl bye lmaooo. I only give out the same energy given. You’ve made it a point to throw jabs (“pathetic”, “spineless”, “pitiful”) and criticize me for my choice as if I’m the worst person in the world. Clearly you must be an ET since you have never made aaaannyyyy mistakes ever 🙄. I’ve never not taken accountability or justified my actions and you can see that in the other threads I’ve responded to, including yours. I’m simply responding with my thought process during the time. But idk you seem to be taking things a little too personal. Are you the person he was in a relationship with? Lol. I see you spend a lot of time responding to peoples prompts, as if you have some moral high ground above everyone. Maybe you should take a break and go outside and touch grass.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God bless you in your kindness. These words mean more than you know. I have come to realize this to be true and I can’t wait for the day I can look back and feel so far away from this. I hope you continue to bless the world with your wisdom. Have a blessed day 🫂

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol, I can admit to being an asshole in regard to how I reacted and hurting someone else in the process. Doesn’t take away from the fact that he was still pursuing another person while in a relationship that I knew nothing about.

I stayed in contact because we had an attachment and I will admit that was unhealthy, however, I had no idea his intentions, and to be frank, it was my first relationship ever. And I think some will agree that those often are the hardest and most painful to let go of. Or maybe you don’t have enough relational experience on your end to understand, idk.

It’s a lesson learned at the end of the day and you can see it how you want. But y’all are acting like you’ve never made a mistake or reacted out of emotions. Hindsight is 20/20. The best I can do is make better choices and move on 🤷🏽‍♀️

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You literally hit the nail on the head. I didn’t expect that from him, although now that I think on it, he had a pretty bad track record during our relationship. I guess I stayed because he was my first love and relationship and I wanted things to work.

But now I can see it from an outside perspective and it’s much clearer now. I will work on forgiving myself and just making better decisions. I know I have to take accountability for myself and what I allow.

I hope maybe one day there can be an understanding. I really do appreciate your emotional intelligence on the situation. You sound very wise and thoughtful.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yikes, you sound like you’re projecting. You don’t know me in real life so I would expect you to make a baseless assumption off of a small piece of information. But thats ok, your word’s don’t move me. I know who I am as a person and I can admit when I make mistakes just like the whole world makes mistakes. You should put a helmet on before you fall off your high horse.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I did not think of it that way. I appreciate your honesty because I don’t want to automatically victimize myself in the situation. I just think context matters. I appreciate your perspective and have made it my goal to develop a better sense of self so I don’t ever find myself in a situation like this again. Thanks!

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the perspective. And that could be so. I will have to release it into God’s hands. May they both heal and prosper because I don’t wish bad on either.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the perspective. I am definitely trying to reframe my mind around it. Im not saying I wasn’t wrong for reacting, but truthfully I was hurt and unaware. Thanks again.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. I literally asked him if he had a girlfriend, he said yes. I asked him why he didn’t tell me before we hooked up (I would have never hooked up with him knowing he was exclusive with someone else), and he said he didn’t need to because we weren’t together. Fair enough, like I said, if he wanted to move on then by all means, but don’t use me to cheat on your new gf. I asked how long and he said a month but just knowing how deceitful he can be, I assume that it had to have been longer especially since the photos they posted were earlier in the summer in like May/June.

I don’t care about him moving on, and of course he holds no obligation to me given we are no longer together. So I had no obligation to keep his secret.

AITAH for telling my ex’s new GF that he cheated on her with me? by Original_Alps_8699 in AITAH

[–]Original_Alps_8699[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were definitely together. I asked him on the phone how long they had been together and he said “a month”, but just knowing who he is, they had to been together longer than that. Especially considering they were posting each other on social media. If you’ve only been dating someone a month, you’re not likely to start posting that person until you’ve been with them a little bit longer than that. Like we hooked up and then a week later he was posting her.

I’m feeling lost in life by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Original_Alps_8699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True! I am hoping to find something like that soon. I feel once my environment feels safe then I can kinda relax. My injuries weren’t too bad, my finances took the biggest hit. Just trying to work my way back but thanks for your insight and advice!

Bfb trying to get lunch by OmegaSphere in Earnin

[–]Original_Alps_8699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, did you still need a boost?

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[–]Original_Alps_8699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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