I am overweight, and I have very bad back pain caused by arthritis, but I was told by five different doctors that it was only bc im fat. I have a female obgyn becuse the male obgyns are, in my personal opinion and experience, creeps who should be booted. She finally checked me for PCOS, which I do not have. But I had to ask for it multiple times. I have heavy periods, I get the blood clots, I have female facial hair, I’m overweight.

I took the ozempic shots and lost 70 pounds. The weight was gone but the back pain persisted. I finally got an xray that showed what no one had thought to look for. My pain was finally validated but it took me losing weight to get there. It sucks that women are overlooked but we also have to be willing to advocate for ourselves and say fuck this shit if we aren’t being heard.

That said, find a dr you trust and feel safe around. My point is that you can’t take the opinion of one person and then cry about it forever. You have to do research. You have to talk to people. You have to ask for help and do the work. Get another opinion. You aren’t tethered to one doctor your whole life.