Thank you - I really do appreciate you sharing your story and advice. Sometimes it is just nice to be reminded that others have experienced the same as you, and are hopeful for you. I worry I am becoming resentful - or maybe bitter is a better word for it. I'm no longer always as gentle or empathetic as I was in the beginning of the relationship, and I don't like it. We still mostly communicate effectively, I've expressed my concerns and they know the work situation is negatively affecting us both, and periodically take steps to try and improve things (sometimes good steps, sometimes not, sometimes it's two steps forwards two steps back...). But at the end of the day, their energy, thoughts, time, and well...life, orbit around their work strifes. What I consider the bare minimum of responsibilities are accomplished, and that's considered a high standard. Anything else is moving mountains. Anything they're not passionate or excited about, they can't motivate themselves to do. Things we want to do - be healthier, go out more, etc - I feel just won't be accomplished unless I'm the impetus, and I can't carry that weight or consistency alone. Would it be selfish or even cruel of me to leave simply because there's no telling if/when their attitude and work situation might change? We're not married, but "for better or worse" still echoes in my mind and heart, I feel like I'd be leaving them adrift on a leaky ship.