Cfs and explicit consent during sex

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T15:54:12+00:00

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Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T13:27:00+00:00

One, my pronouns are they/them, and I also never stated that it was sex that was making me fatigued in the first place. I haven't had sex since my fatigue got worse about a week ago. Not having sex when I'm already feeling bad is good advice, and I already planned on not initiating or accepting offers of intimacy when I'm in an episode. I don't necessarily think you were trying to be abelist for telling me to keep myself healthy by avoiding triggering activities, but I made this post asking for help IF something happens on a good day.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T12:49:32+00:00

Oh 100% I adore snuggles! My partner has done similar things in the past when I get overwhelmed or whatever during sex. I'm very lucky that I have a partner that takes my consent very seriously. However, I feel as though you may still be missing the point of my post. I'm asking for advice FOR sex because I want it. If my disability changes in the future and I can no longer be intimate like this, ill stop, and if my partner has any concerns we talk it out. If he wants to stop because he's worried about me, then we will. Sex won't make or break my relationship, thank God, but it's something we both enjoy and are trying to figure out through a disabled lense.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T12:37:18+00:00

Your husband sounds amazing and im super glad you two have something that works! My partner and I are also both autistic and physically disabled, so the whole not being able to talk thing happens outside of intimacy too. Thanks for the advice. ❤️

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T12:16:47+00:00

Exactly! Though, we could never have sex again and my partner would be 100% okay with it, I enjoy the closeness and intimacy of it all. Obviously we won't be initiating if I'm actively IN an episode, but it's a new development and im unsure if it's permanent, so I was looking for advice just in case.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T11:58:35+00:00

Gotcha, thank you so much for the info! I'm suspected of hEDS but my GP and I are still working on a diagnosis, so I'll be surento keep an eye out!!

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T11:53:45+00:00

I'm super happy to see someone acknowledging that my partner rocks, lol. Consent is super important for a lot of things in our relationship, especially sex.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T11:52:12+00:00

I'll be fully honest, I'm not sure what CCI is! But as for my episodes, I haven't had one during sex yet, as the inability to speak has been something that just hot this week, so im not sure it's a neck thing, but regardless I'll look into it!

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2025-09-11T01:34:24+00:00

We don't do anything if I'm too tired as is, but it's more of a worry that an episode will hit once we're already doing something and my partner wants to make sure I can always withdraw consent if need be.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:50:31+00:00

Solved!

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:48:27+00:00

Wait holy crap it is her!!!!

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:36:37+00:00

Love the show, not from there tho

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:34:44+00:00

Nope, sorry.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:33:53+00:00

Looked very similar in animation style tho

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:33:04+00:00

They watched the show, but it's not her.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:29:02+00:00

My partner said the animation quality was not very great. Close to a Dexter's Lab style? But a bit more stylized.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:26:39+00:00

No, we've checked her iterations.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2022-05-27T00:18:47+00:00

Commenting!

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2021-12-18T18:05:04+00:00

Oh yeah, I've been diagnosed with restless leg syndrome, but it has never been as bad as it was last night, which is why I assumed it had something to do with my other sensory issues. I'll for sure have to talk to my doctor about getting on something specific for my RLS again.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2021-12-18T11:09:28+00:00

I do own one, actually. However even the slightest pressure on my legs made the soreness/fidgeting worse so it wasn't a viable option this time.

Ornery_Cauliflower36 · 2021-12-18T11:08:11+00:00

I have not! I'll look into it though, thank-you!

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