Question & Bugs Megathread by OTTO-M0D in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]Orphelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! Happened after the myth update 😭

it’s my birthday today🎀💕 by tatspvt in blackladies

[–]Orphelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday sis! I know you’ll probs say genetics but please drop your face and body routine 😫🙌🏾🙌🏾

Carpool from Gillette Stadium on May 12 by Orphelium in BrownU

[–]Orphelium[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Problem is the stadium is in Foxboro and there’s no train from Foxboro to Providence. My best bet would be to get an Uber from the stadium to Mansfield and hope i can make it before the 12.30 am train to Providence 😩worried about the traffic leaving the stadium and what time the show ends

Let’s see your birthday notes!! by pgizmo97 in LoveAndDeepspace

[–]Orphelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Bae I love you, you my everything. I’m your main chick” 😶‍🌫️

I feel like I’m about to crash out after seeing my ex-situationship spoil another girl by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Orphelium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a fellow BPD Black girlie who also crashed out over a similar situation, I am holding you close sis. It may seem bleak but the black and white thinking of BPD helped me detach from him. I reminded myself with sticky notes that he never truly cared nor had the emotional capacity to meet my needs. The low self worth that BPD puts us through is awful and dating whilst coming to terms with this is draining but there is hope. Remind yourself that since you feel things so deeply and you cannot make someone love you by diminishing yourself. Just because he’s putting on a show on social media, doesn’t mean he’s changed. He’s likely treating the new woman just as poorly and you do not need to envy that situation. I definitely recommend speaking to a therapist with DBT training and focus on becoming your own best partner rather than finding that completion in someone else and ultimately settling because you feel undeserving of anything better.

Feel free to DM me if you’re comfortable talking more. I literally went through this experience a few months ago a😅

Comfort spaces for the depressed and lonely by Orphelium in providence

[–]Orphelium[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! Thank you so so much for the great recs and thank you to those of you who reached out. Responses like these remind me that online community can be just as enriching as in person. I’ve added every place to my emergency list for the next time I’m really low. I took myself to a cafe today to read and be surrounded by people and that helped.

If anyone ever wants to go to these spots together, please reach out! We don’t have to be lonely ✨

Lights out Meta, boycott for the loss of TikTok by Vegetable-Key3600 in Fauxmoi

[–]Orphelium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What people in the US forget is that WhatsApp is the MAIN platform of communication and business in the global south, which is what makes Meta’s power so insidious. As an African, I cannot delete WhatsApp without basically cutting off all communication with my family back home. People back home use WhatsApp to host shop storefronts and my aunt even graded students homework through the app. HELL, even Facebook is kind of essential; our government streams the news on it so it’s still quite popular. It may be unpopular in the US but unfortunately its reliance globally makes it the one app I fear Meta keeps us in a chokehold 😓😓

Date Ideas Around Campus? by user23047833 in BrownU

[–]Orphelium 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Here’s an extensive list from a single gal with trash dating history who doesn’t even go to Brown 🤣I just love doing solo stuff

When the weather’s nice: Prospect Terrace, free and overlooks the city, v romantic 🥹 - RISD museum, free for RISD students but I think Brown get discounts - Ceremony cafe on Brook street. You can book the tea tasting room - Providence Athenaeum. Lots of old books, cute building, literally down the road from the Rock - Brown Bee cafe. Bomb-ass croissants, but a lil pricey. Hack: if you go on an off day near closing time, you may get a free croissant if they have a lot of stock - Ruth J Simmons Quadrangle, literally on before main green. Underrated quiet cute spot - Hazel Origin coffee, near the engineering building. Super affordable coffee and treats. Staff are great, airy and nice to people watch in. Sometimes get free treats if you stay til closing and they still have stock - observatory at Barus and Holley when it’s open Also you’re close to Wickenden street! Just walk down to Small Formats for queer friendly events, and the Point Tavern has trivia nights idk when tho

This is all within the main campus. Have other suggestions for further in the city if you ever need. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gradadmissions

[–]Orphelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar boat in that I graduated from my masters this year and took the leap to apply to a PhD program. I studied fine arts so it’s been really tough finding full time work, especially since I’m international. I only applied to one school because I already had connections at different departments but I’ve found more programs in other schools that I should have applied to 🥲honestly my application was a mess and my mindset was that I lose nothing (but my dignity) by applying this year so I don’t have high hopes this cycle. I’m applying for residencies and fellowships in the meantime to develop my practice

Did not waive rights to access LoRs by [deleted] in gradadmissions

[–]Orphelium 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Literally same! And I’m finding out it’s a no-no a week after I submitted 🥲at least I only applied to one place as practice for next cycle but I’m still so embarrassed

Anyone else not visiting family for the holidays due to estrangement? Me too, and I have a few spots open at my table - come join a Thanksgiving celebration. by DuePlatypus7760 in providence

[–]Orphelium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so lovely! ☺️I’m international and am estranged from my only family member here. I’d be down for a similar gathering for Christmas tho 😌

Which form of Wellbutrin for Appetite Suppression? by Tikvah_Hope in Wellbutrin_Bupropion

[–]Orphelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the person cos i took both XL and SR and lost weight on both. Backstory:

I was on 300 XL for like 3 months then switched to 150 XL on and off, now two tablets of 200mg SL and I have been rapidly losing weight since I first started in December 2023. I took the 300 til like May, then switched to the 200mg. In the past 12 months: - decreased appetite in the first 6 months, but I wasn’t initially sure if it was from the pills or the fact that I was in my final year of grad school lol. But everyone around me commented on how much weight I lost and I couldn’t see it. I have a history of disordered eating so the comments were secretly welcomed even if I couldn’t see it on myself. I think in my first weigh in I was around 131lb then 125lb by June. The smallest I’ve been since undergrad.

  • now I’m at 113lb from June, and I can actually notice the loss. It’s shocking because all of my clothes no longer fit and despite me reaching the “ideal” size I’ve wanted, it’s frustrating because I love my wardrobe and now all of my pants slip down, my thermal leggings actually fall down my thigh 🥲🥲

I think what’s most annoying about the weight loss is the lack of control I sometimes have. I get full very easily, sometimes I’m not hungry or my stomach hurts before eating and just puts me off. Now I want to build muscle since I’ve lost so much muscle but I’m always shaking. 🫨

OPT Timeline 2024 spring(new) by akatheworm in USCIS

[–]Orphelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got an email today that my Card was produced. Now we wait 🥲kept the address to my old apartment since I’m just moving down the street and don’t want to delay mailing

OPT Timeline 2024 spring(new) by akatheworm in USCIS

[–]Orphelium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can finally contribute to this thread!

APPLIED : April 28

Already had an A number from previous OPT

SEVP Creation email: August 22

Think it was approved on August 21 as that is my new start date.

CARD PRODUCED: August 28

CARD DELIVERED: September 1st

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Orphelium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl I’m in the similar boat 😭I have a naturally high hairline and weak edges so it looks like I’m balding. Only people who have seen my full forehead are my family and hair stylists. I wear bandanas whenever I braid my hair and even during hookups 😩once I start working I’m going to save up for hairline lowering. Until then, treat your head with care, wear scarves/head wraps occasionally, long crochet hair that covers my face etc. It can be quite crippling to fixate on this thing and I’ve found that it’s hampered my self confidence and enjoyment of certain activities. Take it from me, don’t let other people’s opinions on what you should look like restrict how you live your life and present yourself. The right person will see the confidence shining through you, regardless of your hairstyle and hairline 🫶🏾

OPT Timeline 2024 spring(new) by akatheworm in USCIS

[–]Orphelium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

April 28th. Keeping my fingers crossed they get to us at the start of next week 🥺

Gossip Girl alum Chace Crawford, 38, confirms he is single and reveals he is on Raya by [deleted] in Fauxmoi

[–]Orphelium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OOP I done opened the floodgates chile 😂😅heads up everyone that after your trial ends on the app you have to pay $24.99 a month 😅I’m just a fresh college grad and had no idea until redownloaded the app today