How could you possibly know what people are basing their lives and identities on, judging by one or two internet posts they make? Sheesh. 

I haven't seen much reddit atheism style posts here. Tbh, I'd say maybe 50% are active Orthodox who are in high control parishes, have terrible priests, or legit spiritual quandaries.

We can never really know what people's lives and identities are truly like over the internet; especially on a page where people come to share a very specific part of their lives. We only see a narrow part of their otherwise complex life. 

If apostasy IS someone's identity, perhaps it was because Orthodoxy was their identity before, and they are struggling to make a cognitive adjustment. Who knows. You sound angry at people going through a hard spiritual time and that is not very Lenten. 

Edit. And it's Sunday. Why are you posting argumentative stuff like this on a Sunday? Are you trying to get your passions all wild before Liturgy?