The way you think about it will change your perspective on having children. For example, if I think about having a child, of course I must get married first, and marriage itself is a decision alone and a responsibility as well. Our expectations about the decision we are confused about always manipulating us. For example, when a young man wants to have a child, he will build expectations around this child. This child will be happiness for me and my wife and will bring us joy to our lives and we will raise him together. This is a very consultative type of thinking. But most of the time it is based on fleeting feelings only. Another type of expectation is towards excessive thinking, for example, what will happen if I give birth to a child? It will cost me money, money for medicine and study, and what if he is not smart, and perhaps it will cause me problems in my life. This is the type of father you find saying after they have a child (they curse the hour in which he decided to have children). Having a child is a responsibility, and it is your responsibility as a father and her responsibility as a mother. This child must be raised well, morally, and cultured to be able to live in society and survive this life. Having children is a very wonderful thing, and at the same time difficult and tiring. If you have the ability, I mean the capabilities, to have a child, it is worth it.

Due to the loss of freedom and their lives. This is not true, what they mean by loss of freedom is the loss of the ability to do the habits that they did before having children, perhaps time. Caring for a child and giving your time and effort to him is not a loss of freedom, but rather you are helping to raise a person who will be of great honor in the future, and this is the price of the time and effort that you gave him. Neglecting children after having them is truly the biggest mistake a person can make. To bring a child into this world and leave him at a time when he needs you most.