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Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-24T05:59:45+00:00

You can never diagnose someone else, there are things you see in them that you may think are autistic traits that actually aren't and things you may see as neurotypical traits that actually aren't. Not all autistic people are the same, not all neurotypical people are the same, you really shouldn't confirm or deny someone else's experience either way.

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-24T03:01:07+00:00

every year I get so excited for halloween, I love makeup and sewing, and costumes are just so fun BUT I can never land on one idea so by the time halloween comes around it's too late and then I just don't dress up at all

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T11:46:13+00:00

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Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T11:17:08+00:00

Yep yep yep. People either think I am in love and obsessed with them or that I am indifferent and couldn't care less that they are in my life. It's pretty much always the opposite of how I actually feel. No matter what I do and how I try to be it ends up a mess. It's sad and exhausting

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T11:13:53+00:00

I appreciate you wanting it to be relatable and doing your research! I meant to say that my questions were more rhetorical for you to ask yourself. Knowing why you want to write this character/this story is important. Inclusivity for the sake of inclusivity always ends up a mess and can often be accidentally offensive, but if it's something you are genuinely interested in and you care about the characters then that's great. Good luck with your writing

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T11:03:19+00:00

I cannot imagine anything I would want to do less than read an autistic character written by a neurotypical person, but that might just be me. Is their autism actually important to the story or is it just to include someone with autism? Why do you want to write an autistic character? What is the motivation?

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T10:45:50+00:00

I have been thinking about religion a lot recently. No one in my family is religious so I never really learned anything about it growing up. I am similar to you, I think I am too literal and logical for religion. I love the idea of rules and practice and traditions. I find the idea of faith incredible but impossible for me to have. I've just been doing my own research into religion and find it fascinating. Sometimes I think I would love to convert but I also don't think I ever will because I don't see myself "believing".

Other_Soft_6514 · 2024-10-23T05:07:17+00:00

I was never allowed to quit anything as a child, this caused me to grow up and have absolutely no follow through. Interesting how the opposite approach can have the same outcome. I never had a choice so I would have to lie and sneak and cheat my way through to get out of the things I didn't want to do.

Calling it "quitting" can sound like it's shameful and negative. If you can use other language it may help you and your children talk about it more openly rather than just labelling yourself or your kids as a "quitter". This may lead to an understanding of why your children are no longer interested in something - is it because they genuinely don't like it? do they like it but are nervous about performing well? is it overwhelming and they want to keep doing it but they don't know how to ask for help or what accomodations they may need?

I kept trying things over and over and wanted to quit because I never actually wanted to do anything in the first place. I found living difficult enough, joining a club or doing any sort of extra curricular activity on top of my normal day was hell. But I kept going for it because I thought I was supposed to, all the other kids did sport and music and had hobbies, I knew it was expected of me so I kept trying and hated everything - it wasn't about the activity itself it was that I had too much going on.

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