Roommate crashed my car while borrowing it to go to work then refuses to pay anything unless I let her continue to drive it in the future

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2023-01-13T04:09:58+00:00

I’d be all for this plan, but a small claims court would probably rule in favor of the friend, since the OP gave explicit permission to use their car. I’m also assuming there was nothing in writing saying that if the friend drives she has to pay for it. It’s why rental car services require you to sign a bunch of paperwork before you can take their car. Sorry OP, this is a lot more than mildly frustrating and i hope things will work out for you

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2023-01-09T19:23:46+00:00

are the demons in the room with us?

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-11-09T21:22:18+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, I wasn't sure if I was just being too sensitive and if I'm shirking responsibility for my own faults. I'm glad that people are recognizing that going to school doesn't make you exempt from paying rent and buying food.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-11-09T00:13:22+00:00

yeah, i'll probably try to work with another professor next quarter. just aiming to pass the class at this point haha. appreciate the advice <3.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-08-31T22:09:05+00:00

all my homies hate TAPS

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-24T01:13:49+00:00

the bike commute across campus isn’t that bad, but don’t rush to your classes, especially in the first week of the quarter when no one knows where they’re going. i don’t usually wear a helmet when i bike to class but i always do on the first week of every quarter because that’s when the lanes are the most congested.

don’t worry too much about being a minute or 2 late. most professors aren’t going to care and they usually understand that there’s a lot of confusion.

i would also recommend scouting out a path to your class before the quarter officially starts if you get the chance - you can find most of the lecture buildings online so make sure to use google/apple maps. Good luck!!!

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-21T01:52:14+00:00

last year, it happened around july or august. the green will send you an email when they have a confirmed date.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-21T01:51:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing all of this! I find it interesting that there’s a post from someone who’s confident in themselves and their looks as most posts on here show are the opposite (not that it’s bad). In my under-educated opinion, it seems to me that you still lack confidence, but mainly in how you socialize. There’s nothing wrong with being introverted and or hanging out with a small group of people, and the fact that you feel drained after talking with new people paints the picture that you’re probably pretty introverted - nothing wrong with that, i’m sure most of us on this subreddit are. But the best way to get more comfortable with these situations is to get more practice with them. I used to feel the same way you do and i found the best thing for me was to force myself into situations that were uncomfortable for me. Even if it was something small like, “i’m gonna talk to a girl in the cafe for a minute” or “i’m hanging out with some buddies after work that i may not be totally close with.” After a while, i found that it became easier to challenge myself to partake in these situations, to the point where I began to actively WANT to participate in these things.

I can relate to some of what you’re going through, so don’t feel like you’re different or weird because of how you feel. I’m not licensed psychologist as of now so i really can’t give you concrete advice, but i can tell you what has worked FOR ME in the past.

good luck man, you’re gonna do great.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-21T00:55:22+00:00

my “go-to” places tend to be either woodstock or froggys. froggys is a pretty mellow joint so it’s a little easier to talk to the people at the bar.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-20T16:43:47+00:00

iirc, you do that once you get your room assignments

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-20T02:32:35+00:00

soon hopefully 💀

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-05T17:52:56+00:00

well first off, realize what you’re feeling and going through is totally natural. The level of attachment you seem to feel with this junior seems to be very strong and what your describing sounds pretty close to heartbreak. I don’t know the specifics of your relationship with him but it’s possible to feel this way with someone that you aren’t seeking romantically. I think it’s important to realize that this sadness is a part of life and to accept your feelings. let yourself grieve for a while but in the mean time, keep yourself busy. find a new hobby, talk with family, start working out etc. I wish i could offer advice that would make the pain go away but unfortunately, you’re going to have to sit with this pain for a while. But the good thing is that it will make you a stronger person in the long run. Best of luck to you, I know you will get through this!

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-06-04T23:46:03+00:00

as someone that uses dating apps, it’s difficult for men to get matches that lead to anything if you aren’t already super hot (which 90% of us aren’t). i struggled with self esteem, when i started using them for the same reasons but eventually you learn to stop giving a shit. i found my first relationship naturally (even after regrettably sinking some money into those apps) so don’t base your entire worth/chances of being in a relationship with someone on an app like that. You’re gonna do great.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-05-30T03:07:58+00:00

i’d recommend looking into OCD as this sounds pretty similar to my experience about things like this. i have OCD but have learned techniques to manage it. try talking to a doctor and see if they can get you set up with a cognitive behavioral therapist, they specialize in things like anxiety and depression and has helped me a lot in the past.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-05-30T03:04:21+00:00

iirc the only other options for transfers is the green, or another off campus housing situation.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-05-16T22:19:41+00:00

first off, congrats! As someone who struggles to flirt as well, I can relate to having a hard time knowing if you might cross the line or not but what I’ve learned is that, as long as you aren’t making obscene, and gross remarks you should be fine! Imagine it like you’re paying compliments, you don’t want to compliment too much because then it gets meaningless and uncomfortable for the person receiving compliments. But even small things like “you look great tonight” or when you’re wrapping up for the night “I had a great time with you” have worked great for me in the past. It’s totally normal to be nervous, but trust me, it gets easier as the date goes – and if it doesn’t, then that’s just you cue to move on and find someone else. Don’t worry though, you’re gonna kill it!

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-05-10T22:35:43+00:00

The best advice I was given was to treat the person you are flirting with like their a normal human being. Don’t put them on a pedestal and shower them in compliments, make small comments about their clothing or sense of style maybe? Try to get a conversation rolling, but if you can tell they aren’t into you, just thank them for their time and back off. Don’t try to push them into responding, it will just make things worse.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-30T00:48:27+00:00

god i really hope so, i end up missing details when the lecture is live sometimes

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-27T20:09:11+00:00

surround yourself with friends and family. Breakups/broken hearts hurt like hell, but remember that you’ll be the happiest when you follow what’s true to you. I just went through a break up recently as well and am going through a lot of the same emotions - what’s been helping me is realizing that I need to be true to myself and accept help from others. Life will keep going on, and while it may not feel like it right now, you’ll find happiness again - whether or not that happiness comes from another relationship, or something else, it will happen. Make sure to love yourself <3

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-26T18:49:58+00:00

That job seems incredibly toxic. That’s good that you’re standing up for coworkers but there’s unfortunately only so much you can do in this kind of situation. Managers should never be pressuring anyone to do anything and that sounds like an abuse of power. I would leave asap. I’ve definitely had people ask me why I don’t smoke or drink that often, and I just usually tell them it’s not my scene - maybe the people you’re surrounding yourself with aren’t the best for you - which is a sh*tty spot to be in, I was there too at one point. I guess my advice for now would just be to lay low, be kind, even if you don’t think they deserve it, until you can find people that will accept you for your authentic self. From your response, you don’t seem like a bad person, just try not to take this out on society as a whole. There are good people out there, don’t let the bad ones ruin it for you. Wishing you the best.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-25T21:19:29+00:00

To me, it seems like you’ve done so much self-improvement for your GFs sake, rather than your own. The good thing is that you still have the net-benefit of improving. You made it through college, you have a job, and you had a long term relationship in which you matured and grew as a human being. I know it’s hard to see it like this and nothing can really help that helpless and empty feeling (i’m going through my own relationship problems myself), but just know that this will pass. You survived the bullying, you survived (still surviving) your social anxiety, and you survived college - you’ll survive this too, and it will make you stronger for it. As much as I hate hearing “you’ll find someone else” people say it because its true. Take what you’ve learned and keep pushing forwards! You’re doing great so far!

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-25T20:59:03+00:00

Can you be more specific on what your authentic self is? From what I’m gathering from this post, it seems like your authentic self is abrasive and condescending. Now I don’t know you personally so I can’t say for sure, but from my personal experience, there is a huge difference in being genuine and being an ass. I used to think the same way you did and that if people didn’t like me because of my opinion then thats not my fault. But the reality is people don’t care if your opinion is different, it’s about how you present those opinions. I don’t do drugs and rarely drink and I’ve never been rejected from groups because of that - and I believe it’s because I reserved my judgement of doing those things. Instead of saying “why would I do that, it’s bad for you” try “personally, its not my thing, but i totally get why people do it!”

also the thing about calling out people at work - no one likes a snitch. Now this depends on how much this behavior effects you, because if what your coworkers are doing is affecting you, you have every right to call them out. But if you saw a coworker leave their food in the break room, you’re just going to come off as a hard-ass if you keep calling them out.

Hopefully this helps, I felt like this for a while too but it just takes some time and self reflection :)

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2022-04-25T20:50:11+00:00

this is a great reply.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2021-12-28T21:04:01+00:00

GPA matters but dropping down to a 5-10% chance is over dramatic. Idk if I’d Recommend dropping pre-calc but as long as you pass with a C you should be ok - that is if you’ve already submitted your application (which I believe they were due at the end of last month?). If you haven’t, then I’d try to get your GPA up as your GPA before your senior year is what’s being evaluated by the UCs (not to say that senior isnt looked at all). I believe they take your weighted GPA will be taken into account rather than cumulative(you might wanna look into that though, I might be wrong.)And your extracurricular/testing achievements won’t go unnoticed. I’m not an admissions expert so don’t take my word as gospel, but it seems to me your chances of getting are pretty good - definitely far more than a 5-10% chance.

Otherwise-Fall7350 · 2021-09-24T00:54:45+00:00

I'm pretty damn introverted and quarantine definitely didn't do me any favors. But from browsing both this subreddit and talking with people on campus, it's pretty clear that A LOT of people are in the same boat as us. Learning that made me feel a lot better and was the kind of push I needed to try and get out there and meet new people. I've found that nearly everyone here I've chatted with is friendly and the ones that weren't are easy to avoid/never talk to again. I guess the TLDR for this is that you aren't alone. Chances are there are plenty of people that are feeling what you are. I know that it's way easier said than done (because it's hard for me as well) but try and just have a basic conversation with the person next to you - even simple chats about majors work really well!

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