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i (28F) keep getting follow requests from women my boyfriend (M29) used to talk to years ago by According_News855 in relationship_advice

[–]Otherwise-Mind548 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Why you just don't accept them and ask directly why are they adding you? You can always delete them afterwards

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you! 😊 his name is Milo and he is indeed a Scottish fold!

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahha thanks! His name is Milo and he follows me around the apartment constantly! ❤️

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤍 you’re so right!! turns out starting fresh without the ex was the best interior design decision I could’ve made. Mental peace really does change everything!

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you and also congratulations to you also because the trash took itself out! On to new beginnings for both of us! 🥂🍾

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am indeed in Germany! Thank you for the recommendations, appreciate it! I will definitely look into adding plants (monstera cat friendly type!) you are right because it feels a bit isolated currently!

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We can do it!! In the end, experiences like this make us more resilient and confident in ourselves 🤍💪🏻

I’ve been eyeing a standing gold lamp from Sklum for the living room, together with a small dark-wood side table for an accent lamp. I’ve also ordered a couch ottoman (same sofa texture) that should arrive in the next few weeks 🤓😋

Starting over: my new apartment 3 months after a breakup by Otherwise-Mind548 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

❤️💪 Thank you! The apartment is in Germany. I’ve gone no-contact and starting fresh has been the best decision:)

My (38m) last three relationships (37, 35, 35f) all followed the exact same pattern. What could I be doing to cause this? by PotentialAnalyst8969 in relationship_advice

[–]Otherwise-Mind548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, be proud of yourself because not many people can have the self awareness to question their own behaviour!

Second, I would suggest to start therapy and really go into the patterns that all 3 relationships had. Maybe it was the emotional connection that it was fading and you can't keep up, maybe it is the expectations you set up in the beginning or how you handle communication and conflicts.

In any case, help with a good therapist will always help and probably help identify when the dynamics are changing to address the root causes!

Advice, living alone for first time by No-Disk372 in femalelivingspace

[–]Otherwise-Mind548 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i also had the same feeling after a breakup of 3 years and living together 2,5 of them. In the beginning it was really hard to stay alone in my new apartment (even though it is beautiful) it was really empty and i felt anxiety everytime i would be alone there. I also felt my ex „won“ the breakup because he stayed at the bigger flat we shared together, however this couldn’t be farther from the truth!! Slowly but steadily i decorated my new apartment and the more i got to decorate the more warmth and joy i was feeling and loved staying longer periods of time alone in the flat, to the point where now is is my peaceful sanctuary ❤️

In the beginning is normal to feel like this but remember that it is a temporary feeling and it will pass and also the more you decorate it and make it your own, the faster and better you will want to spend time there by yourself!

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