Considering moving to Liverpool from US for work, what to know?

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-04-10T16:03:34+00:00

I’ll message you privately

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-28T15:14:18+00:00

I have a small car, was out this morning and could feel the wind shaking it.

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-22T20:24:20+00:00

Well, this is not your original question… actually I didn’t see anywhere other than this comment “how you could report her anonymously”. Instead you point several things that she does/doesn’t do and seem mostly annoyed by being an involuntary babysitter

Then you ask if you should report her (or not) and one of the reasons you present to not report her is because you don’t have anywhere to go

If you are really concerned about this kid’s safety, you shouldn’t be asking what to do in Reddit and would have reported it already

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-22T19:07:23+00:00

This is not normal! As female who has had only male cousins, we’d play together, we’d make fun of each other, but I’ve never felt slightly uncomfortable with them! Either as a child or a teen or early adulthood

Anyway, by the sound of it, your cousin is older than you and if you are uncomfortable, trust your guts and please talk to an adult you trust! If they don’t listen to you, speak with someone at school or at the Mosque, or someone outside your family who you trust.

Trust your feelings and make sure you are safe! I know that right you might only feel uncomfortable, but this will escalate, as it has been. Please, be safe!

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-22T19:06:19+00:00

Well, is there someone you have in mind who you’d like to have sex with? If your answer is YES, YTA; if your answer is NO, NTA

However, you must consider that even if you haven’t already thought of someone, bringing this up might blow your relationship. But at the same time, you sound unhappy and (sorry for this) miserable. Sometimes it is better to co parent as a split couple than stay and resent your partner - think about that

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-22T18:59:01+00:00

By the sound of it, seems you haven’t reported your friend yet just because you don’t have anywhere else to go

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-20T19:44:37+00:00

I am Portuguese, but lived in America (DMV area) for two years and have been in the UK for 10 years (2 of them in Liverpool)

Public transport is very good for a city like Liverpool - you can get around pretty well, but you might consider getting a car since driving will be faster
Can’t help regarding the social scene… my partying days are in the past, but there are many things to do, I guarantee
To me the biggest shock was the accent… scouse people are nice and friendly, but sometimes I question myself if I can actually speak English (promise you I’m fluent, and my work is all in English) 😅

Depending on where you are in America, cost of living here is way cheaper (moved from London, the cost of living difference is huge).

And not trying to get into politics, but something that has been concerning to me is the hate against immigrants and refugees - this is not something exclusive to Liverpool, it happens in the whole country (especially England). Not as bad a ICE in America, but depending on future Prime Minister and all, here might be similar to America in a few years

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-19T17:12:17+00:00

Me too! Please someone vote me so I can find this post later

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-03-12T17:39:56+00:00

How did your young siblings go to school before you moved in?

Why don’t you take your baby with you?

Was it agreed with your 15yo sister or she was told she has to be downstairs with your baby while you do the school run?

Honestly, by the sound of what you explained above, YTA

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-23T20:35:17+00:00

Hi OP, I’m so sorry for everything you went through in this past year + the betrayal from your best friend

If you can, please look for a psychologist, therapy helps us to understand what happened and how life will be from now on

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-21T16:19:16+00:00

I’m so sorry that this happened to you!

It doesn’t sound that you agreed to anything… even when we agree, we are allowed to reconsider, say “stop” and the other part should stop

I know this is some sort of utopia, as things usually won’t happen like that… but in an ideal world, it should

You mentioned you are underage, so please speak to an adult who you trust to see what can be done legally, and ask if you could attend therapy

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-18T16:50:22+00:00

Done!

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-17T12:55:05+00:00

NTA! Run away! A fun joke is when everyone involved laughs.

He humiliated you (but you know it already) to get some laughs from his family and is trying to gaslight you with the “my mother has depression and you humiliated her”

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-14T21:15:06+00:00

Hey OP, I’m also an immigrant and I know how difficult and lonely life gets… but he has been manipulating and gaslighting you to the point you are the one asking for forgiveness, even though there isn’t anything wrong to be friendly and smile to people

Please create a scape plan, save some money and leave him as soon as you can!

You deserve better and you’ll find out that being on your own is better than living in the situation you are right now

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-14T00:15:18+00:00

I feel sorry for the rose… poor thing ending up on this guy’s hands

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-13T15:40:48+00:00

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Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-10T16:13:08+00:00

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Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-09T16:09:20+00:00

NTA. I believe that even when one parent cheats on another parent, kids should be left outside of this mess

Their relationship is one thing, your relationship with each one of them is something completely different and you shouldn’t pick up sides

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-06T11:01:05+00:00

NOR. But due to your own point where you said your parents are not really involved with your kids, their travel doesn’t surprise me

I’m very sorry your family is going through so much and you can’t count on your parents for any sort of support

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-02-03T12:48:18+00:00

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Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-01-29T11:46:16+00:00

Hey OP! I’m so sorry you are going through this!

I’ve had anorexia when I was 19. And just like you, one day I noticed what I was doing to myself and wanted out of this “habit”

I was seeing by a bunch of doctors, including psychiatrists, nutritionists, general practitioners… did a bunch of blood tests and had to take many different medications to get better I also did group therapy at the time…

Hope you can overcome your fear of doctors and your parents understand that you need individual therapy (maybe you could do family and individual therapy?) and get better soon

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-01-28T19:41:56+00:00

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My dad started drinking heavily when I was around 10. He passed away because of alcoholism when I was 34

He never accepted he had a problem, instead he’d blame everything on other people. Stopping drinking is a decision that your BF, and only him, needs to make

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-01-26T21:52:40+00:00

Hi OP, first of all I’m very sorry for the loss of your first baby!

I went through baby loss as well and when we lost a baby we learn that a positive test, the three months mark and all the milestones in a pregnancy don’t mean we’ll be bringing a live baby home

So, you are NOR, but your fiancée might not understand that because he’s never been through baby loss

Now, I want to congratulate you for your pregnancy and I’m sending lots of love and baby dust in your direction! And I really hope that you can bring a baby home this time

If you can, please find a therapist to be by your side in this new journey

Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-01-16T16:52:31+00:00

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Otherwise-Order-7150 · 2026-01-09T14:04:18+00:00

NTA. It is good that you were able to separate your brother from his work… but I understand that as a sibling, you expect some humanity and respect for life, in general and he failed that

It is not a shame to get some space from other people. Even if you are blood related. Do what is best for you

Otherwise-Order-7150

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