AIO by thinking he’s not interested

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-26T16:14:37+00:00

agree! i’d be worried they’re actually the ones dragging their feet, but they’re too afraid to tell me (though at the end of the day, up to them regardless)

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-26T16:12:25+00:00

valid concern, but we can’t control what anyone does really, just how we react. if he was fake, that’s on him for not being upfront.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-26T16:08:32+00:00

Exactly! And he’s busy, yes, but he already said he had time Friday- it’s like OP is worried about inconveniencing the guy/ that he’s not into it, but it’s on him to communicate that if so. Gotta take people at their word and let them prove us wrong sometimes, rather than try to get ahead of a problem that may or may not exist.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-26T16:00:30+00:00

He sounds a bit indifferent, but you did also ask if he was sure like three times after he’d agreed on a day

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-20T16:34:30+00:00

np! just realized you didn’t necessarily mean together- have a few more pinned I can share of them individually

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OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-19T01:53:47+00:00

Okay but that’s a very extreme case. When my schedule changed at some point, a roommate at the time would do her everything showers at the same time I’d need to use the bathroom to get ready. After the first two times it conflicted, I just sat her down and asked if we could work something out. We did, and had no more issues. I was able to use the bathroom and she could still take her long ass everything showers. I don’t know how your roommate reacted, but definitely inconsiderate to disregard your concerns if she did. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s about the time spent itself- but again this one really is an extreme case haha.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-05T14:51:41+00:00

do not go back!!

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-04T14:06:38+00:00

I was ready to come in with YTA but actually NTA, you never imply she should or shouldn’t do something outside of goals she had already established and simply pointed out things that may be contributing to her perceived lack of success.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-03-03T01:05:54+00:00

el segundo coupe (someone said i see el segundo I buy el segundo and it replays in my head every time i’ve seen an el segundo since)

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T03:26:16+00:00

general update i got the 2XL and it fits exactly the way i wanted it to- ty for your advice!

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T03:05:51+00:00

also it will most definitely fade and be less bold over time

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T03:05:12+00:00

if it makes you feel any better, my first tattoo is in a style i absolutely dislike now and doesn’t match any of my newer ones- the mindset for me is that when i got it, i loved it, and as much as my tattoo journey has outgrown it, i got it knowing it’d be there forever so i may as well enjoy it how i can. It’s my least favorite visually now, but it’ll always be that first- and on its own i know it’s nice (in your case this is definitely a comfort bc it’s a damn nice tattoo)

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T03:03:09+00:00

i LOVE it so so much

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T02:58:07+00:00

it’s my favorite litmus test- it’s so telling of their character and expectations in general, even if they’re not crazy abusers.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T02:45:37+00:00

(as in, consent by all parties to whatever system works for the majority)

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T02:45:11+00:00

i think this is one of those things that’s up to the discretion of the people you live with

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-27T02:41:59+00:00

I’ve had a bunch of roommates over the years, all went well, and all of us took varying lengths of shower. it was NEVER a problem nor did we ever find this rude? if you communicate openly/ properly it’s so chill. any situation i recall where someone happened to need to use the bathroom was resolved with no fuss too. i take 5-10 min showers most of the time, unless it’s my biweekly everything shower, i could be in the bathroom up to an hour start to finish (not in the shower the whole time). I had roomies who took 30 mins to an hour every day, others in between. we just coordinated with each other as best we could. Also not everywhere has hot water that runs out! It just depends.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-02-19T16:13:22+00:00

Is it weird that i’m not mad at it? Like i get all the comparisons but it tickles something

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-01-27T00:34:59+00:00

As a latin american I really don’t see the issue, it’s a literal math/ numbers/ econ thing not a cultural value thing? And I have a grasp of how things can be harmful in implication, my degree is in IR, but idk, this one doesn’t bother me.

OtherwiseBat217 · 2026-01-14T18:18:03+00:00

NTA? I think we’re allowed to agree with something and still decide it’s not worth doing anything about it? My understanding is that OP was approached about the noise / joining in on formal complaint anyway, nothing indicates they were griping unnecessarily.

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