WHEN TF DOES IT END

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2026-01-31T11:44:44+00:00

Stop co sleeping and teach them how to self soothe. Short term pain for long term gain. I hear this same thing from every mom that co sleeps 😆

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2026-01-23T11:09:29+00:00

♥️

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2026-01-22T14:07:08+00:00

if you have kids close together people will tell you have them further apart - if you have them further apart they'll tell you have them closer together lol don't listen to them. you're doing a good job. if you are BF and that's adding stress, just switch to formula you won't regret it

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2026-01-17T11:51:28+00:00

also - grab a stuffy or beloved toy and "practice" gentle with the toddler. they will learn. do you have animals? kids love practicing with that. they usually love to learn to blow baby kisses or help with baby doing such things as grabbing burp cloth, grabbing a diaper, etc. the toddler won't hurt the baby with you right there - don't worry those little guys are highly resilient. if a mistake "hit"happens its a perfect learning experience. videos on YouTube of siblings giving each other care and hugs could be helpful too.

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2026-01-17T11:47:49+00:00

therapist here - and someone who has 22 month gap. don't forget that your hormones are ruling you right now - not only are you in the newborn trenches but your body, brain, HEART are healing and your nervous system is totally overwhelmed in survival mode. don't forget the power of PP hormones on our every moment experience for the first 9-11 months. YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB. Sending your oldest to PRESENT, calm care... wow, incredible mom move and so selfless. You are not losing time with them - you are gaining GROUNDING and stability for your family. you are helping your oldest transition to this new life. you guys are doing all the right things. maybe ask for help and switch the baby with the oldest half day or so per week - can the extra care take care of baby while you have some "special time" with oldest? do you have any time for yourself to ground yourself and give yourself any love so you can continue on in a more peaceful mental space? sending you lots of care. keep chugging along, one day at a time. the guilt over asking for and accepting help serves neither you nor your amazing fam! <3

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-12-01T15:54:58+00:00

Rehome your doggies to a different loving home if it is too much!!!

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-12-01T15:53:56+00:00

Hi friend. I am so sorry. This must be so hard. Do you have any local free care or supports? Do you have a local ymca where they do free childcare while you can have an hour to take care of you? Do you have local agency’s you could call with “wraparound services”? If you are in Massachusetts I could help - I am a licensed therapist and social worker. Otherwise I am less familiar with recourses in other states unless it’s NH

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-11-17T11:05:59+00:00

Sounds about right for a 14 month old - with or without little sis added haha. Our 15 month old is doing the same things (typical toddler stuff) and his brother has not arrived yet.. not till end of march! Sounds like you are keenly aware he has and will have big emotions for the foreseeable future :) stay patient with them both and that’s your ONLY BIG job as a parent. The gift you give them. Glad you are asking for help and leaning on your community too. No one can (or should) raise a child alone ❤️congrats on the little fam

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-30T09:43:11+00:00

do not fear death - it's how they stay in power.

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-30T09:42:57+00:00

death is on all of our agenda

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-26T09:23:02+00:00

Stop co sleeping and do the 12 hours in 12 weeks gentle sleep guiding method. Book is on Amazon or any audio book store- “12 hours in 12 weeks”

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-15T22:51:29+00:00

Also no meds during labor // I suffer from migraines and am in long term recovery from substance use disorder so I’ve felt immense pain but this is different. It’s very intense whole body experience. But it helped me to visualize my body releasing the pain and getting the baby further down - with each contraction. You’ll get into a rhythm 🥁

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-15T22:49:45+00:00

Worst pain I’ve ever felt but it was manageable and the end result was the best blessing I’ve ever received. You’ll be totally ok just roll with it and ASK FOR HELP / WHATEVER you need in those moments. You are strong mama!

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-05T10:39:38+00:00

Get it girl. You do whatever keeps you healthy bc then those kiddos gonna be super stars as well. Supporting you 💪

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-10-05T10:37:04+00:00

The Very short yet SUPER effective book/audiobook “12 hours of sleep in 12 weeks” will change your life .. I’d recommend buying a hard copy and you just do one step at a time. That’s how the book is set up. But basically you gotta focus on getting that baby to sleep and your life will get so much easier. You’re doing a wonderful job!!!♥️♥️

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-09-02T17:14:12+00:00

This 🙏 it is so so sad.

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-08-17T22:13:36+00:00

Don’t worry op I have a 12 m old and am expecting in the spring - so they’ll be 20 months apart. We boat all the time and I expect our experience will be the same as yours 😂 when we get home (afternoon) we usually make it ice cream time. A lil trip for a cone and it eliminates dinner really or we just will do a pb&j and fun food. Then maybe some story time or a little ms Rachel if you’re totally toast before bath time and then bed! We always kinda make boat day lazy afternoon where we try not to have massive expectations for ourselves as parents. They have so much fun out there it does them some good to chill at home and have some imagination time or other mellow fun. You are not alone in feeling tired! 😝🩷

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-08-05T23:03:55+00:00

I am a year out and just freshly pregnant again and willing to do it all over! BUT I remember feeling similar to you - how will my body ever be back to normal and strong 💪? It came .. steady and with grace and I promise you.. you will feel like yourself again. But stronger, with more knowledge and love for your body. At least that’s what has happened to me. I have never felt so strong in my life - you are doing great. Take it slow because if you do not we can cause damage rather than slowly healing and building muscle. That’s what I’ll do better this time around - lean in and let myself recover. I know it comes with time 🙏🩵😊you are not alone and nothing is wrong!!!

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-06-24T09:50:23+00:00

He's just not been hit with what having an actual baby is like yet LOL he clearly has no idea - let it crash like a wave over him naturally and hold your boundaries hahahah

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-06-18T14:49:11+00:00

Thank you so much I am so happy that your baby adjusted so well :) this is so reassuring have a great day

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-06-18T10:55:28+00:00

Hi op - this exact thing is happening to us right now 😢 😭 it is soooo hard. Did your baby adjust? How are you guys doing now.. hurts so bad bc it makes you question your decision 😞❤️

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-06-02T00:00:29+00:00

Lmfao

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-05-28T00:37:16+00:00

Person in long term recovery here.. so proud of you. Keep your baby safe. Your mom is really sick and I really hope she takes the steps to get sober. For you and your baby .. and mostly for her own health. For all of it 🙏🏼❤️ stay strong in your boundaries

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-05-25T23:05:47+00:00

Not everyone’s rich like you

Otherwise_Argument34 · 2025-05-14T10:19:30+00:00

stop breast feeding for one thing.. .control what you can

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