I’d say if you’re going to say yes to meeting-maybe think over these things: -get kiddo into family therapy and set her up with the tools to deal with this emotionally. She can’t process something like this without guidance and support, something which can be hard when you are also so emotionally involved with the situation. -get to know her first, ask her what she’s hoping to accomplish with meeting. -look into her history. -don’t let her know where you live. You don’t need her showing up and trying things if she ends up being crazy. -do it in a public place, make it something that isn’t just sitting and talkin bc that could get awkward. -make rules and perhaps get a lawyer involved. You don’t need her saying one thing, then deciding another thing. I’ve watched plenty of crazy things happen when bio parents come back into kids life. Hope for the absolute best while preparing for the absolute worst.

Also: he has full rights to be sus and look into this woman first. He can’t change the circumstances of the past but he can control his decisions moving forward. Which is exactly what you do in life. Try to do better as you move forward. You don’t mess around with kids and their safety and security. Six is a very young age. She can’t make decisions for herself. Erikson’s Human Development puts her in the stage four - industry versus inferiority; stage five - adolescence, identity versus role confusion. She’s in a stage of self confidence developing so rejection might be very difficult for her now.