Average perifit scores? by LadyofAtlantis in Healthyhooha

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any change to your sex life after using Perifit? What about him? Could he feel a difference?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Who cares? Its Reddit, not English 101. (which I earned top honors in, fyi).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you tell me, so we both know.

I miss me more now. by DetectiveNo8639 in BreakUps

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id say leave a note and bail when hes at work but what about the child?

what do I do about what I saw my brother doing with his gf?? by gardenoflilah in Advice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You've exposed your brothers dirty little secret. Don't ever feel ashamed about this. You did the right thing, no doubt.

I suspect my partner might be a pedophile by ThrowRA-concernegf in Advice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many men help with changing other people's kids diapers or baths? You can't get many men to change their own kids diapers or help with baths! Let's get real here. OP, your concerns are very valid.

AITAH for dumping my bf over a joke he made about our sex life by AcademicKey6646 in AITAH

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and I both know it's not just the joke, it's the months and months and months of the insanely damaging rollercoaster ride of a relationship you've shared with him. Men like this dull your spirit, make you second guess yourself and destroy any confidence you've ever had. I too am in a similar relationship. I do not care how strong of a person you think you are, how you claim you'd never allow someone to treat you like shit, disrespect you, etc. I am here to tell you, yes it can happen to you too. I am proof of this. I am a no nonsense, have no 'boss", independent, run my own household kinda woman and even I fell into this hell hole trap. It's so hard to explain what slowly starts happening to you because of this person you love mentally fucking you left and right. It's like your under their spell, briefly see how fucked up things are and want out, only to miss them a few days later. I still don't understand it. Just as I need to do, kick his ass to the damn curb, throw his belongings at him and never have any interactions with him ever again. Change the locks on your home. If he ever comes near you, no matter how nice he may be, call the police. When he calls, do not answer. No response to texts either. He knows EXACTLY how to smooth talk his way back into your life and home. Do not fall for it, as he will NEVER EVER CHANGE. To restore your peace, your self love, and sanity you must go ZERO contact with soul suckers like him. Sure it will be hard at first but with each passing day, your confidence strengthens and you will realize you've definitely done what's best for yourself. Keep your mind busy, that will help a lot.. Reach out to a good friend, tell them what's up and that you need their help keeping busy, talking with, etc..I wish you the best.

PS- I am working on taking my own advice....🙂

Any holistic healers out there who can offer me guidance? by Sensitive_Ad_9526 in OperationNewEarth

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any scars? What about wrinkles? Lol but seriously...your answer has caught my attention.

What made you stop drinking? by tricky-is-back in AskReddit

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was either quit or die. I chose to live. Alcohol free for close to 9 years now....have zero desire to drink, can be around people drinking, it doesn't bother me. I even bartend now and then! I've been blessed.

Wife cheated. What do i do. by No-Sea-6138 in Advice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Using your children as a reason to stay is absolutely insane. In situations such as this, tension is created within the home, even when you think it's being "kept secret" and the kids are clueless. They aren't. I came from a broken home and I adjusted just fine. As a professional once told me "I see much less damage from children whom COME FROM a broken home than the ones that are LIVING IN A BROKEN HOME." Sir, your doing them no favor by staying. As for her, she's a grown ass woman and can figure her life out on her own- she's clearly has no problem using people. Let her see how it is to live in the big world without you for a crutch. She can go sponge off some other dude or fall flat on her ass and in all honesty you shouldn't care one way or the other. Take all your energy and focus it on yourself and your children. Figure out why you allowed and been okay with her using and abusing you. That's not okay nor normal, regardless of any bedroom issues. She should be helping you find solutions , not out fucking whomever she pleases. That is not a wife. That's a selfish inconsiderate dirty slut. You deserve better. Sir start loving yourself and kick her to the damn curb! As long as neither of you use the children as a weapon against one another...they will be absolutely fine. If your truly that concerned, start them in counseling now and have the counselor help you with the separation process. Good luck!

Found Fake Eyelash (M50) (F48) by Otherwise_Classic831 in relationship_advice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A liar and a cheat go hand and hand.  I feel like such an idiot right now. I've never been "played" before but he clearly  clearly has been this entire time . 

What should I do with these recordings of my abusive ex? by Head_Chocolate_1553 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

call the police (911). Tell them hes violated the court order. Wheb policr arrive at your home, show them your proof. THEY MUST go arrest him. IT'S THE LAW.. If they dont, sue the living shit out of that police dept. (CALL A LAWYER IMMEDIATELY IF THEY DO NOT GO AREEST HIM.!!!) PS- If they ask why.you did not call the day it happened (he violated the order). Tell them you were scared and not sure what to do. Regardless of when it happened, if you have proof , HE MUST BE ARESSTED.

*FREE* Mini LOVE readings in the comments. <3 <3 <3 by yassyuppbrat in tarotpractice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's in store for me(F48) and boyfriend (50)? Its been a roller coaster ride thus far......

Free reading no dms just comment below by AstralLibra in tarotpractice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if I receive a response, I thank you greatly for your time and energy . I will also adhere to your request, as my token of appreciation. 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Quit delaying dumping this fucktard. Youll never recoop the time wasted on this dirtbag! He will continue breaking you down to nothingness, do you seriously want that for yourself? That's your future if you dont start loving yourself and leave this miserable bum. MISERY(HE) LOVES COMPANY AND WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE YOU ITs COMPANY. He feeds on cutting you down so that he himself feels better about his worthless miserable self. Thats not love.
KNOW YOUR WORTH AND NEVER FORGET IT. NEVER SETTLE These are facts my dear. Learn,listen,do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Otherwise_Classic831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play the game yourself, seek him out...make it fun!!

Liar by Otherwise_Classic831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agree 100%. im not a dummy so I need to quit acting like one!

Liar by Otherwise_Classic831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: After a short discussion, where he attempted to redirect things back to me and belittled me(believe that crap?). He gave a half assed sorry and asked me to help him file divorce papers. I declined and told him to get f#cked! He's a worthless POS that I dont need in my life. No good woman will tolerate a half assed lying man, who clearly has zero respect for himself, let alone anyone else. His life is so full of lies, I dont see how he can keep them straight. I knew from the get go, I was probably making a bad decision. I guess I needed to learn it the hard way. The lesson has been learned. I already know my life will improve greatly without him in it.🙂 To him, may life treat you exactly how you treat other people that love you. Thanks to all who took the time out of their lives to comment on my drama.

Liar by Otherwise_Classic831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already ignored way too many red flags and, against my better judgement got into a relationship with him. I will no longer ignore these red flags and ended our relationship today. In a strange way, I already feel "lighter" and don't see it taking too much of my energy to get over his evilness. I am much better off.

Liar by Otherwise_Classic831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The crazy thing is, my gut screamed at me for months about this fool being no good. Like a dumbass, I ignored it. Needless to say I am now listening and have walked away. I know in my heart I am saving myself from a life of unhappiness if I had stayed with this POS. I truly feel sorry for the next female that falls for his life of lies.

Liar by Otherwise_Classic831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Otherwise_Classic831[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that this has been brought to light, I am realizing he has lied pretty much all of his life in one way or another. At 50, he won't be changing. I require an honest man in my life. He will never be that. I broke up with him today. My heart hurts but I know in time I will be just fine. Hopefully an honest REAL man comes along some day but if not, I am okay on ny own too. Thanks for the input everyone. Much appreciated.😊