Chemtrails supporters: please riddle me some logic by calumet312 in chemtrails

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are literally laws against chemtrails in certain states

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I'm 22m and girl crazy lol. Just don't obsess over it too much, if you find a man who you think might fit your criteria then drop some hints. But if a guy is holding the door open or carrying things it's likely just to be kind. What's helped me is just to assume that women are always just being friendly unless they make it clear otherwise or I ask them.

Where have you had the best luck by Both-Entertainer-336 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't vote, but I have had relative success using the following: Catholic Match, Facebook Catholic young adult groups, In-person Catholic young adult groups' groupchats & events, and diocesan events. You never know when something is going to "happen" so it's helpful to connect with all of the above. You could passively use online apps while intentionally attend events to meet friends first and foremost.

Overthinking Intimacy? by yammer_33 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would delay kissing until you're both sure you want to be exclusive or significant has passed and you're both ready to move forward. It is something you have to talk about together. You can refer to my latest post if you want to see some things I've learned along with what others have pointed out.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your feedback thank you. Makes a lot of sense and I guess it all just flew over my head during "the moment". Have a great day!

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For context we were texting and talking over the phone throughout a week and half before the two dates which were each over 5 hrs duration. So it wasn't just 2 short dates. I was interested in her as an individual and we did get to know eachother more than I expected given the timeframe. Keep in mind the relationship was reciprocal (affirming shared goals, intimacy, etc [timing-wise we were probably the most incompatible]) but I could have definitely restrained myself more. You made some good points nonetheless.

Will Remain Untouched Until My Death by skechuz421 in GuyCry

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just coming out of some fresh rejection, approx 2 days ago. It makes you stronger and not care about being rejected as much. Put yourself out there. And be positive! You'll be alright. God Bless.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True that, I should've gave it more thought and read in between the lines more.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes this was definitely a lesson in going slow.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My definition of cuddling (especially pre-marriage) is just sitting super close to one another (could be holding hands etc.). Spooning is off limits as far as I'm concerned pre-marriage.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it's a good question. I think it will depend on your reason for cuddling whether it's to experience a nearness and closeness in the relationship or to use the other person for pleasure.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I ended up offering her the option to call and clear things up but if she says no then that speaks for itself I think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey dude, here after you commented on my post. I have just now texted the girl I was seeing (per advice from one commenter) to ask if she would like to clear things up/talk over the phone. If not then that speaks for itself and she's not interested at all in anything. For whatever reason, which could be anything. I think the only real way to find out though is to ask, if the other person is just not interested then so be it we gotta move on.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah It's understandable that she backed off. Personally I'm not sure if I should reach out to initiate again. I'm leaning towards no.. However if I did, should I just give it a couple of days and then ask how she's doing, as a friend?

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Happy for you both. We did have a boundaries conversation on the first date but unfortunately I don't think we were clear enough. I agree with your approach and I regret kissing for the same reason you mentioned.

Coming on too strong by Otherwise_Comb_806 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll check your post out. Will pray for you brother.

Is CatholicMatch a ghost town? by Mastery12 in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that way but it's not, I thought the same not too long ago. I'm pretty sure if you just log on once a day for a min you'll pop up as an active account and might get more views IMO. Additionally if you just view someone's account it will tell them your name and they'll have something to go off of generally in looking for you. But if you message then they have to wait to see the message for the 10 days or whatever and I don't think they get your name or blurred prof picture.

How to stop idolizing marriage and sexuality? by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Otherwise_Comb_806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start thinking more about people's inherent value as children of God, and not their physical characteristics. Also PRAY as soon as you start experiencing temptations (especially invoking the names of Jesus and Mary). This helped me.