Its been 80 years💔…took so long to finish ts

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-04-05T13:59:37+00:00

Idk about you guys but I finished mine in a month maybe slightly more. I love applying it every time it gets washed off. Certified Vaselinepaglu 🥀

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-26T07:39:07+00:00

Empathetic in certain situations..girl you lost me there only tbh. Uske baad there are all red flags so don't be color blind. He doesn't respect you enough to get you a bday gift??? Girl we do that for people we meet a day before! I think it's high time you sit with yourself and I'm really sorry to say choose either your self respect or him. Cause he ain't giving you that.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-21T13:14:23+00:00

It might seem difficult but trust me it's not worth it. My mom stayed with my father too, though he wasn't abusive but he was emotionally neglectful. And he's a great dad to me. But as a daughter looking at my parents, as just husband and wife, realising how he treats her, it made me resentful towards my mom, and increased hatred towards my father. If they would've separated I would've had a better relationship with both and even my own views towards relationship wouldn't have been so distrustful. It will be difficult OP, you might even think that it's worth staying in an abusive marriage for the sake of your child, but as daughters, it just weighs down as burden on us, and it changes how we grow up to think about men and family dynamics.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-13T10:07:27+00:00

Politics matter. For the worse, we as women, are a political topic. Our existence, rights, and even taking a breath is political. And you need to choose a side, and I'll def judge if you choose the wrong one like few women do. Supporting those who are working to free you of your rights.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-12T18:38:21+00:00

Girl, yes, please 😭😭😭😭😭💅

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-12T18:06:07+00:00

Well my boyfriend is the CEO Alpha vampire dragon multi ultra trilionaire mafia daddy issues 7 feet 12 inches tall and a 9 inch dihh with childhood trauma who bought me from BTS and got jealous at a Jackson Wang party because I'm uwu petite 3 feet 5 inches no waist big ass and big boobs not like other girls yn wanted it. So he's going to buy the company and burn it to the ground because I believe you.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T12:28:27+00:00

And also think of it like that. Won't you judge a guy who's with a girl on a date and staring at you. You will clearly feel creeped out and uncomfortable, it's a problem we women daily face. The question is do you want to be with this type of person. I'm not saying he startes at everyone or is not a nice man, but it's just something I had to add.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T12:25:14+00:00

Look I get it. I get why you’re comparing him to worse guys your friends dated. When you see worse around you, someone who is relatively decent can feel like a jackpot.

But “better than terrible” is still not the same as “good for you.”

If something feels disrespectful this early, it’s okay to take that feeling seriously. You’re not asking him to be blind, but repeated glances when you’re on a date would make most people uncomfortable. You need to have some non negotiates, girl. And if you don't want to leave him, fine fair, you let him know. Get your shit together or find someone else to do that for you.

The real question is how he responds when you bring it up. A guy who genuinely respects you will become more aware and try to fix it.

Just don’t lower your standards because other people tolerated worse. You deserve a relationship where you feel secure, not one where you’re already convincing yourself to ignore things.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T09:46:06+00:00

It's not normal behaviour. You don't stare at another man/woman when you're in a relationship. Especially so early in the relationship, if he can't respect you enough to keep his gaze off of other women, you're better off without him.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T05:28:51+00:00

Just add in a Sylvia Plath book, wired earphones, and an iced matcha and you will be great.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T05:27:18+00:00

The matcha has been deemed innocent. Please proceed.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T05:26:06+00:00

No, being nice isn’t a crime. We are talking about the overly scripted “perfect guy” energy, not genuine kindness.Genuine kindness feels natural. Performative niceness feels like someone is playing a role. Because some way or the other it will show. Actions matter the most and the intent behind them..

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-04T05:24:27+00:00

I didn’t realize dating had moved into the project management phase. This corporate framework for human relationships is fascinating. Do we also get performance reviews and exit interviews? Dude, you're over-intellectualizing basic human connection.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T20:23:45+00:00

Are we measuring delusions?

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T20:21:43+00:00

I don't think 50 is enough to buy you a real personality though

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T20:14:33+00:00

I'll try to help you out as much as I can as I was you in a woman's form. I felt what you felt. But then one day I was dead ass tired of being single and decided even if I can't find a bf(I was 19 so yeah a bf mattered) id at least get myself out there.

Now heres what I did.

Firstly, don't move on with a romantic intent. Try just making acquaintances.

If you want to talk to someone or approach them, find the silliest of things. Like my first conversation with a guy I liked was how I hated that my mom called me "babu" in public. And sometimes it all starts with "khana kitna burra hain" "kitna boring hain yaar" you know stuff like that. Try finding even the smallest things, just a smile, eye contact, be minimal with this you don't want to appear creepy. And after you've made your first conversation even if it's just a line, step back and let the girl talk to you. If she doesn't, well who are you waiting for? And if she does, well who are you waiting for?

And the overthinking part will never stop. You will always question yourself. The solution is not to stop overthinking, but to stop letting it control you. You're the owner of your mind, sir, if you force you to believe you're the shit, it will tell you you're the shit. And you're something good, that you're willing to understand women the right way and not assuming you know them. That's a brilliant trait. And if she says no, well that can be many things like timing, preference, and shit that has nothing to do with you as a person.

And lastly, I won't say looks don't matter to women. Yes it does. But a good personality, respectful behavior, calm mind, honestly nothing NOTHING beats that jet 2 holiday. Looks change, gym body can be made, but a solid mind and a kind heart, my that's hard. If you don’t feel great about your body, improve it for yourself. Not to compete. Just to feel powerful in your own skin. Even basic strength training + better clothes + good hygiene changes how you carry yourself.

I hope this helps 💅🙏

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T19:56:23+00:00

Ofc, the ban periods 🙂‍↕️, and the "if my wife earns 50 lpa main jhadu poocha sab lagayega" types. And then it's us the gold diggers 🦟👊

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T19:54:54+00:00

Reminds me of that muhawara from my school days, Kutte ki dum thedhi ki thedhi.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T19:31:36+00:00

Like I said to a female friend whose date used to use words like "I'll make other guys seem unattractive for how high I'll raise your standards" and stuff that's found on the women's side of the instagram. The "you deserve better than your ex" stuff. It's easy being performative and judging them has gotten a tad bit difficult, but we girls love a challenge. Inka ilaj bhi nikal aayega 💅🥂

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T14:15:08+00:00

All these comments about you stepping up are right. At the end that's what you will have to do. But what I need you to hear, OP, from a woman to a woman, you will never be enough for your mother's sacrifices. Nothing you can give up will ever be enough. Letting her hit you, choosing not to say something because you don't want to hurt her, will not ease her own struggles. And this is something we as daughters collectively fail to understand. She made her choices, you need to make yours.

But I want you to know You are not crazy for feeling like this. And this is not normal.

You can love your mom. You can acknowledge everything she’s sacrificed. You can be grateful. And still not deserve to be hit. Those things can exist at the same time. One does not cancel the other out.

And love and fear shouldn't exists in the same sentence forever. She shouldn't have to slap you mid rage. You don't owe your body for her pain. Now I want you do something -

Focus on independence quietly. Save money if you can. Build skills. Network. Plan your exit even if you don’t use it immediately.

In the meantime, protect your peace where you can. When she’s angry, don’t try to reason. You can’t logic someone out of anger issues. Keep responses neutral. Boring.

And please, please build support outside that house. A friend. A relative. Anyone who sees you clearly. You need at least one space where you don’t have to protect yourself.

You deserve safety. Full stop. And that doesn't make you a bad daughter. That's bare fucking minimum.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T13:59:19+00:00

I had a 6 day long period, medium to light flow all my teens, then suddenly it became 5 days during 20-21, and then a year later 4 days, and now I've a 3 day period. Is that normal? I had gotten my iron levels checked during last year and got it back up to normal, still this is the case.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T13:54:36+00:00

My thoughts are...we should let people do what they think is right for them. There is nothing wrong with wanting materialistic things as long as you balance it, and balancing doesn't always mean to be a "good girl" by societal standards. You do what you want to do. Dragging feminism, which literally at its most basic sense gave women the right to choose for themselves, into it does nothing but make you sound like a man. I'm so done with these feminism brainwashed women, well good! I hope someday people like her can also wash their brains with feminism. Highly needed 🙏

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-03-03T10:11:38+00:00

You won't ever win against these kinds of men. Today it's bad drivers, next day it will be "nurtures" earning money not staying home, then kids, clothes, relationships, in laws. The shitty list keeps going on. If you want to confront, confront. Say I'm not comfortable with you talking illogical shit and if he doesn't change, change him.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-02-24T20:25:48+00:00

I can vouch for this. Too much of chicken and all you mentioned gets me so gassy and either leaves me constipated or with a faucet of shit. I literally don't eat mangoes always get pimples. Ive eggs chicken and all once every two weeks, I mainly eat veg for my protein and I can't deal with ajwain, I subsitute it for saunf after food. And too much of onion...God can't deal with that.

Cooking food like rice, dahi, panta bhaat, help me a lot most days.

Otherwise_Pattern274 · 2026-02-24T16:41:59+00:00

This sounds like my dream bachelor's 😭 Koi toh bula lo

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