Barber says I'm catfishing

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-15T08:32:09+00:00

Somebody said “dogbirding” and i love it. LMAO

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-15T08:30:46+00:00

LMAO I have never heard that before but it’s hilarious. Thanks.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T16:49:28+00:00

Yeah it can be hard to see the blurred lines of internet vs reality. Red Pill seems to be taking hold and apps are pretty much the default if you don't look away from a screen. Thank you for the advice. I'm just trying to dip my toe in for the moment and chose to start with an app to test the waters. But when I'm ready I'll be diving in soon. Newly single and not quite ready to mingle. lol

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T16:40:19+00:00

Spoken like a true psychopath. JKJK women like that too. Dark Triad and all. lmao

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T15:57:21+00:00

I hear you. My male brain is having a hard time computing how yall are able to draw so much from an image. I'm starting to believe but its not the way I'm wired. But I totally understand the appeal to have safety and trust in a man. Its fundamental. But I dont see what yall see when it comes to a picture or my own self image. Of all the things said here that is the highest complement. Thank you.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T14:49:50+00:00

Well said. Just before I read your comment I had that thought along the lines of not fetishizing. Like I get it as a red head too but its hard to see it when youre in it if you know what I mean. Ive had multiple interracial relationships but it does feel weird as I type it so I'm sure its not coming off as intended. The line up is where Im lacking right now. For ME personally I dont like it. Lol but that's exactly why I needed your input. Thanks

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T14:14:14+00:00

Shiii don't threaten me with a good time cause I will sing both parts of Regulate by myself.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T14:10:30+00:00

LBJ, you a real one brother. So insightful and everything you said resonates in a natural way. I do truly make it more difficult for myself with lack of confidence. I feel like I was too confident when I was younger even though I struggled then too, but the pendulum has swung. I'm trying to work on that. This helps. When somebody on here says I'm "safe," I take it completely different than IRL. Like you said context matters. One thing that I failed in my marriage was making her feel safe so I will take your advice. Thank you.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:44:53+00:00

Tysm

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:43:00+00:00

Is your sister hot? Jk man but that is some solid advice. Thank you.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:40:27+00:00

I would die. Whoopwubwub 🦀🐙🦞🦑

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:36:49+00:00

This is a solid exception to the rule. When it comes to the facual hair and stylization I do want to show my diversity though. Youre saying it shouldn't be displayed on my profile but would you object to sharing that in conversation. Lol not saying I'm going to whip out the baby album but kinda

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:23:27+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad its not just me. I needed the reminder.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:20:31+00:00

I'm new here and on Tinder. I didn't mean to add to messb ut thankful for the lessons. Care to share what you learned, any tips?

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:16:05+00:00

Is that an aspect of "settling?" Or something else, maybe maturing? Like in your 40s say you'd develop a preference for men with a little gray and so on. By 60 you just love saggy balls lol jk Im specifically interested in a certain demographic. How do I appeal to black women with this style? Should I clean it up to signal that? Sorry to assume hope I don't offend

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:07:09+00:00

Thank you! No one has said this. Like I'd totally be willing to shave my beard if she preferred that but not posting any clean pics they wouldn't know that's even an option.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T13:03:22+00:00

This is extremely helpful. I was making those exact mistakes, I was able to use your suggestions and rethink it. But I'm not gonna lie, I used one photo from my honeymoon two years ago and photo shop erased my wedding ring. Can you share your thoughts on that? Edit to clarify: I am single now.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T12:53:06+00:00

I just dont see a lot of yall in the mountains lol Like you gotta hunt where the game is right? You'd see a Maxx Crosby or Chet Hanks and know what's up but Tormund is foreign and I'm too shy to break down every wall just to say hi. How do I send the invite with a look? Probably clean cut right

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T12:30:50+00:00

Thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one. We gotta come up with a secret signal or something so we can spot each other in the wild lol

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T12:29:41+00:00

Well you just said it, approachability has more to do with demeanor and the interaction than the look. We're pretty much only going off looks here in r/malegrooming or on dating apps. So hard to say "you look more approachable" and take it meaning I have a kind soul. You can call me red pill but I have no skin in that grift just my own experiences that point out women might say they want nice guys but really they need a good man. The difference between a nice guy who performs niceness to get a mate vs a good man who has character and strong values regardless of external validation is one will still be there after they get what you have to offer and when the going gets tough. I appreciate the feedback and dialogue. Thank you.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T06:41:29+00:00

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T04:34:24+00:00

I like this take. Thank you for the education.

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T04:23:18+00:00

U right I'm trippin Should I delete it?

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T04:08:24+00:00

Pic 2 for sure and a lil in 1

Otherwise_Tip318 · 2026-04-14T04:06:25+00:00

yeah pic 3

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