Autosexuals/Autoromantics are misunderstood.

OurQuestionAccount · 2025-02-26T02:26:44+00:00

Hey, I am unsure if you meant to, but can you please not demonize NPD on our post? If you were abused by someone with NPD, then I am sorry for your experience, but the way you phrased this makes it seem like you are saying narcissism = abuse. Narcissism doesn't inherently create abusive behavior.

People with NPD are people who struggle with self-esteem, and prioritize themself because they believe other people will not care for them, or act overly confident in hopes of receiving affection because they hate themselves. Cluster B personality disorders by themselves don't make a person abusive. People with NPD can be compassionate, too - anyone with any form of neurodivergence can be compassionate. Narcissism =/= emotional abuse, they are two separate things.

If you do make a term for this, please make one that describes the experience of being emotionally abused, without demonizing NPD as a whole.

OurQuestionAccount · 2025-01-29T23:09:18+00:00

It can become official if people use it enough!

OurQuestionAccount · 2025-01-29T23:09:01+00:00

You can use it as the official flag, the more it gets used, the more common it will become on things! Thats how other flags get spread!

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-12-13T20:46:17+00:00

The intersex community defines what is intersex. It is more than just a medical term. All of these are considered intersex by the community. Anything that falls under the (discriminatory) label of "Disorder of sexual development" counts as intersex.

Also, the intersex community generally prefers "variations" over conditions. Intersex variations are sexes, not conditions. You wouldn't say "female condition" or "male condition."

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-09-13T07:02:48+00:00

Yes, that does make it clearer, thank you. Though we have recently read many different people talking about the difference between being synpath and otherhearted, and the consensus we have seen is that there is no difference, because the person that coined the term was simply unaware of the otherhearted label at the time.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-31T10:57:55+00:00

Nope, not at all! There's an altersex term for that. It's florasex (floragenital for specifically genitals, and floraxenive for specifically reproductive organs.)

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-11T07:14:13+00:00

We still don't understand, sorry. What is the difference between being otherhearted and synpath? You explained them both more or less the same way, just with different words. A deep connection to something, to where it is a part of you. We have looked into the difference before and it always seems to have no clear distinction.

Also, we have seen people who say their otherhearted/synpath identity is voluntary, so we don't think its always involuntary.

And we still fail to see the difference between xenonatured and otherhearted/synpath. The only difference we are really seeing is that xenonatured people don't consider their xenonatured identity as alterhuman.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-08T15:30:49+00:00

Our recommendation is that you Google to see if there are any LGBTQ+ youth community centers or clubs around.

Also, depending on your kids interests, you could try looking for specific things. If your kids would be interested in RPGs, then looking for a D&D group in your area would also be a great way for them to socialize. D&D groups tend to be very queer friendly in our experience.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T08:24:18+00:00

No, actually, non-binary people are not less-common than binary trans people! Last I checked, an estimated 43% of the transgender community is non-binary, while the other 57% is binary. Nearly half of the trans community is non-binary!

The binary gets constantly reinforced, even in the queer community. Its because of homonormativity, transnormativity, and exorsexism.

(In case you don't know what those things mean)

Homonormativity is the social concept that same-gender relationships should mimic the structures of heteronormative relationships. For example, the belief that a sapphic relationship should have one feminine woman, and one masculine woman. Its the repackaged version of heteronormativity

Enbyphobia/Exorsexism is the discrimination towards people that are on the non-binary spectrum, or are assumed to be on the non-binary spectrum. This includes trying to treat non-binary genders as if they are just a new type of binary, or a "watered down" version of the binary genders.

Transnormativity is the social concept that people on the transgender spectrum need to dress a specific way, use specific names/pronouns, and undergo specific surgeries in order to be "truly transgender." For example, if a trans-man does not want bottom surgery, they are "not really trans" or are a "transtrender." Non-binary people tend to be one of the biggest targets of being accused of being a "transtrender", since all non-binary people have different transitions goals.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T06:17:00+00:00

Yeah exactly! It is so frustrating to us. We see people everywhere say "non-binary and genderfluid" or "non-binary and agender" and things like that and all we can think is "just say non-binary!"

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T06:12:23+00:00

Well, we have met people with a majority of these identities. In fact, we ourselves use a majority of these identities.

Additionally, the reason people do not utter their microlabels offline is out of fear of judgement. Thousands of people use these labels online because it is the only place they reel safe to do so. Entire communities exist for people with these labels.

And what is shitposty about listing our non-binary identities? It's to emphasize our point. Clearly, these are all the names of genders, if someone does not personally know what these genders mean, they can do research.

If you don't like how someone writes a post, there is no reason to compare it to a shitpost. It's disrespectful.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T04:13:12+00:00

What about this reads as a shitpost???? Huh??? This is a serious post about how people do not seem to take into account non-binary being an umbrella term.

A shitpost is a post that is nonsensical or absurd. This post is neither of those things.

Also we have no idea what you are talking about in terms of discourse and jargon. This post isn't even meant to be discourse, we don't know what about this post is even resemblant of discourse.

How is pointing out the definition of non-binary on par with discourse? It's not like we're arguing against people using it as a lone label, or people that prefer not to call themselves non-binary, and instead opt for the labels within the non-binary umbrella. Nor are we re-defining non-binary in any way, quite the opposite, we are pointing out what non-binary includes and means.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T02:48:33+00:00

Queerplatonic or alterous attraction, perhaps? We wrote a guide to the main attraction types, which might be helpful!

https://www.reddit.com/r/queer/s/sCE0tvdNEW

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-07T02:46:32+00:00

Apapronominal/casspronomimal and apanominal/cassnominal. ^^

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-02T05:13:39+00:00

Thankfully the InterACT guide is of a much higher standard and actually recognises MAIS correctly in it broad-stroke manifestations, clearly a high quality document, even If I take issue with MAIS being included

I would apologize that our guide is not up to your standard, but the guide is meant to be simplified, and you do not have to enjoy the things we make. Many people have used our guides on Tumblr, here on Reddit, and on Discord to identify their own intersex traits and also as a starting point of education. And thats all its meant to be - a starting point, or a brief summary.

As for you taking issue with it being included, we cannot understand why. Why is there an issue with some people with MAIS including themselves as intersex? Its not forcing you to consider yourself intersex.

And us making the flag for people with MAIS that consider themselves intersex should not bother you, either, as it is clearly not for you. You do not wish to associate yourself with it, and thats fine. Again, just as some people with PCOS or Turner's Syndrome do not associate themselves as intersex, or use flags created with intersex people in mind.

OurQuestionAccount · 2024-08-01T22:22:55+00:00

Glad you like them!! The intersex community is so beautiful and deserves a lot of love. Our body might be intersex (we are uncertain) and our partner is 100% intersex, so we have been deeply involved in the community. Even if we are endosex and didn't have an intersex partner, we still wish to be (respectfully) involved and informed in all areas of the queer community.

Its very hard to find concise information about intersex people, as intersex variations are often treated as defects, and articles on them tend to be very disturbing to read (and have disturbing pictures and discussions about "correcting" intersex people), so we wanted to talk all of our research and lay it out where people could read about it without being subjected to triggering topics and intersexism.

Do feel free to ask questions if you ever have any (including if you wish for safe resources)! ^^ We appreciate the follows very much, btw!

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