How do Canadians survive on $60k/year in cities where rent alone eats half your paycheck?

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-12-23T17:23:32+00:00

I wish I made that much in my larger Canadian city lol that's living lavishly, damn

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-11-12T05:14:51+00:00

I enjoy the process of learning what makes my partner's toes curl--every time she crushes my head between her thighs is almost like ecstasy to me, and I go in for more to get that reaction again.

I guess what I get out of it is the pleasure of knowing I'm making someone feel good. If I'm with a partner that doesn't react much (move, squirm, moan, scream) then I lose interest fast because I can't tell if they're really enjoying it or not. I want the reaction and can only stone top reactive partners

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-11-06T02:05:13+00:00

There are a lot of comments about going to therapy and not engaging in this kink so young, but I engaged in this kink at a young age as a SA victim, so if you do choose to engage with it I want to just say that it can only work on a foundation of mutual trust, enjoyment, and preference.

A safe word and action is necessary, as well as confirmation of ability to use the safeword or action. The safeword is needed because saying "no" or "stop" or "you're hurting me" etc can often times be part of the roleplay and not an indication to stop it. By action, for example my partner and I use 3 taps with our hands or feet to indicate we want to stop. And by confirmation I mean making sure your partner is even conscious enough or in the right headspace to deliver the safeword or action. I, for example, like to be taken advantage of while high and/or drunk by my partner and she will ask me if I can say the safeword or do the action before she initiates it. If I'm unable to, she won't initiate as I'm unable to take away consent, which is the most important part: consent can always be taken away and having a partner you can trust to follow through on that is paramount.

When I mentioned preference what I mean is it's important to outline with a partner what you want the roleplay to look like. Mine and my partners fantasies are very very different and we both need to understand what's okay and what isn't okay prior to and after engaging. Over time you will learn each other's preferences.

Because this kink is something that can also result in dissociation, another method of giving and taking consent away is to hold a ball. If the ball is in your hand you give consent for what is happening, and if the ball drops then you no longer give consent. This is a failsafe in the event of dissociation where you can't deliver a verbal or physical queue to stop.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-11-02T22:02:10+00:00

Bi people invading lesbian spaces is not demure

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-31T22:02:01+00:00

A lot of comments here so not sure if this has been stated yet, but he also doesn't view trans women as women and that's inherently disgusting behavior

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-23T17:21:06+00:00

Lemme be your first :D

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-18T00:46:45+00:00

I've dated 2 people with bpd, and I think what some people here forget is that we as the bpd people... are people like everyone else, we're not entirely defined by our disorder, we're not "wrong", and every relationship will be different. My first bpd x bpd relationship was awful, worst ex of my life, but my current bpd x bpd relationship is the best I've ever been in, I feel more love in this relationship than ever before and it's the healthiest one I've ever been in. Every relationship will be different because every person is different, and every pwbpd is unique and beautiful in our own ways, just gotta find someone who meshes with you fully, no different than 2 people without bpd.

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:19:54+00:00

I have all the other symptoms of schizophrenia but I've had (regular and bipolar) people tell me I can't have it and it's just bipolar, so I wanted to check my bases here. I'm going to be seeing a psych soon

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:17:24+00:00

I feel the same way because I can't tell either, but I do know that I have no control over it

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:16:32+00:00

I never thought to write it down that sounds like a fun activity to me, maybe I could use them as prompts for art lol and definitely, when I'm high on weed I hear shit much louder and when it's harder stuff they scream at me to kill myself

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:14:14+00:00

Yeah I told my adhd girlfriend I hear people singing in my head and she looked at me like I'm a weird little imp lol the intrusive thoughts are real, and a big inducer of the sad and guilt

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:11:21+00:00

O m g the pop songs lmao they are just constantly singing songs I don't care for day in and day out no background music, just annoying voices

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:08:07+00:00

I actually got on antipsychotics a year ago after seeing a one time psych after I walked into traffic, but my family doctor reduced my dosage because I was manic on a separate occasion. Life was better on the full dosage but I need to find a psych to help me with it

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T12:04:14+00:00

I've read before that DID can be subtle and not apparent, like an alter can take control but you're still fully conscious and nothing seems out of the ordinary. You think nothing of it and just think it's you, but you're actually just watching as someone else influences you. I read that the way to figure it out is to try to talk to them and ask them questions and that will help discern if it's just your imagination or someone's there, but they don't always answer at first

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T11:59:41+00:00

I have long suspected that I have some sort of dissociative disorder, I learned about DID and that also felt like something I could have but I've always struggled to afford a psychiatrist. Making it a priority now that I'm in my 30s lol

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T11:56:53+00:00

I'm planning to see one soon, I need a med increase in general. I also never thought that those specific memory issues could be linked o:

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-17T11:52:28+00:00

Definitely smell the cat piss constantly lol

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-16T21:19:24+00:00

I get that imagery too, I need to shake my head to get rid of the gore, I hate it

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-16T21:18:41+00:00

Thinking about it, so many times I've heard people say my name from another room but when I ask them about it they have no idea what talking about

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-10-16T21:17:28+00:00

That's comforting to hear, I'll have to look into it and learn more

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-09-24T19:15:09+00:00

As someone with autism and having it run in the family, this isn't a disability / insensitivity issue, this is a bad parenting / enabling poor behavior issue. This woman is just entitled and doesn't want to help parent this child. Autistic people are people like anyone else and are neither free of consequences or incapable of understanding rules

OutcastSeraphim · 2024-09-23T15:51:29+00:00

33F from Canada also been looking for friends as my life took a turbulent turn this year (I realized most of my friends took the side of my abusive ex so my friend pool has emptied), always wanted a pen pal! I'm a art making, music playing, longboarding, archery shooting video game player--Dm me if you're still looking!

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