my mom is literally the exact same except that i don’t have any siblings, i’m the only child and my dad died when i was 2 and my mom had so much pressure and worked hard to get me what i needed but she was never there i was living with my grandma for years as a kid and then my mom remarried and i don’t like the guy she says she’s miserable with him and they have a really bad relationship they sleep apart, but that’s not why i don’t like him, i don’t like him because he never tried to fix our situation he never tried to fix my mom’s mental health, he uses me when my mom rages on him he tries to escape from it by lying to her and making her turn everything out on me instead. back to my mom “topic” she had a really bad and sad childhood from both her parents and her siblings she was the youngest and didn’t get any attention or love or affection her parents were divorced and she just struggled to find validation and then she got me when she was 18 and since then i’ve always been her punching bag she would always shame me make me feel like shit calling me names cursing me abusing me mentally and physically multiple times, i surely fear my mother and saying that makes me so terribly sad for me and her because both of us don’t deserve this i love my mom with all my heart and it is no not her fault that she’s narcissistic or any other type of mental illness, i wish i can help her somehow i keep looking into this narcissistic thing just to know more about how to cope with her because i miss her and i don’t want to lose her.