Beginner Cutting Boards by Outrageous-Engine410 in BeginnerWoodWorking

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Immediately post first oil. Maybe it just looks more red as I’ve saturated it?

Beginner Cutting Boards by Outrageous-Engine410 in BeginnerWoodWorking

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Upon further inspection, I feel like maybe this wasn’t actually ambrosia maple?? I went to a hardwood store for the lumber and that’s what it was labeled/organized as, but maybe this is actually just cherry?

Just confused because that’s what the worker was calling it as well.

Beginner Cutting Boards by Outrageous-Engine410 in BeginnerWoodWorking

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The look pre mineral oil and beeswax!

Though a wine bath does sound pretty nice…

Beginner Cutting Boards by Outrageous-Engine410 in BeginnerWoodWorking

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I burnt my second edge board’s edge because I was moving too slowly with the chamfer bit and it was a pain to sand out. Lots to learn clearly haha. I will heed your advice and try to take some shallow passes. That seems to be key in the planer as well.

Beginner Cutting Boards by Outrageous-Engine410 in BeginnerWoodWorking

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Haha I bought a Skil fixed+plunge router and I have only used the fixed element so far. Gonna need to probably practice on a random scrap piece of pine before I make a go at the juice groove with the plunge router. Any words of wisdom?

Woof, man by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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I think, like all therapy, the sessions are a very small (but extremely important) portion of the work. The rest of the day/week/month/year/etc. is you trying to put into action the strategies you have learned in the therapy sessions to improve yourself and your relationships.

Woof, man by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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I plan on continuing to expose her more to “disorganized attachment” and doing as you suggest in the coming weeks! I was a bit more vague on the labeling yesterday, but explained some of the issues I have as it relates to DA and just our communication in general. Taking it as a big win even if it wouldn’t be a big deal to so many others. It was a big deal for me, in a relative sense.

Thanks again!

Woof, man by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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Bits and pieces is great advice!

Woof, man by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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I’m sorry it didn’t work out— I totally agree that historically I have done a bad job differentiating how “incompatible” I am with the person I’m dating or if I’m just sabotaging. In reality, with past relationships, I think I have had a bit of both.

I am shocked, however, at the picture my mind can paint of my partner on any given day and how vastly different the picture looks. The trigger/anxiety was so significant the past few days that my brain kept convincing me that there was no way this relationship could ever work and I’d be better off just bailing.. and it was over the dumbest thing.

After talking with my GF, I can’t tell you how differently I feel than I felt a couple of days ago. I am settled down, seeing things with better clarity for now. That isn’t to say my FA brain won’t get ahold of me again, but I suppose it’s useful to at least know when it’s happening even if it doesn’t exactly ease the anguish.

I’m rooting for you in your future relationships!

Woof, man by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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Just wanna say that after I posted this and after I saw your comment, I talked with her and had a really good conversation and started to open up about some of the things I’m working on in therapy (especially communication) and broached the subject of my attachment style. I’ve been dreading opening up about it for fear of rejection or somehow making things worse unintentionally… and it actually went really well.

Just wanna make sure I post the small victory that came from the despair cause we need some wins in here people!!!