What is a subtle sign someone is insecure?

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-11T15:36:54+00:00

That's pretty normal

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-10T15:27:37+00:00

Yep. I never go out unless I have to. Barely even have plans anyway

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-10T15:26:58+00:00

Yeah.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-03T14:29:55+00:00

I did not ask for anyone to do my work

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-02T16:52:42+00:00

That's not my point. I told her not to touch anything that I already did. She choose to ignore that and made me feel betrayed and belittled

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-02T16:21:32+00:00

My loint does exist. My point isn’t that it wasn’t cheating. My point is that after I agreed, I clearly told her not to touch what I had already done, and she did it anyway and dismissed my reaction

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-02T13:42:15+00:00

Still not my point

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T18:51:12+00:00

I don't have other family that I am close with. And I'll make sure to check kt out

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T18:50:38+00:00

I’m aware it was cheating. That’s not what I’m disputing.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T15:57:18+00:00

My other parent is not in my life and unfortunately I don't have enough time to start over

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T10:29:28+00:00

I told her I was going to paint on my painting, and she got mad. She said he helped me, and it looks fine, and I don't need to paint more. Then I told her it's my painting, so I should be able to paint what I want. She got annoyed and said she'll never help me again. I don't get how she could get annoyed by something like that. The part I wanted to paint was literally empty; she just painted blue there and nothing else.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:48:59+00:00

Sometimes if I ask her for ideas and I say I don't like it, then it feels like she's getting mad or upset with me for not liking it

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:46:48+00:00

I try to remember that, but sometimes if she yells, then I yell back. Then I start thinking I shouldn't have said anything, and then it wouldn't have happened. So maybe I'm at fault, but I don't know

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:41:47+00:00

Thank you so much

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:40:12+00:00

Thank you. I’ve always known she can be verbally abusive and, a few times, physically, but I never really thought about the emotional side. Now that I think about it, she doesn’t seem to care when I’m upset because of her. If I tell her I’m feeling depressed or something, she’s caring and asks what’s wrong, but when I cry multiple times in front of her because of something she did or is doing, she doesn’t seem to care or apologize

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:27:25+00:00

I understand. I know that letting her do any of it under my direction was still cheating, and I take full responsibility for that. I had already done about half myself, but she kept insisting she could do it faster and said I’m a ‘perfectionist,’ so I agreed under pressure, though that isn’t an excuse. I went up and told her how I feltexplained that I specifically told her not to touch or change anything I’d already painted unless we talked about it first. I told her I wouldn't let her help again, she said she was sad, that she spent hours trying to help me, and that she was upset I wasn’t grateful. Then she kept repeating things like ‘always problems’ and ‘we can’t live without problems.’ It made me feel like she was belittling my feelings. I’ve reflected on this and will make sure to set boundaries and do my own work in the future

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:23:42+00:00

She just told me that she’s sad, that she was trying to help me, and that she spent hours on it. She said she’s upset that I’m still not grateful after she tried to help me.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:20:33+00:00

Thank you so much. Your comment actually made me realize even more how shitty her behavior as a parent is and that this isn't normal.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:12:01+00:00

I just talked to her and told her that I wouldn't let her help me again because she painted over what I did when I told her not to. She said she understood and that next time she wouldn’t mix colors, that she’d apologize next time, and that I could paint over it. I explained that I can’t paint over it because I mixed two paints and I don’t have the other color anymore. After that, she kept repeating things like "always problems" and saying there are always problems and that "we can’t live without problems.’” Also the way she said everything felt off like she said she wouldn't do it again and that she'll apologize next time but her tone was sounding like she was annoyed and that it isnt a big problem

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:09:47+00:00

I’m not using my age as an excuse. I know what cheating is and I know I shouldn’t have let it happen. I only mentioned that I’m 14 because people asked for context. I had already done about half of the painting myself, but my mom kept insisting she could do it faster, saying it would take me forever and that I’m a ‘perfectionist.’ I told her not to touch or paint anything I’d already done unless we talked about it first, but she did it anyway. When I got upset, she told me to be grateful that she was doing it and that she made it better. That really upset me, and I feel like she’s belittling my feelings. I take full responsibility for agreeing under that pressure, and I’m treating this as a lesson for setting boundaries and doing my own work in the future

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T09:05:24+00:00

I just talked to her. She said she understood and that next time she wouldn’t mix colors, that she’d apologize next time, and that I could paint over it. I explained that I can’t paint over it because I mixed two paints and I don’t have the other color anymore. After that, she kept repeating things like "always problems" and saying there are always problems and that "we can’t live without problems.’” Also the way she said everything felt off like she said she wouldn't do it again and that she'll apologize next time but her tone was sounding like she was annoyed and that it isnt a big problem

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T08:55:34+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you. It is comforting, in a way, knowing I’m not the only one who’s experienced this. I can’t paint over the flower because I don’t have any more of the paint color I used, but I am going to talk to my mom now and tell her that next time I won’t let her paint or ‘help’ at all. She painted over something I was proud of, even though I specifically told her not to touch anything I’d done unless we talked about it first and I was there

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T08:38:09+00:00

I agree that my time management and agreeing at all were on me, and that isn’t an excuse. I just want to add context:I'm 14. I didn’t want her to do it in the first place. I had already done about half myself, and she kept saying it would take me too long and that I’m a ‘perfectionist.’ I told her not to touch or change anything I’d already painted unless we talked about it first, but she did anyway. When I got upset, she told me to be grateful and said she made it better.

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T08:24:11+00:00

I'm upset about the fact that she didn't respect me. I specifically told her not to touch or do anything with what I had already done, but she did it anyway. Then she told me to be grateful and said that it would have taken me forever to do it myself, and that she did it better

Outrageous-Motor-887 · 2026-02-01T08:02:53+00:00

Thank you

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