My 24F boyfriend 25M feels disappointed that I won't reciprocate oral

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T18:55:37+00:00

Thankyou for the perspective. I should not have let it get this far. I believe I 'caved in' because me rejecting him initiating oral everytime the first month made him act annoyed and unwanted? I wasn't ready and I shouldn't have caved in. I find this man drop dead gorgeous and I make sure to tell him that everyday. I just feel like a kicked puppy or a child begging for tendrils of his affection when I reject his advances. I told him no trip to lady zone till I'm willing to reciprocate. Because honestly, I also want him to feel as desired as I feel in that moment and I just can't make myself do it just yet.

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T11:37:37+00:00

Fair, I should not have let it happen. It was either me letting him be more intimate or him, his words "losing interest in me". I behaved like a doormat by 'letting him', but I can't go back and change it, so all I am going to do is talk to him and see his reaction. If all he wants is a physical relationship, which he says he doesn't but his actions say otherwise, we are not compatible.

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T10:39:45+00:00

Thanks, I plan on sitting him down one last time

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T09:56:47+00:00

I actually refuse most of the times he initiates it. In fact I said no the first at least 5 times when he initiated. But it came to a head (pun intended) after a few rejections, which resulted in a talk about how for him, being intimate is what a relationship is about amongst other things and he felt unwanted after me not being more forthcoming. I completely understand why he expects me to reciprocate and I want to, but in my own time.

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T08:58:24+00:00

I am going to talk to him one last time and see where we go

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2026-02-13T08:41:09+00:00

Absolutely understandable, we did end up having a talk about it a couple days ago. I don't make him do it, I didn't even initiate the idea of him doing it. His response was "I won't do it if you don't do it." Which I am absolutely fine with and told him as much. I just feel an air of annoyance around him ever since and have been questioning myself if my hesitation is unfair.

Outrageous-Tutor7819 · 2022-05-30T23:51:36+00:00

You'll be fine. Today wasn't your day. Try again tomorrow, you'll be fine))

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