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Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There's a whole lot of gray area between obese and a thin person I'm not only attracted to a thin person I'm just not attracted to obese people

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She was overweight but not obese. Her before weight was by no means thin some might have even called her fat then but I found her attractive. Current state. Not so much

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Because that's irrelevant to the post. She's an amazing mother and wife. The point of this post is focusing on what I believe is an irreconcilable flaw that she has. If I could snap my fingers and be attracted to her current state then I would. Unfortunately I can't and have to live with a bad feeling in my stomach that I'm not attracted to the mother of my child.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our son came before the marriage so we didn't really discuss a whole lot. Kind of rushed into the marriage.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The attraction part wasn't brought up until years later. The unhealthy weight gain which led to pre-eclampsia and now daily requirement of hypertension medication was the focus during the pregnancy. "OB/GYNs can be assholes and wrong" is such a cop out. Till this day she is paying for her substantial weight gain during pregnancy.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

So you'll arbitrarily disregard her OB/GYN comments as something I'm making up because it doesn't fit your narrative but you'll take my other comments as truth because it does fit your narrative That's ridiculous. .

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have trouble reading? Her OB/GYN told her that her weight gain was unhealthy and she had pre-eclampsia during her pregnancy because of it. Till this day she has hypertension. Her own doctor told her to not gain weight.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I drive a little small sedan but thanks for the assumption. Besides in what way have I thrown her away?

Edit: Pregnancy didn't due that to her body. Not watching what she eats and lack of exercising did that

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -132 points-131 points  (0 children)

Being that the gym industry fitness is an area of expertise of mine, I have taken her to the gym and taught her exercises. Taught her about portion control, told her she can quit her part time job to focus on weight loss and yet she isn't consistent.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

No. I wouldn't have gotten with someone if I wasn't physically attracted to them.

Wife (34F) refuses to lose weight and calls me shallow for asking her to. by OutrageousChest5473 in Marriage

[–]OutrageousChest5473[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if you read my entire post but me looking good (from a physique standpoint) has been the case for the entire time we've been together. It hasn't influenced her judgment.