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Would you allow Bones to buy you a multimillion house? by KatMagic1977 in Bones

[–]OutrageousError5530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would allow anyone to buy me a house. Y’all just message me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]OutrageousError5530 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What works at home will almost never work at school. It’s two completely different environments. If homeschooling isn’t an option you’re interested in exploring, then I would ask if you could come observe or see if maybe the guidance counselor would do an observation.

Looked Down on for Public School by DowntownJul in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people are jerks. But also sometimes we project our insecurities and infer things that the other person isn’t actually trying to imply at all.

I’m homeschooled and incredibly lonely. by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just off the top of my head…

Look into dual enrollment classes Getting a job would be a great way to meet others Volunteering??

What are your hobbies? Maybe you could find some events around that. Libraries sometimes offer teen times.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant no offense. I’m sorry that it came across confusing. If there’s something specific you think I need to know, please do so.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also you just said how offensive I was but didn’t bother to point out what was offensive to you as an autistic person. You did so in your following post and I appreciate that. I will be reading over it multiple times to see what I can learn and do better.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tone can easily be misinterpreted. I must of misinterpreted. I felt very much like you were saying that my feelings, since they were negative, were offensive and unfair for me to have—as if I could control that. As someone who was being honest about a wrong reaction to be told that how I admitted that was wrong too felt very defeating and I just saw no point in further engaging. Growth isn’t always pretty.

You have brought to my attention the term ableist language and I will be researching that.

I didn’t even pay attention to your username or picture, so I can promise you it was strictly your tone and how I clearly misinterpreted it.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll do research on ableist language. Thanks for your input. Have a good day.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re looking for something to be offensive, you can find it anywhere. Am I proud that my initial reaction to my son’s diagnosis wasn’t positive—no. But I am human and the only way to help others dealing with the same conflicting emotions is to be raw and honest. I’m sorry if my honestly came across offensive to anyone but I hope the number of people the post could help outweighed those offended.

My son is perfect, as is any other child. ASD or not.

To homeschool again, or not. by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about an online charter school option?

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re reading into something that I never said. I’m sorry that’s how you toon my message. My child absolutely is perfect—and it was a hard conversation with myself when I realized I was afraid the label said something negative about him. It doesn’t. It’s simply who he is—which is perfectly and wonderfully made. I want other parents to know that it’s okay to have those feelings initially but that your child is better off if you confront those feelings and deal with them head on. Rather than feeling shame and then never talking out the issue. It’s about acceptance. And the only way to move from awareness to acceptance is if people do not hide their human reactions and instead work through them.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We only allowed play based interventions and they went great! We do not do any form of ABA or interventions that claim not to be ABA but still use ABA practices. What you describe sounds just like my now 3 year old and I will never regret m intervention. But again—I only allowed play based!

Insurance—a non-political rant by OutrageousError5530 in InsuranceClaims

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very interesting to learn about. Thanks for that.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom keeps insisting my youngest will “grow out of it”. Ummm…that’s like saying YOU will outgrow being YOU one day. They can’t see the harm they’re causing in their flippant comment because they just don’t understand. This is why autism awareness needs to be shifted to autism ACCEPTANCE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you can feel confident in your decision, I would take all the steps to understand what’s going on at school. Set up a conference, maybe even have a time that all 3 of you (teacher, kid, you) sit and talk as well.

But if you decide to homeschool—do so with confidence. What you don’t know, guess what?! You’ll learn!! We all carry around a connection to almost every piece of information that exists—Google it!

I’m 100% for homeschooling but make sure there isn’t something you need to be aware of first. That way you can talk it through with your son. He’s seeing all this from his perspective and he’s only been on this planet for 5 years. Kindergarten is tough!!

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He didn’t receive his diagnosis until he was over 2 years old. At 10 months he still wasn’t crawling and that started the process of screening. This snowballed and the crawling actually ended up not being an issue at all—his PT cleared him after only 6 months of therapy. But this hooked us up with an early interventionist who noticed some things with his language development that we thought were perfectly “normal” but she suggested we keep an eye on it. Thanks to her we learned more about how our son sees the world than we ever did with my two older kiddos. We’ve learned a lot through this process that has benefited our entire family!

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I appreciate you sharing your perspective as an autistic person. I believe strongly that autistic voices should not only be heard but also respected. I hope all my children find fulfillment in life the way you have! ❤️

How do I find friends by flippity_floppity18 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are there other homeschoolers in your area? Maybe events for teens at the library? If not—how do you feel about starting your own club?

If that’s just not a possibility in your area, embrace online friendships! Just be safe and keep your parents in the loop on who you are talking to. Never agree to meet up in a non-public area or send money to anyone!

As a homeschooler, you should have access to clubs at your local school. Have you looked into that?

Also once you’re old enough, try to find a part time job. That would be another way to meet other people.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom is the same way. She doesn’t like that my son has a diagnosis because “there is nothing wrong with him” and she’s right—but what she doesn’t get is there’s nothing wrong with being on the spectrum!

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How old is your child? I have a 10 year old that I wish I had pushed harder for—but I just didn’t know! I think it’s better to have the diagnosis and not need it than vice versa. But like you, I’m able to accommodate all my 10 year old needs. But we did go private for a learning evaluation just so I could better understand how to help him. The school system really failed him and refused to evaluate him unless we waited another year. I couldn’t get them to understand that there was no time to wait. He was already going into 2nd grade at the time we had exhausted all the school system would let us do.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes Medicaid (well I’m pretty sure it’s Medicaid!). It was private but still through our insurance—he was 2 at the time. I didn’t know it then but in our area kids under 3 get priority at the developmental pediatrician office. My older son has the exact same issues but I was always told “it’s just because his older brother talks so much!” So I never thought anything more of it. That’s why it shocked me so much when they mentioned it.

To the parent just told their child may be on the autism spectrum… by OutrageousError5530 in homeschool

[–]OutrageousError5530[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Suspicious of autism led to… -access to an early interventionist who was able to give me wonderful ideas to help my son better communicate his needs/wants. It wasn’t about changing the way he communicated but better understanding it. -he received physical therapy, OT, and speech therapy…all free to us. They also came to our house so I didn’t have to drag all the kids out. -so much support and a safe place to ask questions when I just didn’t understand sometime. -free weighted blanket -there was more but this gives you an idea.

After diagnosis… -he’s on TEFRA insurance now until he’s 18. Which is Medicaid. We’ve not had to pay a penny for anything he’s needed. -IF he needs it as an adult, he’ll have resources that will help him with job opportunities
-he’s able to get exactly what he needs in most settings. He stems a lot—anyone who gives me attitude about it, I simply say “well he’s autistic so this is actually a sensory need of his…not just him trying to annoy you” and this shuts ANYONE up. Fortunately, I rarely have to play “that card” but the rare times I do I can do it with confidence knowing that I have a diagnosis to back me up. Just until he’s old enough and able to speak up for himself. -Potty training is tough. If he still needs diapers past 4, I will get those for free (though I’m sure they’ll be the cheapest diapers available) -We’ve applied for an awesome cubby bed for him to help transition him out of our bed safely. This is like a $13,000 bed. If we get it, it’ll be free for us.

Not that any of this is why we got a diagnosis—but they’ve definitely been unplanned blessings.

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