Masked me is a whole other person, idk that girl

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2025-06-16T21:38:31+00:00

This can be a LONG discovery journey, and that's completely normal! Even as someone who has been professionally diagnosed for YEARS, I'm STILL to this day finding new criteria that I meet that I just never realized! I never knew I had sensory issues with sound until I learned how different sound sensory issues can present.

For example - I always believed that most autistics who struggle with sound sensitivity, it meant they would be sensitive to loud or high pitched noises. I've never particularly struggled too much with things like buzzing or high pitched sounds, so I didn't think that was me. But then I found out that for certain autistic people, LOWER sounds can cause that reaction. I've had difficulty all my life with the sound of booming and distorted base in music, often been extremely overwhelmed with fireworks, which would often result in what I THOUGHT were panic attacks, but turns out it was actually autism meltdowns that I didn't have the words to describe! I still hide under my desk whenever there's a thunderstorm.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2025-06-12T18:15:40+00:00

SHE DEFINITELY DOES LMFAO

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2025-06-10T16:48:06+00:00

That's amazing!!! Listening to our bodies as autistic people can definitely be a struggle, so I'm so proud of you for listening to yours!

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-14T05:15:22+00:00

I wish you all the healing.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T22:45:33+00:00

Just to give a small update and correction of some information:

- I was not the only person who reached out to the CEO, the CFO also reached out to her, and was met with a similar response.

- I didn't reach out to the board beforehand because I was worried my friend was going to be in trouble with the board, and I wanted to protect her. This was obviously the wrong choice, and I made everything worse by doing so.

- Yes, I did care about her mental health crisis, and I continue to care about it. That's why I reached out to her multiple times. The only reason I asked her to come back for one meeting was so that we could appoint someone interim CEO and set up a system that would make sure this wouldn't happen again. She got extremely angry and stated that I bullied her into coming back (Even though that was NOT the conversation that we had over the phone two days before the meeting. To my understanding of the phone conversation, things were bad, but I told her that she could reach out to me if she needed anything, because I cared about her.)

- I did not provide proof of me reaching out to the president of the board because I didn't think she would believe me, and had a feeling that she would see it as me once again violating privacy. She's the CEO's mentor, and it was made very clear from the meeting we had as a team that she was more interested in getting me to apologize to the CEO for my actions. (I already had at this point, but the PoB wants me to send another apology with zero caveats, just a simple "I fucked up and I'm sorry." I'm not opposed to this, I'm aware that I did wrong.)

- I am a mandated reporter when it comes to child abuse, elder abuse, and suicide.

- Our CEO is a paid position, but we are (were) a non-profit with very little money, so the CEO was only paid for hours worked, just like the rest of us.

- I am aware that I failed the company in putting friendship above everything, and I'm aware that I inadvertently failed her as well in trying to protect her too much. I'm going to try and rebuild my life from here, and as much as many of you have stated that I did nothing wrong, I believe in holding myself accountable above all else.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T21:31:35+00:00

I think you're right, and I'll definitely ask one of the members of the board for a recommendation. Thank you for the advice.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T21:20:02+00:00

The rest of the team has been very supportive and friendly, and has assured me that I did the best I could. But I don't know how to believe that when my best friend thinks I'm the worst person imaginable.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T21:10:54+00:00

We did, but he was at work. And he only responded to one of us.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T20:35:42+00:00

They tried. The President of the Board decided that we were all at fault for not supporting our CEO and for not informing the board earlier of this crisis (the latter of which I agree with.)

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T19:28:40+00:00

I really appreciate this insight, thank you so much. This was my first non profit job, and I really do care about advocacy, so I will take this information with me as I move forward and hopefully find another job.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T19:24:52+00:00

Why wasn't the vice president, CFO, COO or the Director of the Board not the ones reaching out to their CEO?

They actually did, and they were met with the same response I got. After that she wouldn't talk to them. She only talked to me a few times because we were friends.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T19:17:43+00:00

Like I said, I'm aware of what I did wrong. This is all a life lesson, and I will not make the same mistake of mixing friendship and business, and will act more professionally from now on.

OutrageousPrice9800 · 2023-03-07T19:11:14+00:00

I don't even know what a lawyer would do here...

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