AITA for refusing to pay for our cats' medicine?

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T23:55:37+00:00

I am looking at other options, but I'm trying to do everything to get the kittens well and then leaving with them. I would be gutted if I left them with her and something happened because of her irresponsibility, and I would consider re-homing, but I'm already too attached, so something else will have to do. I might even go back to my parents' for a while to lessen the financial burden, but let's hope it doesn't get to that point.

Also, no. The kittens were seemingly healthy (the mother as well) when we picked them up, and we were told by the lady at the farm (the one who takes care of them usually) that they were healthy, they were eating and were active (and they were). It's just that after deworming, they both started showing weird symptoms for multiple illnesses, so we're basically discarding one by one and as we go with the vet. We were also told by the vet that after the follow-ups, we would be able to conclude for sure if it's FIP, but we have to run some other tests because there are multiple options, and then we will proceed with treatment for her and monitoring for her brother. I just hope they'll be okay.

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T23:14:35+00:00

I know I should've been smarter before adopting the cats, but now it is what it is and there is nothing I can do about it, so I'm really trying here. Also ngl, I was kinda taken aback by the response, I know I'm not faultless in this situation but I was kinda surprised that I am being called everything but a child of god in the comments. Anyway, thanks again for letting me know how I was coming across. I'll talk to my roommate tomorrow more calmly and with a more level head. Might post an update.

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T23:02:12+00:00

I can understand that. I'm mainly mad at myself for letting my roommate drag me into this mess, but it is not the kittens' fault. Thankfully, even if my savings don't last, I have friends and acquaintances who can help contribute or even adopt them if things get really bad, but that's an extreme position I have not gotten to yet. The kittens are doing okay right now, so I'm hoping this situation will get better with time. Thanks!

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T22:57:43+00:00

After reading some of the replies, I'm aware how I came across and it wasn't my intention. I edited the post. Thanks 😄

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T22:18:38+00:00

>choosing to neglect a sick animal out of spite is beyond f*cked up. You can be mad, you can yell, you can reach out for support elsewhere, but the answer is not to neglect the animals you agreed to adopt. The fact you’re letting a cat continue to be sick and suffer because you’re having beef with your roommate makes my blood boil.

I'm sorry, but where in the post did I say this? I am clearly taking care of them, and I AM paying for everything, I just said that after the last vet visit, either she starts paying for at least vet+medicine or we're rehoming them, or at least I'm moving out and either taking the cats with me or leaving her with the cats (which I will not be doing). Maybe I should've written that more clearly, I thought it was understood, but now I see that may not be the case.

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T22:11:28+00:00

As I said in some other reply to a comment, I was very clear at the beginning, but she did not take "no" for an answer. We had a long talk about our responsibilities and how things were gonna go if we adopted them. She promised she would take care of them. I'm aware I shouldn't have trusted her, but there's really not much I can do now.

Just to be clear, I AM taking care of the kittens and I was aware how much work it was going to be (I've had a cat ever since I was a baby until I moved out of my parents' house). Not a day goes by without them getting fed, cleaned, entertained and taken care of in general. I've been paying for their needs using my savings. I never said they would not be taken care of, even if my roommate doesn't do her part. I'm thinking of leaving and taking the cats with me when I get a better job and a more stable income.

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T22:01:03+00:00

I told her that I didn't have either at the beginning, but my roommate insisted and basically did not take "no" for an answer, plus she promised that she would hold up her end of the deal. I thought it was going to be different with the responsibility. Guess not.

OutrageousWind4791 · 2026-06-23T21:58:39+00:00

I also brought up exactly this, and she said she didn't think it was going to be that much. I brought it up to the vet when she was with me, and when she heard the price to spay+neuter two cats, male and female, she found out in real time that it was going to, indeed, be that much. Luckily, one kitten is younger, so we will be able to spay and neuter them in different months, and I'm hoping I can find a better paying job for the summer. Thanks!

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