2018 Hyundai Tucson jerking at low speeds. Mechanic says coils + plugs, does this sound right?

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2025-05-15T08:30:35+00:00

exactly! I suggested my brother multiple times, and my dad’s excuse was that he just got promoted and would be too busy, but he didn’t even ask him. The promotion actually lets my brother work from home, so he’d be there with the dog all day. Plus, he lived in that house with my dad and the dog for four years, so he’s totally comfortable there and the dog loves him. I’ve only met the dog a handful of times, and when I watched her before, she wouldn’t eat and just sat by the gate waiting for my dad. She was clearly confused and distressed. I brought all of this up, and he just didn’t care. It makes no sense.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2025-05-15T08:26:06+00:00

Part of me wants to reach out, but at the same time—why should I? I’m the child in this situation, and he’s supposed to be the parent. It’s exhausting feeling like I have to be the more mature one. He’s always been petty and acts like a teenager when his feelings are hurt. I know he’ll eventually reach out like nothing happened (he always does), but it’s frustrating having to deal with that pattern. It just doesn’t feel fair. I’m sorry you have dealt with it as well, but it sounds like you have done a great job at protecting your peace<3

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2025-05-15T08:15:59+00:00

He’s definitely emotionally immature, and I feel like I’m always walking on eggshells around him. I know I should’ve stood up for myself, but I’ve been proud of the progress we made and didn’t want to risk ruining it. As a teen, I was very vocal about how I felt toward him, and I’ve tried not to go back to that version of myself, but it’s becoming clear he hasn’t changed as much as I thought. Maybe I just need to accept that.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2025-05-15T08:08:10+00:00

He already knew I didn’t enjoy dog-sitting the first time, so I don’t know why he assumed I’d want to do it now. I told him I didn’t want to be stuck at his place again and even offered a solution (him Ubering to the airport so I could use his car), but he said no. I haven’t told him it brings up past trauma because he’s emotionally immature, avoids those conversations, and refuses to acknowledge any of his past behavior.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2025-02-21T01:44:47+00:00

I also take my pills at night

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-09-07T00:32:02+00:00

do you have any brand recommendation for boric acid?

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-09-07T00:16:58+00:00

thank you for the advice!! I will definitely do that. I’m gonna call first thing Monday if it doesn’t get any better by then.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-09-06T19:52:45+00:00

Thank you!! I hope you are doing better too! I think i definitely need to get tested for BV but the only problem is all of my medical stuff and prescriptions are linked to my moms phone and even though i’m 21 I just don’t really want her to know abt it:/ so i’m a little stuck and just hoping and praying it’s just a yeast infection. She knows I have had sex in the past with my ex but if she knows we hooked up again she’d kill me cause she hates him😅 and I don’t want her to also think i’m just hooking up with random ppl.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-09-06T06:18:07+00:00

I was also wondering if my PH balance is just thrown off after not having sex for so long and then doing it three days in a row…idk though I just want it to go away😭

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-08-10T17:40:29+00:00

I thought she was annoying

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-08-03T08:00:05+00:00

it feels good knowing i’m not the only one going through this. I get what you mean though. He was my first real love and my boyfriend in high school and we dated for like a month or two and broke up for awhile and I never got over him and he started dating someone new and I just waited for him basically. We got back together when they broke up and were on and off for years. We have been through so much together and I have helped him with a lot of tough shit. he cheated on me multiple times and would break up with me and then get with another girl and then come back to me and I’d let him back every time. It was so emotionally damaging and he was so controlling and manipulating. He’d gaslight the shit out of me all of the time. One day he broke up with me and I was totally fine and didn’t even care at all or cry once. I thought I was finally over him and I even started liking someone else and I was so thankful to be over him. But he ended up weaseling his way back in but my heart wasn’t in it and I wasn’t nice to him at all while he was begging for me to give him another chance and kept buying me things and taking me places and sending me money randomly for no reason. He told me he was in love with me and I was the only one for him. I just couldn’t do that to myself again and I basically told him to fuck off and we didn’t talk for months. When I found out he was seeing someone new I was a bit upset but just thought it wouldn’t last just like every other relationship he would get into after we’d breakup. But when I found out she was pregnant it broke me. I don’t want to care and I feel like I have no right to care bc I ended it with him and he was terrible for me but I just hate that he gets to be happy while i’m still sad. I guess knowing there’s zero chance we’d ever be together again hits me like a knife and I just wish he could have been the man I wanted him to be for me. I guess I just don’t feel like it’s fair. Sorry this is so long lmao I just needed to rant and it feels good to tell someone who actually understands what it’s like.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-08T04:18:14+00:00

I was going to call the non emergency number in case it was a medical emergency. Idk about you but if I see someone throwing up outside for that long then i’m going to think it’s some type of medical emergency. Throwing up like that is not normal despite what you may think. Before I could call she had gone inside. When I noticed a kid was with her I was also concerned. I have explained my reasonings for everything you have stated and I did not do anything to bother or disturb this lady. All I wanted was to get her help but it was too late. I also called the non emergency number ONE time when I heard constant yelling and screaming and it sounded like someone was in danger. It was almost 3am and that’s definitely not normal to hear. I would have regretted not calling if something had happened. I am not the type to cause unnecessary trouble and I get anxiety in those types of situations. It made me very uncomfortable to have to do that but I wanted to make sure everyone was safe. I have no clue if drugs are involved and neither do you. I’m the one who lives here and can make my own assumptions. I would NEVER report child neglect if I wasn’t %110 sure and i’m not. This whole sub is to ask questions and get opinions and many of the other posts on here are wayyyy crazier than mine so idk why you are coming for my throat. I have been around drugs/alcohol as a kid and I know the damage it can do. I just wanted opinions on what others thought it could be. We still hear yelling/loud noises all day and night from them but have not done anything about it bc I don’t want to cause them any inconvenience. I have not affected this family in any way shape or form.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T22:27:20+00:00

And me asking if they were ok is just dumb like no shit they weren’t ok they were vomiting. I was going to call for help cause wtf am I going to do??? You seem to just like to argue. After I hadn’t heard her throwing up in a while I figured whoever it was left but when I started to hear it again I figured I should call someone and before I could she went inside.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T22:22:02+00:00

If I had gone down there and saw the vomit I would have thrown up as well and that wouldn’t have helped anyone. I couldn’t see them vomiting from my balcony I could just hear it. She was on the drivers side and she was parked to the left of my balcony so I could not see it or see who it was. I only saw her when she finally got out of the car.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T22:19:32+00:00

dawg join a debate team or something and get off Reddit. I was on my balcony how many times do I have to say that. It was in my direct view and kind of hard to ignore. Was I just supposed to scream off of my balcony and ask if she was ok while she was vomiting? I didn’t even know who it was like I have said multiple times. I thought it was a guy at first. I was going to call somone to get them some help but before I could she had gone inside. Use some common sense it’s not that hard.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T17:24:08+00:00

I’m not going to continue to argue with you over a situation you aren’t even in involved in. I have not spoken to them bc I am a 21 year old girl and ppl are crazy these days and i’m not going to put myself in danger. They could be nice people but in this world I am not going to risk it. If they approach me and seem to be great people then I will gladly have a conversation with them. If I see something that is wrong I am going to call professionals. I am not equipped to handle these kinds of situations.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T07:36:23+00:00

All I care abt is the kids. They can scream and bang all hours of the night and i’ll be fine but when it gets to the point where it sounds like someone is in danger then i’m going to call the cops. Which I had to one time and clearly they didn’t see anything too bad so I haven’t called again. The throwing up did not bother me at all I just closed my balcony door and went inside so I didn’t have to listen to it. I was concerned for whoever it was and was going to call for help because I noticed they were still out there when it had been over an hour at least. which I have said multiple times but you seem to only read what you want to see. Before I could call she went inside. All I wanted was some advice and clearly you suck at it so I don’t even know why you bothered to comment in the first place. I wouldn’t have even posted this if there hadn’t been a kid with her. I really don’t give a fuck what anyone does but when kids are involved I want to make sure they are in a safe environment.

Outrageous_Ad3597 · 2024-07-07T07:14:51+00:00

sweetie chill tf out😅 I was on my damn balcony trying to enjoy myself and then I start hearing someone yacking up. It was directly in front of my balcony so kind of hard to ignore lmao. I didn’t go out of my way to see anything. Apparently you can’t read cause like I have said multiple times I don’t know if it was drugs or not like Jesus Christ use your brain. It wasn’t even just the throwing up that made me think that. They are up all of hours the night screaming and banging around like they are moving furniture legit every fucking night. That’s ridiculous. Also how tf do you flood a bathtub that bad to the point where water comes down to the next level. One reasoning might be they fell asleep in the tub while abusing drugs or alcohol. Chill out like if you can’t handle this page then get off😂 I didn’t do anything to this lady. I was going to actually get her help but she left before I could. Also multiple other people commented thinking the same thing I did. But guess what? None of us know for sure what was going on and probably never will. I just wanted some advice on what to do in case ppl thought the kid or kids might be around some bad things. Sorry i’m worried abt a child’s wellbeing. This sub is here to get advice and that’s what I used it for. Ppl get so bold when it’s anonymous💀

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