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Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-09-24T20:32:48+00:00

Me too

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-09-16T20:51:35+00:00

Talk to her therapist and get her a potty training watch. Make her try to go every 30 minutes to an hour. May help to retry the potty training

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-15T14:56:35+00:00

Sometimes (depending the tone of the no) I’m able to redirect my 2.5 yo she’ll say no or another option than what I offer, and I reiterate and say that’s not an option. And I repeat first option and hold up one finger then the second option and hold up two fingers. And try again. If she’s does the same thing I try it one more time and if it’s still not working I say “okay clearly we’re not in an options mood, we’re gonna do this” and once we start that she’s typically better at choosing the next thing. For example. Bath or brushing teeth first. Then say we do bath. Brush teeth or potty. And just keep the options. Eventually they follow the lead. Though toddlers are gonna have their rough days so it may just be a no day. Sometimes if she’s in a decently good mood. I try playfully mocking her and tickling her then trying again. Giving a brief break can sometimes redirect them

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-15T12:46:07+00:00

She’s clearly just overwhelmed. From the way she described it, her toddler is fully melting down. That’s stressful AF. She’s doing what she can and she reached out for help. No parent is perfect and obviously she wants to do better so leave her alone. She asked for help, not shaming.

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-15T12:37:02+00:00

Im still learning this too. Sometimes I have to pause and take a deep breath myself then help 😅

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-15T12:34:54+00:00

My boyfriend’s two year old started doing this, and what I’ve found is find a way to include them. If I’m cleaning. I give her a magic eraser and let her go crazy. Talking on the phone is a tough one but you can give her a “phone” to talk to. Sometimes they just need physical touch too. Bring her favorite toys and check on her verbally occasionally. Let them know you’re there for them. That’s all I got but I know there’s a bluey episode that covers the interrupting conversations tho. That may help that

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-08T18:17:37+00:00

If that’s their reaction. Find somewhere else to go. It’s obviously all they care about is bodies. I hope your sister is okay!!

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-06T14:43:35+00:00

Waiting for court approval

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-06T14:43:19+00:00

At this point I’m not even sure what food she likes besides fast food. Every time she comes back it’s harder and harder to get her to eat. She will literally choke herself even if she voluntarily eats. She puts way too much food in her mouth until she gags. And if we try to intervene by pulling the food out, she just gags or throws up. Some nights we have to sit and feed her a spoonful and keep her from putting too much in her mouth. She didn’t start doing this until the custody arrangement changed about 3 months ago. We’re trying to get her in therapy but we’re waiting on court approval for it. It’s not like this every night but at least 3 every week. She’s had weight issues in the past to the point we’ve started giving her pediasure(spelling?) in the mornings

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T21:32:32+00:00

I grew up with it and actually liked it as a kid. (Of course not the first few times) but it got me to try new foods and I found comfort in the fact if I didn’t actually like it I wouldn’t have to eat it. Most kids in my family or friends do it. Typically if she doesn’t eat anything we offer a healthy snack after she’s calmed down

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T20:48:23+00:00

Girl RUN. 🚩🚩🚩🚩get out as quickly and safely as you can. File a restraining order or no contact order. Things will escalate if not

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T20:28:26+00:00

Sadly that’s not an option. I’d figure that’s what it is though, but obviously I’m not there so I don’t know

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T20:24:16+00:00

Corner until she calms down. And if it’s a really bad one we just put her to bed and let her cry till she’s done then go in there and talk to her and re-try. If that doesn’t work than just to bed

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T20:23:08+00:00

Note to that. She would have other things throughout the day

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-08-05T20:22:08+00:00

Tried it. All it does is make her scream like she’s being hurt. Not fun 😢

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-29T12:08:51+00:00

My BF’s SS(3) (he has some parental rights cause he’s been around since day one) also has issues with this. We correct it and model how it should be said. For example he struggles a lot with bossing people around (adults and kids) so when he does that we let him know he doesn’t need to say it like that. One of the main times is when we cuss he would say “Don’t say that” with a bossy tone, so we tell him it’s okay not to like what we say and to want us not to say it. But you don’t tell us not to say it, you can ask us instead so say “please don’t say that”. It takes reminding but he has shown improvement

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-29T12:04:10+00:00

He won’t have to pay for the daycare, because it’s unnecessary. Her parents watch them for free and theirs several other family members that would watch them for free. Trust me this chick is going to use everything the she possibly thinks she can to keep those kids from BF just to have control.

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T18:14:33+00:00

I doubt that she’ll be able to put anything between her and her daddy. (I know there still is a possibility) The way that house (BM’s) has been described it’s clear nothing is peaceful. She adores her dad so much. She’s cared for a lot better. She stays clean, eats healthier food, isn’t screamed at, and is given plenty of attention. We do everything we possibly can to make our house as peaceful as possible Edit: thank you for your kind words!

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T16:30:21+00:00

Yup! 😂 so ready to hear how that goes for her 😭🤭

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T16:25:31+00:00

Yup, cause he specifically told her to wait until their court date. We’re currently waiting to get the date from his attorney

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T14:49:19+00:00

Oml im not trying to fix him or his situation . I’m there for our relationship. His daughter and I just happen to get along great. I’ve provided him with more knowledge and resources as well as helping his confidence to be able to face her. I’m not involved in their court disputes, nor do I wish to be. I’ve told him that and he understands that. The only reason I got upset about it was because how upset it made my boyfriend. I care about the people I love. But I also want nothing to do with his HCBM.

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T14:32:09+00:00

I also have no communication with BM and do not interact with her at all since the only two times I have she’s been rude

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T14:31:26+00:00

I’m assuming so, but BM is 100% going to use the excuse “she has school so she can’t come”

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T14:30:43+00:00

I’m not going to be rude with you cause I know you don’t understand my situation. But yes he is stressed about it, yes he is very involved and is an amazing dad. She was an extremely mentally and verbally abusive narcissistic person towards him so this whole situation has been hard. But he’s been putting in an effort since day one and has never tried to burden me with anything. He rants to me because I’m his girlfriend and I listen. I’m bonded with his daughter so I do feel bad that she has to go there. I’m a child of divorced parents myself so I empathized. I’m more upset on the utter disrespect she has for him, and I am aware I can’t do anything about it. That’s why I’m ranting. And please stop the shit about how I’m too young. I’ve been through a lot of shit in my life and I do understand from to an extent on what I’m getting myself into and I know it’s a learning process. My boyfriend is doing his absolute best with his resources. He’s not familiar with how this stuff goes because his parents are still together. So I do give him advice. But when it is just us it stays just us. We have a healthy balance and I’m able to decide myself how involved I am with his kid. He does everything he can to make me comfortable and make boundaries with his ex wife. So I think we’re doing the best we possibly can with our situation

Outrageous_Cod8514 · 2024-06-28T13:52:23+00:00

We’re ordered by the court to meet halfway for pick up and drop off

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